Henry Arthur Helms Jr.

Henry Arthur Helms, Jr., a devoted husband, father, grandfather, educator, and man of deep faith, passed away peacefully on Good Friday at Transitions LifeCare Hospice Home in Raleigh, leaving behind a legacy of kindness, humility, and selfless love.

Born on August 10, 1937, in Greensboro, North Carolina, Henry was the son of Henry Arthur Helms, Sr. and Zelian Hunter Helms. From an early age, he embodied a gentle spirit and a genuine care for others—qualities that would define his life and the way he touched everyone around him.

Henry attended Wake Forest University, where he graduated in 1959. During his time at Wake Forest, he formed a lifelong friendship with his roommate, Bob Alphin, and distinguished himself as a member of the tennis team, earning a varsity letter. His love of tennis and sports continued throughout his life, bringing him both joy and a place to find genuine connection with others.

Henry shared more than 60 years of marriage with his beloved wife, Donnie Rebecca Hicks Helms. Their relationship was a model of enduring love, partnership, and devotion to each other. Henry was a proud and loving father to his son, Howard Brent Helms, and his daughter, Elizabeth Helms Altherr.

A man who treasured family and fellowship, Henry found great joy in the simple blessings of life, including Donnie’s home-cooked meals, for which he was always grateful, and cherished time spent with family and loved ones. Henry consistently put others before himself in everything he did, offering quiet strength, generosity, and compassion to all who knew him.

Henry dedicated his professional life to education, a calling that reflected his passion for helping others grow and succeed, and allowing him to meet others where and when they needed him most. He began his teaching career at Leroy Martin Junior High School, where he met his mentor, George Khady, and formed a lasting friendship. He went on to serve as the Dean of Boys at Hugh Morrison High School, and then later followed George Khady to help open Enloe High School, where he served as assistant principal.

Following his years of service in the public schools, Henry went to work with the North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, contributing to advancing the needs of schools and students across the state. After his formal retirement in 1991, Henry helped formulate the North Carolina Business Committee for Education, which was dedicated to furthering the involvement of businesses in education throughout North Carolina. In recognition of his contributions to the state in the field of education, Henry was awarded the Order of the Long Leaf Pine by then-Governor Easley.

Above all, Henry was a man of unwavering faith. He was deeply involved in his church community, most recently at Hayes Barton Baptist Church. Over the years Henry enjoyed teaching Sunday school and served on multiple church committees. However, the role that brought him the most joy and fulfillment was serving as Sunday School director, a role previously held by his own father, warmly welcoming visitors and new members and helping to guide them in their spiritual journeys.

Henry was compassionate in everything he did, showing grace and appreciation for the simple things in life even in his final days. His gentle spirit deeply touched everyone he met, including the hospital staff that provided for him, and his presence brought comfort and encouragement to countless people. His life was, and forever will be, a testament to the power of kindness, faith, and putting others first. He will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him.

Henry is survived by his loving wife, Donnie Rebecca Hicks Helms; his son, Howard Brent Helms (Linda Lovely Helms); his daughter, Elizabeth Helms Altherr (Dr. Edward R. Altherr); and his grandson, Benjamin Edward Altherr, who affectionately knew him as “G-Daddy.” He is also survived by his adoring sister-in-law, Nancy Hicks Kelley, as well as his nephew, Dr. James Edward Kelley, II, and niece, Dr. Whitney Kelley Swann, and all of their respective children. Henry will forever be remembered for his gentle nature, steadfast faith, and the profound love he shared with his family and community.

A memorial service to celebrate Henry’s life will be held at Hayes Barton Baptist Church in Raleigh, North Carolina on Saturday, April 18, 2026, at 11:00 a.m.

In lieu of flowers, and in memory of Henry’s lifelong commitment to education, the family requests that contributions be made to the Hayes Barton Baptist Church Scholarship Fund.

Brown-Wynne, 300 Saint Mary's Street, Raleigh, NC, is serving the Helms family.