Barbara DeMars Emmert

Barbara DeMars Emmert, a devoted educator, loving mother, doting grandmother, and karaoke enthusiast, passed away peacefully on October 23, 2024, at the age of 78. Born May 26, 1946, in Chattanooga, Tennessee, Barbara was the second daughter of Auline and James “Jim” DeMars. She grew up with her older sister, Norma, and younger brother, James “Chip” DeMars, in a family filled with love, faith, and an enduring commitment to serving others.

On September 18, 1965, Barbara married the love of her life, John James “Jack” Emmert, and they embarked on a, nearly, 60-year partnership that was equal parts romance, humor, and hard work. Together, they raised four children—John, Scott, Katherine, and Kevin—while balancing busy careers, volunteer commitments, and countless family adventures.

Barbara was a proud graduate of Tyner High School, where her determination and curiosity set her apart. She went on to earn her undergraduate degree in education from the University of Tennessee, Chattanooga, and a master’s from Middle Tennessee State University. Her passion for education shaped not just her career but her entire life.

Barbara dedicated her professional life to the children of Hamilton County, earning numerous accolades for her work as a teacher. While she excelled in teaching gifted students, her true passion lay in supporting those with special needs. She was instrumental in expanding Scenic Land School by adding a high school, a milestone that provided local students with learning disabilities an education option through graduation. Barbara played a key role in raising the funds needed to build the necessary infrastructure for this expansion, addressing a critical gap in the community. This achievement was the highlight of her professional career and a testament to her unwavering commitment to her students. Renowned for her “headmaster aura,” she had a remarkable ability to command respect while exuding love and care. Her dedication extended beyond the classroom—she often stayed late tutoring students or crafting the perfect lesson plan. Even in retirement, she remained committed to education, continuing to tutor and substitute teach because teaching was more than her profession—it was her calling.

Barbara’s life was defined by her mission to help children. Whether it was her students, her own kids, or her grandchildren, she had a special ability to connect with young people, earning their respect with compassion, patience, and a firm but loving demeanor. She made time for her kids’ many activities, cheering loudly at cross country meets, basketball and soccer games, and ballet recitals.

Her home was a hub of activity, especially on weekends when her kids’ friends often stayed over. Saturday mornings meant chores, and guests quickly learned they were honorary Emmerts—vacuuming, dusting, and folding laundry alongside the family.

When her granddaughter Jade was born during the COVID-19 pandemic, Barbara proved that not even a global lockdown could keep her from meeting her newest grandbaby. Despite every cautionary tale on the news, they booked plane tickets, packed their masks and sanitizer, and showed up unannounced in California. The family was stunned—but not entirely surprised—because when Barbara wanted to be somewhere, she made it happen. Jack, as always, went along for the ride, happy to play the role of co conspirator. Their surprise visit turned what could have been a lonely time into a moment of joy, forever cementing Barbara as the family’s lovable rule-breaker.

Barbara balanced her professional and family life with a commitment to her community. She served as homeroom mom, PTO president, and youth group leader at St. John United Methodist Church, where she also sang in the choir. Her singing talent carried over into retirement, where she became a karaoke star at Belmont Village, charming audiences with her enthusiasm and zest for life. She was also an active member of the Chattanooga Ruritan Club, La Jolla Garden Club, La Jolla Newcomers Club (as well as many others), always ready to lend a helping hand in any city!

Family adventures were a highlight of Barbara’s life. She and Jack organized family ski trips to Vermont, camping trips, and even hosted exchange students from France and Germany. She was the steady presence during chaotic moments, like the West Virginia ski trip where she juggled giving Kevin ice baths for a fever and caring for daredevil John after he knocked out a tooth.

Barbara’s life was a masterclass in making the best out of any situation. Her resourcefulness was legendary, particularly on the night before her son John’s wedding, when an unexpected ice storm shut down Chattanooga. Undeterred, Barbara sprang into action, pulling together all the pieces needed for the wedding to go on. She secured flowers, a venue, and even a train car and restaurant at the Chattanooga Choo-Choo, creating an intimate celebration for 50 people that no one would ever forget.

Barbara loved the holidays, especially Easter at her parent’s house, where she created elaborate baskets and organized scavenger hunts. She also made family dinners memorable with her signature white beans, cornbread, and fried okra. Christmas trips to New York City with Katherine were a cherished tradition, complete with limo rides to see The Nutcracker and late-night dinners.

When her grandchildren arrived, Barbara’s joy reached new heights. Before they were even born, she curated a collection of baby clothes, and once they arrived, she threw herself into their lives with gusto. She babysat, celebrated their activities, and tutored them with the same dedication she gave her students. When her daughter, Katherine, had triplets, Barbara and Jack moved to La Jolla, CA to help and assist, from changing thousands of diapers to even meeting her son-in-law in the stairwell at 10pm to transport one baby to another (allowing ample time to get the other babies to sleep). Needless to say, she was always providing invaluable support no matter what time, day or night. Her grandchildren adored her, and even as her ability to communicate diminished, her face lit up whenever they were around.

Barbara and Jack enjoyed their retirement years with cruises to Mexico and the Caribbean (with their loyal 6 couples of childhood friends), road trips up the California coast, and countless other adventures together. They were truly a team, supporting each other in everything from raising kids to volunteering to setting up their children’s homes—Barbara always had a vision, and Jack was happy to oblige.

Barbara had the biggest heart and the sharpest wit. If she saw someone in need, she acted, whether it meant giving furniture, flowers, or money—or volunteering Jack to help! Her faith and love of God guided her life, and she was always ready to share her blessings with others.

Barbara is preceded in death by her beloved husband John James, “Jack” and her sister Norma. She is survived by her brother, James “Chip” DeMars, and her children: John (Sherri) Emmert, with grandchildren Thorne and Thyssen; Scott (Angie) Emmert, with grandchildren Isobel and Max; Katherine (Chris) Kozo, with grandchildren Auline, Jackson, and Lucas; and Kevin (Tina) Emmert, with grandchildren Jade and Jolene. She also leaves behind countless friends and extended family who were touched by her love and generosity.

We imagine Barbara and Jack are now reunited in Heaven, walking hand in hand—when Jack isn’t busy rearranging heavenly furniture to fit Barbara’s vision.

In lieu of flowers, donations to the Alzheimer’s Association are appreciated (act.alz.org).