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From Woosung and Sergio.  We presented this eulogy during Pat's memorial service.   

Woosung and I (Sergio) spoke together at the memorial service, because Pat made us a team.  We are Team Pat.  At times, she would refer to me as Woosung and Woosung as Sergio.  Maybe because we look alike

Many of you were also part of her team.  She was our endearing leader.  I use the word endearing after one of her peers referred to her as The Endearing Leader.  

Yet she was so much more.  Yes, she was an endearing leader, a confidante and a friend, but the word seems so inadequate to describe what Pat really meant to us.  In her passing, she took with her a big chunk of our hearts and soul.  But, what remains now in our hearts and soul are so much more than if we didn't know Pat at all.

Pat worked for the State of California for50 years.  Yes, that calculates to 600 monthsexactly.  We did the math.  When she was asked if that was her goalshe responded with Noit simply turned out that way.  I cannot imagine how many audit reports she signednot to mention all of the other things that required her signatureand what an amazing signature.  Everyone knows her signature.  Pat's signature was representative of her elegance and sophistication.  Truly unforgettable.

I (Sergio) had the honor and privilege of having Pat as my direct supervisor for 12 years and I worked with her for 22 years.  Many of you worked with her much longer and you understand that she gave herself to the job and the people around her.  She told us that she enjoyed her work, and mostly, the people she worked with.  All this and she kept a Mental Jurisdiction over the auditees.

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Pat was articulate, extremely intelligent, analytical yet artistic, logical yet intuitive.  She was an amazing listener and communicator.  She had a wonderful sense of humor.  She had class and taste.  She had all the tools to succeed in anything yet she never weaponized her abilities to get ahead or belittle others.  Ever so considerate, she was always a team player, inspiring and helping those around her.  She believed in fair play and second chances.  And that was how she inspired loyalty and nurtured friendship.  For Sergio and me, that was how it was for all these years that we knew her.  She was the reason why we happily came to work on Monday mornings.

Pat provided additional reasons for us to come to workthe office decor, which provided us with an upscale work environment.  Her decorating style was better than the Governor's office.  How do I know?  A highway patrol officerthat once worked in the State Capitaltold me, after touring our office.  Pat's decorating talent extended into her holiday spirit.  Yearly, the office was transformed by the Christmas decorations and she loved the lights.  For us, Pat created a festive Disneyland within government.

It is true that Pat made both of us better auditors and supervisors.  Far more significant was, however, that she led us into the path of healing and forgiveness in our own life's journey.  Because of our constant exposure to her loving, gentle and caring ways, day-in and day-out, we became better sons, better brothers, better friends; and for me, a better husband and a better father.  Her loving ways were most evident when she spoke of her family.  By her love toward her family, she inspired us to be more loving toward our families.  Even Jewel, my wife, more than one occasion, said she wished Pat was her aunt.  Pat to us was an angel from heaven to show by example how a human being should care for one another and truly live.  

To know herwas truly an honor.  The Pat that I remember was a happy Pat, cheerful in herself and she gave much happiness to others.  She had a beautiful smile, a sense of humor, and a gentle, gentle demeanor.  She had told me that she wanted to be remembered as a fair person.  Patyou exceeded your goaland our expectations.  

Philippians 4:8 of the Bible says, Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.  If so, we shall think of Patricia Marion Fox. 
  
Pat, you left us with great memories and life shaping advice.  We will never forget you Pat.

Who was Patricia Marion Fox in her personal life?  She was a loyal, loving, and giving person.  She, like her parents, had such a strong bond and love for her family.  She was the big sister who always looked out for her brother and her brother's family.  We had many conversations throughout the years ranging from the mundane to the significant.  She would take my sister and me shopping, play games with us, walk my grandparents' dog, and buy amazing gifts.  She was not a demonstrative person but her love shone through all of her actions.  My aunt was an amazing shopper and we would tease her that she should have been a personal shopper for the wealthy.  The funniest part of my Aunt's shopping habits was that she didn't buy clothes based off of size indicated on the tags but would always go in with her trusty tape measure to ensure that everything would fit perfectly.  Holidays were always filled with the obligatory task of the tape measure.  Needless to say that her gifts never had to be returned and it showed the attention to detail that she brought to everything she did.
It was hard to break through Aunt Pat's exterior but when you did, you had a friend/confidante for life.  She was loyal beyond measure and those who did were talked about at every family gathering and in every phone conversation.  The people that she talked about the most were of course Dieter, Woosung, and Sergio among others.  These were the three people who she considered confidantes and people for whom she had tremendous respect.
Aunt Pat was extremely close to her parents and idolized her father.  She was the perfect student that every teacher loved.  She was a traditionalist who believed in sending cards and penmanship.  She didn't just send cards but keepsakes that could adorn the walls for years.  I think of her at every holiday because of the Christmas ornaments, beautiful cards, and decorations that she has given throughout my entire life; she was always so thoughtful and so giving.
There were so many sides to this amazing person and as I became older I was able to see her not only for the loving Aunt that she was but also for the woman that she was.  It was an honor and a pleasure to learn more about her and discuss things ranging from the antics of my father as a child, because of course she was perfect, and he was the terror and the bane of her existence.  She loved my father and loved to tease him unmercifully.  I can only imagine what they were like as children, and my grandmother loved to smile when I asked how she survived it.  
She took the passing of my grandparents very hard and I know that she is finally at peace surrounded by their love.  My grandparents' biggest concern as they got older was ensuring that she was taken care of and looked after.  For those of you who knew her, you know that looking out for her was one of the hardest things to do because she had the Irish/Fox stubbornness.    In the past year, Aunt Pat and I talked about our ancestors and started doing research on the family.  This was very important to Aunt Pat and even drove her first major trip.  After college she went to Europe and visited with extended relatives and ancestral homes.  She brought my past to life for me and it was something that we enjoyed sharing with one another.
The thing that stands out the most about Aunt Pat is how giving she was as a person.  She loved to help others and had a heart of gold.  Loyal and caring are the words that stand out the most about her.  She had incredibly high standards for both herself and others around her.  She made you want to be the best that you could be.  She will never be forgotten and will certainly live on in our hearts and in our fond memories of this gracious, selfless, and loving woman and that is the true legacy that she leaves behind.

Pat was a very classy lady and great mentor to work for; I've known her for more than 30 years and she has always supported me during my tenure at FAB commencing with working in the San Diego Office and when I moved to Sacramento as the liaison for Acute Hospitals.  We continued to keep in touch even when I left the Department.  Pat will truly be missed.  My heart and thoughts go out to her family.

I have known Pat since I started working for A and I, for 26 years. She was always accommodating and very helpful. She will surely be missed.

I only knew Pat for three years, but enjoyed our morning conversations a great deal.  She was a great listener, and her advises were always full of wisdom.  I respected her so much, and learned to love her.  She was key for my career as Auditor with the State.  Without her I would not be doing the work I love doing.  I will always remember her.

Pat is my mentor and friend. I'll surely miss a very good friend.  She was one of a kind.

I knew Pat for the entire 30 years I worked for FAB. In that time, it was always a pleasure working with her on numerous projects relating to our common profession of auditing. She was a mentor to all who knew her well. Pat will be sorely missed by all because she was the soul of DHCS for 50 years.

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Patricia Marion Fox

22 enero, 1942 – 7 abril, 2015

El Camino Memorial - Sorrento Valley & Memorial Park

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