Just thinking of the family after 2 years, and the last year having been so difficult anyway. Hope you are all doing okay. Prayers.


Here's our 5th grade class photo. Richard is right next to me in the middle row, left side.


I spent a lot of time going to Richard's house as a young girl and 'playing' with him. He was always really nice to me and fun to be with. His parents were really nice and loving too.  I remember all of the pigeons they had outside too. At school I don't remember him misbehaving as much as just being mediocre at the academic stuff and maybe not always doing what he was supposed to do. I always envisioned this as part of the not being part of the popular group and reacting a little to that. During square dancing, I was always relieved when we were partners because I felt safe with him, not worrying about my dancing skills, but also having fun with him. I have no memories of him being disrespectful to any teacher or anyone else but I would guess it would have to have been a very bad day or perhaps deserved by the teacher for him to have done that.

I also remember seeing him and his wife at the last reunion I went to and it was so nice to see him and meet her. He told me to go by his house and say hello to his parents which I did do but I don't think they were home when I tried. They were always very nice to me too.

I myself feel badly for not touching base with him after Jane gave me his phone number in September. I thought I would call him before the backyard concert by Ray Koukal if I didn't see Richard had replied. I should have called sooner. So let that be a lesson to us all to not put things off. It still just seems crazy so many of our peers have already passed! We shouldn't feel lucky to be alive at 61. That should be years from now. 
Pam (Sherman) Eagle

I was so sad to hear today about the loss of Richard.  I knew him from elementary school on through high school and had recently reconnected through Foothill reunions.  I was so pleased that he'd had a happy marriage despite the difficult loss he experienced, and enjoyed meeting his girlfriend at the reunion.  He was always introspective and cared about others.  I am sorry for his "kids" and the loss of both parents.  Praying for you as you continue life so young, without parents.  Remember their love for you, and don't be afraid to grieve.  "Grief takes as long as it takes" and "there are no shortcuts with grief" are 2 quotes that help me in grief.  May you know God's comfort as well.  This was Richard and me at the 2016 reunion.  I have class photos that he is in as well.  If you want to see those, contact me at sjanderson6@sbcglobal.net.  

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6 junio, 1957 – 19 junio, 2019

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