BARTON, Judith "Judy" Diane - Passed away peacefully at home, with her family by her side, on Wednesday, April 8, 2020 at the age of 65. Beloved wife of Eric. Dedicated and loving mother of Jeremy (Melissa), Ashley and Aimee. Cherished and proud Nana of Brooke and Logan. Predeceased by her parents Nelson and Luella Burns. Dear sister of the late Walter, Joe (May) and Ellen Paquin (Claude). Special granddaughter of the late Gram Trefry and the late Dr H.S. Trefry. Daughter-in-law of the late Thomas and the late Deirdre Barton. Sister-in-law of Harold (Yula), Ross (Heidi) and the late Gary (Joanne). Treasured aunt of many nieces and nephews. Very special cousin of Sandra Lamming. Mom was always involved in our lives with school functions, family traditions and in any other way she could offer unconditional love and support. She showed great courage and strength to stay positive during her fight. Mom was extremely grateful for the love and support of her church families. She is at peace knowing that she is now in the hands of Christ. A private family service will be held on Thursday, April 9, 2020 at the Arthur Funeral Home - Barton & Kiteley Chapel (492 Wellington St. East 705-759-2522). Pastor Bill McLean officiating. Friends are invited to view the service online starting at 9:45 am and can be viewed anytime up to 90 days, go to www.funeraweb.tv and select Judith's name. A memorial service and interment will be held at a future date. Memorial donations (payable by cheque or online) to Algoma District Cancer Program or to Tracy's Dream would be appreciated by the family. The Barton family would like to thank the team in the Chemo Suite and her homecare nurses especially Dawn and Cindy for their compassionate care. Please visit Arthur Funeral Home website obituaries to leave memories and condolences as a keepsake for the family.
"Love You the Best, Don't tell the Others!"
"Biography"
THE STORY OF JUDE
Mom had very contradictory personality traits, which we all appreciated, respected and enjoyed. She could be outgoing, energized by others and action oriented, which was evident when working at Shaw Communications or volunteering at church. When at home, however, she preferred small group interactions and her quiet time where she could sit, reflect, read, or just spend quiet time with her family.
She was a compassionate and practical person, when dealing with conflicts between her children, coworkers and peers, she relied on concrete information while also taking into account the feelings and points-of-view of those involved. She always had a solution and it usually made everyone happy in the end. She always put other’s feelings before her own, especially when it came to her children and her family. She did not like confrontation, however time would not hesitate to stand up for what she believed in.
She was very driven, turning a temp job at Shaw Communications into a full-time job. She was not only an employee, but a vital member of the team. She spent hours on end organizing office events and travel, including but not limited to the festival of trees, their Christmas Party and children’s Christmas party to name a few. She was the “go-to” person within the office, taking on the informal role of the office therapist for anyone in need. Anything she chose to do, she not only accomplished but surpassed everyone’s expectations. She had a knack for making people around her feel loved, supported and happy. She loved to bring joy to the lives of those around her.
Mom was born at the General Hospital in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario. She and her three older siblings Walter, Joe and Ellen, were raised in the Sault by her parents Luella and Nelson Burns. Growing up, Mom was in Twirlette’s; she marched in several parades including one year in the Grey Cup Parade in BC. This was something she did from a young age and continued on to become an instructor. Mom was also an avid reader from a young age, don’t bother trying to talk to her while she’s reading, she won’t hear you! This is a passion she passed on to her three children.
Due to a chronic illness diagnosed in her teens, she did not have a typical high school experience. She attended Collegiate Heights High School and graduated in June of 1973. She spoke of her teachers with fondness but there was one who took the time to support and tutor her outside of school due to hospitalizations.
Mom and dad (Eric Barton) met through her sister and brother in-law (Claude and Ellen Paquin). Claude and Eric played baseball together. It was at a team party where they were introduced. They were married on June 20, 1981 at St Luke’s Cathedral with the reception at the Sault Armoury as it was the largest venue at the time.
In February of 1983, mom and dad brought Jeremy into this world. Followed by Ashley in January, 1985 and finally along came in Aimee in April, 1990. Her kids were her pride and joy. She was involved with their school events daily (she was known as the pizza lady at Rosedale French Immersion/Collegiate Heights French Immersion), along with supporting her kids in their extracurricular activities whether it was hockey (which there was a lot of), soccer, football, basketball, judo, gymnastics, dance and swimming. She did it all with grace and love. Mom always said that her greatest accomplishment was her children.
Mom was extremely proud to take part in all the big moments of our lives: first days of university, graduations (ALL OF THEM!), Jeremy and Melissa’s wedding, decorating classrooms. But most of all, her grandchildren, Brooke and Logan. They were her pride and joy! She loved to chat with them every day, watch them grow, and spoil them! They were the centre of her world. She planned on spending most of her time down in Southern Ontario watching Brooke and Logan flourish. Brooke is now 3 years old and Logan is 8 months old. She was able to spend a great deal of time with her grandkids in person and through Facetime.
Mom came to the Lord nearly 5 years ago thanks to the work and persistence of a couple of her co-workers. It wasn’t until one of her co-workers came to her with a beautiful gift and a note that she decided to take the step and go to church. It was from this day forward that her love for the Lord grew. In a short amount of time she brought her daughters and sister to church and eventually they were baptized. That was one of the happiest days of her life out at Rock Lake, facing her fear of water and lightning!
Her church families were very important to her; the love and support they showed to her and her family over the past years gave her strength and courage to continue her fight. She loved volunteering at church! She helped in the kitchen prior to and after Sunday services, participated in Connect 4 activities, and assisted in Sunday School. Mom wanted to continue being involved with her church community, but this became too difficult as her health deteriorated.
Mom passed at home with her family and her sister by her side. She had fought a very brave, courageous fight against Ovarian Cancer and a significant heart attack only four months ago. She faced every one of her fears head on like an absolute “Rockstar!”. In the end, she had accepted what was happening and was happy to go be with her Lord and Saviour. She leaves behind her loving and supportive husband, Eric, her three beautiful adult children, Jeremy (Melissa), Ashley and Aimee and her beloved grandchildren, Brooke and Logan to whom she was known as Nana. She also left behind her two loving siblings Joe (May) Burns and Ellen (Claude) Paquin and a very close cousin, Sandra Lamming; they always seemed to think of each other as siblings rather than cousins.
Aimee's Eulogy for Mom's service
Mom, Mommy, Mamacita, Nana, Jude. There’s not a single name that could sum up you up. It’s hard to write a short eulogy for someone who meant so much and was so much for so many people. Mentor, friend, confidant, shoulder to cry on, cheerleader, chauffer, caterer, the list goes on. You wore a lot of hats. And did you ever provide us with a lifetime of memories, right to the end. For those who knew her well, you would know that there is not only one, but many rule books to follow if you wanted to be in her club. There are way too many to list but here’s a few: don’t try and sneak out of Fort Knox, aka our house, without a hug goodbye, good luck! Alarms and chains stand in your way! And be prepared if you are going out to dinner, the rules are innumerable! And please! Never put her straw on the table!!! The germaphobe queen may just lose her mind!
We joke about our matching outfits as kids and how protective you were, but in all seriousness, we learned so much from you about how to treat people, how to be polite, be safe and make the right decisions, and how to find our faith. You had such a big heart and would do anything for your family even if you were not happy or agree with our choices. Thinking about our childhood, you were always there, holidays, sporting events, birthdays, day trips, even camping…... Our memories are innumerable and full of laughter.
When you went to work, we were all a little hesitant.. wait you mean no homemade cookies on our pillows? Our rooms wouldn’t magically change over night? But we quickly saw not only the incredible work ethic, but how you could relate to absolutely anyone and how people were drawn to you, you were a magnet for people. We are so proud of how much you accomplished in your career. You became the mom of Shaw cable, again, the confidant and mentor. I’m sure they are as grateful as we are for your constant support and encouragement.
You always said the truth that we needed to hear even if it wasn’t what we wanted. You were always in our corner even if we messed up. You would build us up and have given us the confidence to try – you got us through ups and downs we’ve all faced. You are our hero! Thank you, mom, for being there, teaching us, protecting us, supporting us, fighting for us, and loving us unconditionally. But most of all, thank you for being our mom, mommy, mamacita, nana, Jude. Love you forever, like you for always, as long as we’re living our mommy you’ll be.
p.s. love you the best, don’t tell the others.
Ashley's Eulogy at Cemetery
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
Mommy,
I don’t think I could ever understand why this has happened, nor do I think anyone else could either. What I do know though is that your unconditional love, support, and faith is what will carry us through these times.
The relationship you had with your children was like no other. You were a gift to so many, providing a hug in tough times and a shoulder when all we needed was a friend and a shoulder to cry on.
"I have lost my wonderful mother, companion, adviser and mentor, my best friend. I am so honoured to have been your daughter. I am grieving for the amazing relationship I had with you. I am grieving for my father who has lost the best wife possible to have had. For my niece and nephew who have only known their wonderful Nana for such a short time in their lives, for my sister and brother and his family who have lost a true friend, mother and a companion, adviser and mentor. And lastly, I am grieving for your siblings who have lost an amazing sister!! She was the absolute rock of our family. We have all suffered a huge loss".
She taught us all what is really important in life - to love, support and care for friends and family in our lives. We are all better off for having known her. It was a great privilege to be her daughter.
Mom, I really do feel honoured and privileged to have been your daughter. You always loved me (us) unconditionally and were the best mom anyone could wish for. I (we) can only hope to be half the mother you were. Love you forever, Like you for always!!!
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7
Favourite Quotes:
“If ever there is a tomorrow when we’re not together,
There is something you must always remember.
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think, but most important thing is, even if we’re apart... I’ll always be with you!” - Winnie the Pooh
“I’ll love you forever,
I’ll like you for always,
As long as I’m living,
Your mommy I’ll be!” -Robert Munsch
“Gods mercy and grace are new every morning!”
"Grace is Greater!"
"The peace of God,
which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds
in Christ Jesus.
-Philippians 4:7
Memoirs':
Eric:
International First Aid Competition - On way home from Houston, Texas, we got off the plane and were walking toward airport door. Since we would not have access to luggage (they were switching aircrafts for the next flight out), Judy realized she'd left her hair dryer in her luggage. I went running across the tarmac to make sure she could do her hair the next morning.
When living on Towers St., every Sunday morning Dad's parents would arrive unnannounced with minister. This one morning we woke up, Judy called out and said "Oh my goodness we need to get this place cleaned up, your parents are coming up the driveway with the minister!!" This is when we began hiding dishes in the microwave and stove (a tradition that was then passed on to their children... ASHLEY!!!).
Our first camping experience did not go over very well. We arrived and she asked where she could plug in her curling iron blow dryer. Dad said, umm there's no power or running water here. Judy in her high heels at camp was not overly impressed by this absence of electricity and having to use campground public washrooms!
Dad had come from work to find the circular saw on the counter. He asked what it was doing there and she replied with " I was going to stand on a ladder and cut out the upper cupboards. The only thing that stopped me was that when I turned it on it made my whole body vibrate." As dad blanches white, he says "Do NOT use that saw for that!!!" He also said that she could not only go through the wall with it but it could have fallen onto her. Jude was a do it herself kinda girl!
Aimee:
After having a joyous day with the critters at a cabin, mom and hastily packed up and left. With the twisty turny back road and windows down we were having a joyous ride home. Suddenly, I notice a hitchhiker on the INSIDE of the windshield. I followed it with my eyes for a few minutes and as it began to near us, I tried to kill it but dropped it on mom instead. This proceeded us to jump out of the car, screaming on the side of the highway. It took another few minutes to relocate said critter and to get it out of the car.
Driving to Wawa together for the first time was another joyous event. It's no secret that mom was NOT a good passenger! Mamacita was not happy that I would be on that highway so much and wanted to see how I drove.... she was not a fan. Apparently going the speed limit is WAY TOO FAST! She screamed at every turn, every cliff, every rock face... let's just say she screamed the ENTIRE way. We learned that she was actually more dangerous than the highway itself but we had a good laugh about it later at dinner.
Ashley:
I recall numerous times I'd go to bed at night all tucked in. Then in the morning I'd wake up in a totally different spot in my room. Mom would put us to bed, then when she was sure we were fast asleep, she'd come in, reorganize just about EVERYTHING in our rooms and rearrange them!!! It was so disorienting yet exciting to wake up and see a brand new set up in our bedrooms.
Mom did a lot of baking and cooking while we'd be at school. I loved coming home to MONSTER sized chocolate chip with M&M cookies on my pillow. It always made my day (especially after a not so happy day at school).
Mom and I had gone down to Toronto for some doctors appointments for me. The one night we had ordered delivery from a nearby restaurant and had chicken parm and fettuccini alfredo. Unfortunately when the food arrived, it came with no utensils- have you ever tried eating fettuccini with no fork!!!! Let me tell you, it is no easy task!! Mom would not allow me to contact room service at the Westin Harbour Castle to have some cutlery delivered. So here we are, sitting at small round table together, attempting to eat this fettuccini and chicken parm using garlic bread sticks as forks!!!! What a MESS!!!! At one point we both looked up at the same time and just busted out laughing at the whole situation.
I recall so many holidays where we'd have a house full of friends and family over to decorate either gingerbread houses, Easter eggs, carve pumpkins etc. These were such memorable moments in all of our lives! This was one of her favourite things to do with her kids!
Jeremy:
Growing up mom didn’t want pets; her hands were already pretty full. But when my friend’s sister had to give up her cat, I decided I would give it a try. I brought this beautiful black kitten into her office at Shaw, in front of her coworkers who all had pets, and asked her. She said to bring the cat home for now and we’d discuss it after, six years later the Coco was still with us. A few years later, Melissa called mom to see if she could bring something over for me. Mom asked her over the phone, "Is it alive?" and Melissa sheepishly said yes. My mom said yes it was okay to bring it over. This is when we first met and fell in love with Oreo.
Any time I was going out, mom needed to know where, with who, when and how long. It was one of her many rules. When we'd be getting ready to come home, I'd call her to let her know we were going to cab it home or even walk, knowing full well that she would have none of that. Even if it meant she had to trudge out in the snow and -30 degree weather to pick us up, she would be there and drive all of my friends home. We could always count on her to get us home safely.
Mom would always buy us our fall mums and planters in the springtime. Her favourite were always white, no questions asked. She would ask us each time what colour we would like, and Melissa would always tell her purple. We so appreciated this annual gesture.
Mom has established many habits and traditions for us. A love of book is something she has shared with all of us, even Brooke and Logan. Whenever we got a new book, we could always count on a personalized inscription from her. She even went so far as to make personalized book tags for Brooke and Logan to help her keep up with the MANY books she’s bought over the past few years.
Mom had many talents but what she was most known for was her ability to plan and organize events. She helped us with some of the details of our wedding, and with Melissa’s mom, planned a beautiful Bridal shower for Melissa. Her special touches on the events leading up to and including the wedding (table arrangement board, chair covers, high top tables), will forever be appreciated and cherished.
Judes Rules to Live By (as noted in her many books)
1. No going to bathroom without shutting door when leaving
2. In a booth, she has to sit on the inside
3. Can't leave the house without locking the door - guests included
4. Lock up house like fort knox
5. The kitchen sinks must be meticulous
6. NO crunching anything within 2 metres
7. Do NOT, I repeat, Do NOT put her straw or utensils on the table - they go into her hand
8. Will not leave the house without make-up on - not even to put out the garbage or check the mail
9. Only one item per shelf in the fridge
10. Dirt buster remains in trunk of car
11. Must lysol seat at any venue
12. Let's Stay Home
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CELEBRATION OF LIFE
BARTON, Judith "Judy" Diane - Passed away peacefully at home, with her family by her side, on Wednesday, April 8, 2020 at the age of 65.
Beloved wife of Eric. Dedicated and loving mother of Jeremy (Melissa), Ashley and Aimee. Cherished and proud Nana of Brooke and Logan. Predeceased by her parents Nelson and Luella Burns. Dear sister of the late Walter, Joe (May) and Ellen Paquin (Claude). Special granddaughter of the late Gram Trefry and the late Dr H.S. Trefry. Daughter-in-law of the late Thomas and the late Deirdre Barton. Sister-in-law of Harold (Yula), Ross (Heidi) and the late Gary (Joanne). Treasured aunt of many nieces and nephews. Very special cousin of Sandra Lamming. Mom was always involved in our lives with school functions, family traditions and in any other way she could offer unconditional love and support. She showed great courage and strength to stay positive during her fight. Mom was extremely grateful for the love and support of her church families. She is at peace knowing that she is now in the hands of Christ. Friends may visit at the Arthur Funeral Home - Barton & Kiteley Chapel (492 Wellington St. East 705-759-2522) on Monday, August 17, 2020 from 3-5 pm and from 7-9 pm. (maximum 40 people allowed to enter the funeral home at a time, masks are required). Interment Greenwood Cemetery on Tuesday, August 18, 2020 at 11 am. Pastor Bill McLean officiating. Memorial donations (payable by cheque or online) to SAH Cancer Care Fund would be appreciated by the family. The Barton family would like to thank the team in the Chemo Suite, Dr. Spadafora, Dr. Hemy and her homecare nurses especially Dawn and Cindy for their compassionate care. Please visit Arthur Funeral Home website obituaries to leave memories and condolences as a keepsake for the family.
"Love You the Best, Don't tell the Others!"
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