Kathleen R DeLorme

Winslow – Kathleen R. DeLorme, 74, of Winslow died unexpectedly on Thursday July 13, 2017 at MaineGeneral Hospital in Augusta. She was born on January 1, 1943 in Lowville, NY, the daughter of Margaret (Bullard) and James Rubar. She grew up in Gouverneur, NY and graduated from Gouverneur High School, Class of 1961. She went on to study at Central City Business Institute in Syracuse and worked an Administrative Assistant and finally as a Supervisor at the St. Lawrence County Courthouse.

On February 19, 1977, Kathy married Paul E. DeLorme in Waterville and began what she was to be her “destiny” – devoted wife and doting mother. Through the years Kathy enjoyed flower gardening and riding horses, as her favorite movie genre were Westerns. Animals, especially “Westies” or any terrier, had a special place in her heart. She had a lifelong love of reading, but her greatest joy in life were her family and friends. With her faith being her guiding light, she served as an Eucharistic Minister in the area hospitals.

Kathy was a great Patriots fan, however her family suspects that any “love” for the Patriots was more for Bill Belichick and Tom Brady. She did “enjoy” the Red Sox on a good day. Kathy had a youthful spirit, enjoyed dance and had an eclectic range of music.

Kathy is survived by her husband of 40 years, Paul E. DeLorme of Winslow; her three daughters: Bronwyn Poulin of Canaan; Kathleen R. Fleury and her husband Shawn of Winslow; Autumn DeLorme of Haverhill, MA; her two step-sons: Daniel DeLorme and his wife Kathleen of Florida; Paul E. DeLorme of Alabama; her two brothers: William Rubar of South Carolina; John Rubar of New York; six grandchildren; one great-granddaughter; as well as a large extended family and circle of friends.

The family wishes to extend a word of appreciation to Drs. Bagley and Doornbos, the team in the Critical Care Unit and the overall staff of MaineGeneral for the exceptional care Kathy received while in the hospital. May your kindness continue to make a difference in people’s lives.

There will be a time of gathering and visitation on Thursday July 20 from 4:00 to 6:00 PM at Veilleux Funeral Home, 8 Elm Street, Waterville. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Friday July 21, 2017 at 11:00 AM at Notre Dame Catholic Church, 110 Silver Street, Waterville. Burial will follow in Saint Francis Catholic Cemetery, 78 Grove Street, Waterville. Please visit www.veilleuxfuneralhome.com to view a video collage of Kathy’s life and to share condolences, memories and tributes with her family.

For those who wish, donations may be made in Kathy’s memory to: St. John Catholic School, 15 Garand Street, Winslow, ME 04901or Servants of the Blessed Sacraments, 101 Silver Street, Waterville, ME 04901.

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The following tribute was presented by Kathy's daughters, Kathleen and Autumn, as part of the Mass of Christian Burial on July 21, 2017:

Mother Teresa once said,

“Some people come into your life as blessings. Some come into your life as lessons.” Our mother was a blessing and she taught us many lessons.

Lesson #1: ALWAYS BE GIVING AND GRATEFUL

Giving people expect nothing in return. Our mother was so good to others. Giving of her time, and herself. She wanted to help others and she was generous and patient. She thought it was important to take care of each other, and she was grateful in return. She always wrote ‘Thank you notes, because she wanted others to know that she was grateful. She said, “People don’t have to do it, but it’s important that we show that we’re grateful.”

Lesson #2: CHARITY STARTS AT HOME

Mom was all about FAMILY. She strived to create a family that was close and loving. She was hardworking and disciplined. She worked from the moment she got up until the time she went to bed, all for her family. She was the most selfless person I have ever known. She was nurturing and loving, yet, firm at times, and we always knew she was the boss. She was always there for us and we were expected to be there for each other and help each other.

Lesson #3: ALWAYS GREET PEOPLE WITH A SMILE (and remember your lipstick)

Mom was a positive person and tried to see the best in others. She was fun-loving with a great sense of humor. Some of the greatest moments we had were laughing together. Her cup was always half-full.

Lesson #4: ALWAYS LISTEN

Mom was a wonderful listener and incredibly insightful. She truly could’ve been a therapist. We would regularly ask her for advice and she was usually right. We joked about the fact that we would have to start paying her, because between all of us, she received several calls a day.

Lesson #5: IN ORDER TO HAVE FRIENDS, YOU NEED TO BE A FRIEND

She was a best friend to us and cherished numerous other friendships. She was supportive, generous, helpful, and loyal to her friends. She would often say how much her friendships meant to her, some of which dated back over sixty years.

Lesson #6: BE A LIFE-LONG LEARNER

Mom was always reading. She loved learning new things and would frequently tell us about what she had learned. She was especially fascinated with learning about medicine/medical field. We always said that she should’ve been a doctor/surgeon. She was a tech-savvy, hip Nana in the 21st Century, and was even the first one in the family to ever own an iPhone. She often enjoyed Face-timing with Isabella, sending Snap-chats to the family, and always had the latest gadgets. She believed that you are never too old to learn and education is something that can never be taken away from you.

Lesson #7: NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD

She gained her strength from God and instilled faith in her children. We prayed together as a family, because she always said, “A Family that Prays Together, Stays Together.” She always prayed the rosary and would give us little prayer cards with different prayers on it, depending on what was going on in our lives. She always felt our faith would sustain us during challenging times, and believed in the Will of God. When we were struggling with something in our lives, she would say, “Pray to God, and he will give you the answer.” “ I know you want to know right now, but be patient, and pray to God.”

She taught us many lessons and having her as our mother was a great blessing. Abraham Lincoln once said, “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my Mother.”

She was a daughter, sister, wife, mother, step-mother, Nana, aunt, sister-in-law, friend, and the most amazing person we have ever known. We will miss her for the rest of our lives.