Shirley Mae Grabb

29 décembre 192330 juin 2021

Shirley Mae Grabb was born in Cheboygan, Michigan December 29, 1923 to Arthur and Lena Lafrinere. Shirley had three brothers; Alfred, James and Edmond. She died June 30, 2021 at her home in Fairfax City, VA. Shirley graduated from Cheboygan High School during WW 2 and worked as a Nurse’s Aid at the Community Memorial Hospital during her last years in school. She also helped with chores at the farm her mother was employed at after her father died.

An excerpt from The Cheboygan Tribune, perhaps 1943: “Miss Shirley Lafrinere, a high school student, who after her day of study, makes the long walk up to the Community Memorial Hospital and works there at her duty as a nurse’s aid until eleven o’clock, when her day is ended. That sort of spirit is the spirit that makes America what it is today.”

After graduating, Shirley worked as a doctor’s assistant for seventeen years giving injections, taking X-rays, analyzing blood samples, and doing whatever else was required. She married Jim Grabb, a Coast Guard lieutenant, in 1961 and moved to Seattle, where Paul was born, and then Portsmouth, VA where Mark was born. Subsequently they lived in Avon, OH, Fairfax City, VA, Lexington, MA, and finally in Fairfax City, VA. Shirley has always been proud of her sons — Paul who is a pediatric neurosurgeon in Kansas City and Mark who is an engineer at General Electric Research in upstate NY. Her five grandsons were an added blessing, and being with them was always a special treat.

Shirley was always active. She loved to golf, bowl, run around the neighborhood, hike and camp, garden, bake and prepare meals. She was a Cub Scout Den mother, an active Little League mother, and the neighborhood mother that kids flocked to. She literally never rested.

Shirley contracted Lyme Disease in 2010 and immediately showed clear signs of dementia. However, true to her character, she continued to carry on doing her church oriented volunteer work at the Fairfax Nursing Center and The Gardens at Fair Oaks, as well as golfing and bowling. For many years she had a poster in her kitchen, “Don’t Ever Give Up.” She attended Mass at St. Leo’s until it was impossible to walk or stand. Shirley was the ultimate doer.

Shirley is survived by her husband Capt. James E. Grabb, USCG (Ret.), sons Paul A. Grabb, MD (Brenda, MD) and their sons, Declan, MD and Gavin, and Mark L. Grabb (Colleen) and their sons, Clark, Miles, and Owen.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 11:00 a. m. on Thursday, July 22, at St. Leo the Great Catholic Church, 3700 Old Lee Highway, Fairfax, Virginia.

A graveside service will be held at 10:00 am on Monday, September 20, 2021 at Arlington National Cemetery.


  • Funeral Mass

    jeudi, 22 juillet , 2021

  • Graveside Service

    lundi, 20 septembre , 2021


Shirley Mae Grabb


Sandra Larson

9 septembre , 2021

The photo of my Aunt Shirley shows the beautiful smile I remember. Childhood memories are often vague, but her smile in the kitchen is very real and I remember her kindness to my mother. My condolences to my cousins Paul and Mark.
Sandy Larson

Corrie Morsey

19 juillet , 2021

What a truly unique individual. I had the pleasure of meeting Shirley at Army Navy Country Club and specifically through the WGO-18. Shirley was seldom without a smile. She gave freely of her time to those less fortunate. I continue to see Shirley running between golf shots on the golf course - a true joy.

Jack and Vicki Rose

10 juillet , 2021

Shirley was an incredible person. Her heart encompassed everyone. Jack and I and our children have truly been blessed to have had her in our lives. We each have wonderful memories of her that we can remember in thinking of her. God bless you Shirley. May you always rest in Paradise