Nancy Lamb Shands

Nancy L. Shands, born in San Francisco in 1932, passed away peacefully on February 16, 2025. A devoted wife and mother to three children, Nancy's life was a testament to her unwavering commitment to both her family and her community.

Nancy's journey of advocacy began early, rooted in her deep-seated belief in justice and equality. After earning her BA in journalism from San Jose State University, she pursued a career in political and community activism. Her efforts were instrumental in driving local initiatives and fostering meaningful change.

Later, Nancy's passion for helping others led her to Virginia Tech, where she earned an MS in Marriage and Family Therapy. Among her proudest achievements was writing and seeing published her 1988 book, AIDS – The Lonely Voyage.

For over 30 years, she served as a dedicated family therapist, including establishing her own practice, the Arbor Center in Northern Virginia. There she provided thoughtful guidance and support to countless individuals and families, including first responders after the 911 attack. Her empathy, wisdom, and compassion made a profound impact on those she helped.

Nancy was also committed to supporting those living with terminal illnesses. For ten years she served on the board of directors at Hospice of Northern Virginia, including two terms as president. In addition, Nancy was a member of the team caring for patients and families through home visits and in the inpatient unit.

Nancy’s legacy extends beyond her professional achievements. Her active participation in broad-based progressive politics as well as local and community causes, coupled with her nurturing spirit, left an indelible mark on a vast network of friends, colleagues, and others whose lives she touched. She was known for her sharp intellect, kind heart, sense of humor, and tireless dedication to improving the lives of others.

Nancy was preceded in death by her husband of 40 years, Bill Shands. She is survived by her three children, Roger (Mary Ellen), Matthew (Nancy Leppink), and Robin (Jerry Martinez), her seven grandchildren and two great grandchildren, her sister Patricia Johnson and niece Kathleen Feigelman. All who loved her carry forward her values and spirit. She will be remembered with deep affection and gratitude for her life of service, her profound influence, and the love she shared with all who knew her.

A celebration of Nancy’s extraordinary life is being planned by her family, information will be forthcoming. In lieu of flowers, please donate to Alight at www.wearealight.org.