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Kathrine Elizabeth Tomey

6 décembre 195612 mai 2021
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Kathrine Elizabeth Tomey was born to Harold and Virginia Autery, December 6, 1956 in Southern California and passed away peacefully in her sleep Wednesday, May 12, 2021 at the age of 64 in Glendale, Arizona. Kathrine is survived by her life partner, Jack R. Steinman, her daughter, Davisha Renee Spivey-Gibson; her Pa, Danny Davis; brother, Robert Autery; sisters Karen Ward, Monica Autery, and April Early; 4 granddaughters, Amber, Desiree, Victoria, and Virginia; 3 grandsons, Elijah, Jalin, and Christopher; 1 great granddaughter and 5 great grandsons. Kathy is predeceased by both of her parents; her sister, Trina Garner; 2 beloved sons, Davey Lee Spivey Jr. and Christepher Lee Spivey Sr.; and her grandson, Christepher Lee Spivey Jr. Kathy who went by Mom, Grandma, Grammie, or Gigi, passed away after a long battle with Multiple Sclerosis at Glencroft Center for Modern Aging. She was a very unique woman who deeply touched the lives of those who knew her and will be missed dearly by all.

A public visitation for Kathy will be held Friday, May 21, 2021 from 1 to 3 PM at Green Acres Glendale Mortuary, 5830 W. Missouri Ave., Glendale, AZ 85301. A funeral service will begin at 3 PM. A celebration of life to immediately follow services at Jack and Kathy's home in Phoenix, AZ.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in Kathrine's memory may be made to National Multiple Sclerosis Society by clicking on the link below.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.GreenAcresGlendaleMort.com for the Tomey family.

  • FAMILLE

  • Jack R. Steinman, Life Partner
  • Davisha Renee Spivey-Gibson, Daughter
  • Danny Davis, Pa
  • Robert Autery, Brother
  • Karen Ward, Sister
  • Monica Autery, Sister
  • April Early, Sister
  • Amber, Granddaughter
  • Desiree, Granddaughter
  • Victoria, Granddaughter
  • Virginia, Granddaughter
  • Elijah, Grandson
  • Jalin, Grandson
  • Christopher, Grandson

Services

  • Visitation

    vendredi, 21 mai , 2021

  • Funeral Service

    vendredi, 21 mai , 2021

Souvenirs

Kathrine Elizabeth Tomey

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ENVOYEZ CONDOLEANCES
Tami Decker-Pires (DeMar)

21 mai , 2021

Kathy, you will be missed. Kathy and I became friends early in our teens when we lived across the street from each other in Lancaster. Our moms were both working single parents and “trusted” all of us kids to take care of each other. So good or bad, we raised each other. I have so many fond memories of Kathy and her crazy ways. One thing I will always believe is that she had no fear. How we survived those years is beyond me. But it shaped me, and I’m sure it shaped her as well. We were inseparable. She had my back, and I had hers. Davey would say Kathy would lie about it and I would swear to it.
After Kathy and Davey became parents, I helped out with babysitting while they worked. Such a huge responsibility for two so young, but they took it on and came out the other end stronger. So many memories...Driving in Davey’s always “almost fixed” GTO with Kathy, toddler Davey Lee & infant Cho Cho to LAX to pick Davey up after returning from boot camp. I think this was the first time Davey met his new son Cho Cho...The crazy midnight drive to Las Vegas when they got married...Summers spent with them in Fort Ord eating “catsup soup” between paychecks...Late nights jumping on the beds with the kids...Spending long lazy days at the beach with the kids, then frantically cleaning the apartment before Davey got home...Seeing the love on Kathy’s face after each of her kids were born. With the topper being Davisha. She was perfect.
Kathy and I lost touch geographically after she moved to Arizona, but we remained BFF’s. Kathy seemed much more grounded after meeting Digger and I am eternally grateful to him for taking such good care of my friend.
Our friendship endured the years and was always there when we would re-connect. I considered her my closest friend, loved her and will miss her forever.

Davisha Gibson

18 mai , 2021

I don’t think I could just share 1 or a few memories of my mom. How does one wrap up 44 years of memories in a short paragraph? What I do remember the most about momma is that she may not have been the greatest mom, she did the BEST DAMN job she could and knew how to and that’s what she taught me about being a mom. That I would make mistakes as mom’s, but as long as I never gave up and did my damn best one day my children would know how much I’ve always loved them. Momma was the biggest, baddest momma bear you might met and she would do anything to protect her kids, even if it meant taking one of our secrets with her when she passed. There’s NOTHING she wouldn’t have done for me or my brothers. I had the pleasure of working with momma at Cigna, where she helped me get a job and again at Bechtel where I introduced her to my colleagues and EVERYONE LOVED HER. Many, many times she would message my saying “Hey Bobo you wanna go get a picnic basket? You fly, I buy.” I know my mom was more than just a loving,giving woman, she was stubborn, and ornery which are just a few words to describe this amazing women. I will miss my momma so much. A friend shared with me recently there were probably times I prayed to god to take away her pain or if I could just take away her pain I would in a heartbeat. Well she’s no longer in emotional or physical pain and it’s now my turn to carry this pain she felt for so very long, but it’s ok, because I know she’s at peace now, and I’m stronger than I think I am, because after all I am her daughter. One of the strongest women I’ll ever meet. I love you more than all the stars in the sky...Chick-Coo

Nettie Serna

18 mai , 2021

Kathy was firecracker in her youth. I remember when we went anywhere with her,, we had to practically run to keep up because she always was speed walking,even in heels. When davisha and I were young(8 or 9yrs old) we went to the movies. We came home went to sleep and in the morning both of our moms had put their bras in the freezer. I guess they went out drinking and got hot, that was their solution to the problem.
She will be missed by many people. I know this, however, she will be remembered fondly and live on through some of my fondest memories of her! You taught me to fight for what I believe in and strive for what I deserve no matter what others think. Thank you for making me a better human and woman!

Monica Autery-Matte

17 mai , 2021

Kathy (Sassy) is my sister. She was my ride or die for a while. We were inseparable. My childhood memories are of her walking me to Jane Reynolds Park all the time. Taking me everywhere with her. Spending many nights with her and Davey. Baby sitting their kids which is where I took on the name of Mocaduck because they couldn't say Monica.
We lived together for a while. She became my labor coach with Jaymie. She came to my doctor appts. And was there thru a very rough beginning with Jaymie. She was so proud to be Daddy Kathy!
These are my fondest memories and above all else...She was my sister and she was loved.

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Baking with Gigi

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"She helped shape me into the woman I am today...Nettie

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Baking with Gigi

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"She helped shape me into the woman I am today...Nettie

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Biographie

Kathrine Elizabeth Tomey (Kathy), a retired Benefits Specialist and longtime resident of Phoenix, AZ passed away on Wednesday, May 12, 2021 at the age of 64. Survived by Katherine is her life partner, Jack R. Steinman (Digger) and her daughter, Davisha Renee Spivey-Gibson (Vishie); her Pa (Danny Davis), brother (Robert Autery), sisters (Karen Ward, Monica “Mocaduck” Autery, and April Early); 4 granddaughters (Amber “Amberlina”, Desiree “Desi”, Victoria “Tori Tor” and Virginia “Ginny Bennie”; 3 grandsons (Elijah “Li Li”, Jalin “J-Boogie” and Christopher, her “Pher Pher”); 1 great granddaughter and 5 great grandsons. Kathy is predeceased by both of her parents, sister, Trina Garner, 2 beloved sons, Davey Lee Spivey Jr. and Christepher Lee Spivey Sr. (Choo-Cho); and her grandson, Christepher Lee Spivey Jr. Kathrine was born in Los Angeles, CA on December 6th, 1956 to Harold Lee Autery and Virginia Davis. Her life as a child began with both her parents and grandparents in Sylmar, CA. However, with her mother and siblings they moved to Missouri and finally settled in Palmdale, California where she met her first husband, Davey Lee Spivey Sr. Davey & Kathy started their family and married at a very young age. Their 3 children were their pride and joy. They loved coaching sports and dirt bike riding with family & friends. She received her Associates Degree in Electrical Engineering from Antelope Valley College and took much pride in her work building the B1-Bomber for Rockwell. After completing her work on the B1-Bomber she moved onto work for McDonnel Douglas, in Long Beach CA, where she met her 2nd husband, Todd L.Tomey, her “Wise Indian”. Although the two didn’t have any children in common, they shared a common understanding of each other. They moved to Phoenix, AZ in 1990. At first, it was just the two of them, but it didn’t take long before they were joined by Kathy’s daughter, both of her sons, their families and a host of extended family members. Her outgoing and bubbly personality landed her multiple different job opportunities and she excelled at every one of them. As she would say, “I’m like my mom, I don’t know a stranger and I’ll start a conversation with anyone.” Sometime around 1997/1998 she met her life partner Jack. The two of them loved to “play, play, play, dance, dance, dance, eat, eat, eat and drink, drink, drink, but most importantly play!” They enjoyed going on “adventures” together, motorcycle riding and spending time with their grandkids. Grandma, Grammie or Gigi LOVED taking the grandkids swimming, and never missed a birthday party, game, recital, pre-k or high school graduation. Unfortunately, in 2000, Kathy was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS), but she never let that slow or get her down. As Momma Kathy would say, “I might have MS, but MS don’t have me!” That remained her mantra up until late 2020. After years of Jack taking the utmost excellent and attentive care of his baby, the time came when she could no longer live in their home, and she moved into a Modern Aging Facility, Glencroft. On May 12th, 2021 her MS finally took its toll on her body, and she slipped away from us while taking her afternoon nap. While she will be missed beyond belief by those who loved her, I know she is no longer in physical or emotional pain and is now at peace with “HER BOYS”.

I LOVE YOU MOMMA!
…...Chick-coo