Mr. Haydain Haydain W. Neale

When someone is identified as a natural leader, certain images come to mind. First thoughts are of a no-nonsense, tough-minded, dedicated and disciplined person. This description accurately fits Mr. Haydain Neale who was indeed a born manager. He will be remembered as being highly organized, practical and realistic. He was a person who always carried a strong sense of duty with him throughout his life. Possessed with traditional “old school” morals, Haydain was an individual who clearly communicated to those around him just who he was and what he was all about. Everyone acquainted with Haydain knew him as a well-respected man who was a stable force in his community.      Haydain was born on September 3, 1970 at Henderson Hospital in Hamilton, Ontario. He was brought up by his mother a single parent who raised him and his three sisters. Haydain was raised on Greendale Ave. on the Hamilton Mountain. Even as a youngster, Haydain learned to be objective and decisive. His faith in the principles of authority and dependability was something that he carried with him throughout his life.      As a young boy, Haydain was able to put his natural abilities to work. Haydain was raised with 3 siblings. He had 3 older sisters Karen, Colette and Siona. Haydain had an inborn appreciation for the order in the family, allowing for the oldest members to be the most respected and to take on the most responsibility. For Haydain, this was a natural order of life, one he gladly embraced.      Haydain's matter-of-fact attitude about most things was developed during his childhood. As a young boy, Haydain enjoyed being part of teams, and organizations and groups of other kids who shared similar interests. Haydain took part in SOCCAN. He also enjoyed Canadian Football and Golf. He was very involved with music, theatre, black opera and the River Run Theatre in Guelph. He accompanied his mom to the Opera Society in Burlington and was a member of the Soccer league. He enjoyed swimming and McMaster Summer Camp. Haydain's memorable achievements included music compositions, his comic book collection and writing programs for computer games.      In school, Haydain was as close to being a model student as one could possibly imagine. He sought to achieve perfect attendance in all of his classes. He would eagerly complete his homework, and often put in extra study time when he felt it was necessary. A logical and focused thinker, Haydain was always good at following directions and meeting his schedules, whether they were set by his teachers or were self-imposed. Haydain’s personal motto could well have been, “Do it right the first time. He enjoyed some courses more than others, having favorite classes and teachers. His favorite class in high school was Biology. The teacher he enjoyed learning from the most was Mr. Josee. He will be remembered by his classmates for his involvement in Drama, Band, Student Council Elections and Fashion Shows.      Haydain’s practical work ethic carried over into his college years. His logical mind permitted him to work hard without succumbing to the usual distractions of college life. He would tackle an assignment and work through it before moving onto the next project. Haydain’s orderly nature gave way to establishing personal study habits and procedures that not only helped him stay on track but often put him ahead of schedule. When Haydain saw the need or benefit, he would willingly take on the extra assignment or even attend extra classes in order to learn more and become a better student. He studied Biology at the University of Guelph for three years. His favorite courses were Biology, Science and Elective Music. During his time at university he started the band "jacksoul". The band went on to win 2 Juno awards for their first single "Unconditional Love". Haydain enjoyed participating in the annual Robby Burns Supper.      Haydain was sociable and approachable. Because he was always so straightforward in how he approached relationships, friends and family knew that what they saw was always what they got. He enjoyed the camaraderie of being with a group of friends. When Haydain was a member of a group, his interaction worked to keep the others grounded. He wasn’t afraid to confront his friends and, when necessary, he challenged them to stick to the task at hand. Those close to Haydain came to expect his high standards of performance. While growing up, some of his best friends were Len and Omar.       An objective and conscientious individual, Haydain reveled in the security of his family. In June of 1995 Haydain exchanged wedding vows with Michaela at the Bamboo Restaurant, Queen St. West in Toronto, Ontario. One of Haydain’s most endearing qualities was his uncanny ability to remember important dates and anniversaries, and his unending enthusiasm for organizing a celebration for his family and friends.      Haydain was ever watchful of his daughter. He worried about her and was deeply concerned for her development as she grew. He maintained a firm hand in her upbringing. Haydain would give his stamp of approval to her requests, as long as he could see how they might benefit. He also had the ability to enforce the rules as needed to ensure that his daughter was properly raised. Haydain was blessed with one child, Yasmeen Hudson Neale.      Being a hard worker who praised efficiency, Haydain was always striving to make improvements where they were necessary. He was able to analyze situations and problems, keeping everything and everyone on track. An excellent project supervisor, Haydain was a person who could quickly make decisions based on the information available. He worked cooperatively and expected the same from his colleagues. In both his personal and professional environments, Haydain upheld his standards. His primary occupation was a music arranger and composer (Manager of Performers). Haydain was a team player who certainly lived out the motto of “give me a job, and I will get it done.”      Haydain approached his leisure time in the same manner that he approached his life. A person who enjoyed being neat and orderly and one who understood the nature of things, he appreciated the hours he was able to devote to his various hobbies, especially his music. He was also a supporter of the Cancer Drive - Kiss Cancer Good Bye. Haydain was content to enjoy his favorite pastimes alone but was also willing to share his interests with others.      Playing by the rules was a natural thing for Haydain to do in life and that carried over to his enjoyment of sports. In high school, Haydain played Soccer and Basketball. In his college years, Haydain continued to stay active by playing Soccer and Basketball and he sang the opening anthem for the Toronto Basketball Team. Haydain enjoyed Music, Launching Bands and teaching at the Summer Composers College Workshop. He also was something of a sports fan and enjoyed watching his favorite events whenever he got the opportunity. He enjoyed watching all sports on tv.      Being generous with his time and energy, Haydain liked to belong to a variety of groups and organizations. He was a vocal leader who enjoyed being a part of things. His desire to uphold traditions and his ability to take charge of any type of project made him a tremendous asset. In high school, Haydain was a member of the Fund raising Drive and the Student Council. In college, Haydain joined the Guelph University Robert Burns Group and was involved in the Poetry Newsletter. Throughout his later years, Haydain was an active member of the band "jacksoul" and the President of the Canada Writers Legislation Guild.      A civic-minded person, Haydain was usually ready to jump in and help with community activities. He was the type of person who could masterfully organize events and projects and then see to it that they were run in an efficient and timely manner. Haydain was a member of several community groups, including serving on committees for the African Black History and School Boards Motivationals. Politically, Haydain had a Universal scope of Political interests including Music Legislation. During these years, Haydain applied his analytical intellect to problem solving and so was an asset on most committees.      Faith was important to Haydain. He held high moral standards and was worried about the moral decay he saw around him. For that reason he held deep spiritual beliefs that he was willing to share. He was a member of his mom's Christ Church Unity Center on the Mountain, which is now SISO on 21 Rosedene Ave., where he was instrumental in fund raising for the Unity Sound System.      As someone who placed a high value on showing gratitude, Haydain could graciously accept a “thank you” extended to him by those he helped. However, individual recognition wasn’t a motivating force for Haydain; rather, when he saw that there was a need to get something done, he was more than willing to give his time and energy in order to see it accomplished. Some of his most prestigious awards included 2 Juno Awards as the lead singer of the band "jacksoul".      When it came time to travel or take a vacation, Haydain used his scheduling expertise to make sure everyone and everything was ready to go. That also meant that he made certain no single person was overworked in putting the trip together. Haydain had a knack for making sure that everyone who was involved had their specific tasks and that those tasks were completed. Favorite vacations included Vancouver, Japan, Tokyo, Barbados and the Montreal Jazz Festivals.      Haydain was a lover of animals and cherished his pets. One of Haydain’s favorites was a lap dog. They were best friends for years. He also had guinea pigs and a porcupine.            Haydain passed away on November 22, 2009 at Toronto, Ontario. After a battle against lung cancer. He is survived by his wife, daughter, mother, and 3 sisters. A memorial service will be held at the Marlatt Funeral Home on December 12, 2009 at 2:30 pm, (615 Main Street East in Hamilton 905-528-6303).      All who knew him would agree that Haydain was a pillar of the community. He lived his life with his feet firmly on the ground. He had a strong work ethic, was pragmatic in his thoughts and acts, and constantly sought the means for self-improvement. He was willing to share his ideas and knowledge for the benefit of others, so that they could accomplish more in their lives. Mr. Haydain Neale did his best to ensure that his family, friends, loved ones, co-workers, and everyone whose life he touched was given the chance to become a better person.The following poem composed by Haydain's mother is dedicated to his memory and as a tribute to his Trinidadian roots.Ode to MothersOde to MothersBoth grandparents owned groundprovisions properties.Grand ma Berta danced tons of cocoa and coffee beans.Grand ma Lilly managed long termliabilities.Grandpa Scott wallowed his profits curetobacco leafs.Berta brought up five children whoexcelled in school.Lilly bless her soul father's ma brought up ten great skilled traders.Both dads waited patiently for Vja Day celebrations.Grand ma's skirt turned into the Revenue holders, referees if children gotswindled.Moms calculated cost of each kind of marbles they even over seared the marble ring designs.Dads and grand fathers stooped tomentor neighbourhood disruptive kidswhen fun turned into fights.Grandmothers Ambassadors got up fromthe step to cool tempers with fresh bakedbreads. Coconut sweet breads, coconut buns. And too loom.Even sugar cakes and coconut turnovers and busters from Jamaica.Overheads were not prevalent in thosedays except the noise of Zeppelinsplanes.Stocks and bonds haggling at markets cash flows were selling of goats and pigs. No commissioners of income taxes backin the fifties.Children counted their marbles for themto learn about their 'proprietorship's".Mother's co-operatives taught children toplay without cheating.Gathering their marbles as winners boast.You can hear their noise for soh.Or scared boys who were soar losers pelt.Stones fly, they did not win any marbles to carry back home.Moms solved problems before childrengot into fights by holding onto ear lobes.Mother's day we knew the meaning ofRed carnations for living mothers.White carnations for moms no longer alive.Teachers annually coached classes toSOLEMNLY recite.MOTHERS' ODE The poem I sing loudly on Mother's Day.copy right author Geneva M. Neale (Audain) 2009M is for the Million things she gave me"M" is for the million things she gave me, "O" means only that she's growing old, "T" is for the tears she shed to save me, "H" is for her heart of purest gold; "E" is for her eyes, with love-light shining, "R" means right, and right she'll always be, Put them all together, they spell "MOTHER," A word that means the world to me.(author unknown)