McGilley & Sheil Funeral Home & Cremation Services

11924 East 47th Street, Kansas City, MO


Utimio "Dave" Zapien

13 décembre 193030 avril 2020

Utimio “Dave” Zapien, 89, passed peacefully at home on April 30, 2020. He was born December 13, 1930. (Or was it ’31? He was never quite sure.) His parents, Ynocencio Alderete Zapien and Paula Martinez Zapien, raised their large family in the East Bottoms of Kansas City. He was the seventh of twelve children (Paul, Pauline, Marcelino, Joseph, Rudolph, Saturnino, Raphael, Christopher, John, Thomas, and Raymond). Dave’s childhood tales included memories of growing corn and picking apricots, plums, cherries, and pecans from the family trees. He also got into a fair amount of mischief on the nearby tracks, like “borrowing” enormous blocks of ice or “surplus” watermelons from unattended railcars.

After graduating from De La Salle Military Academy, Dave began studies at UMKC’s School of Pharmacy. He soon left college to follow many of his brothers into the Armed Forces, joining the Navy from 1949-1953. He married Maria Alicia “Licha” Rios on September 22, 1956 and the two of them started a family of their own on Kansas City’s Westside.

Over the years, Dave worked as a salesman for Rust Sash & Door, CE Morgan, and Mid-States Millwork. He sold doors, windows, and locks to builders throughout the greater Kansas City area and was in the Million Dollar Sales Club in 1978.

Dave was a longtime parishioner of Our Lady of Guadalupe Church, serving as usher and lector. He was a member of the Legion of Mary and president of the Our Lady of the Americas PTA. At the Mexican fiestas, he helped build the main dance stage, sold Italian sausages, and with Licha’s help, managed ticket sales. He loved traveling and gathering with family and enjoyed many casino buffets. He liked to cook on special occasions and his turkey, gravy, and stuffing were legendary. Even as his health declined, he continued his steadfast devotion to Our Lady of Guadalupe, Saint Faustina Kowalska, and his favorite charities. Ever true to his Kansas City roots, Dave was a lifelong fan of both the Chiefs and Royals, win or lose. During the Chiefs Super Bowl run, his caretakers (Licha, Laura, and Susan) always made sure he was sporting Arrowhead red.

Dave is survived by his loving wife of sixty-three years; brothers Saturnino, Raphael, John, and Thomas; his children Cindy Zapien, Laura Contreras, Susan (Kevin) Swope, Stephen (Eileen) Zapien, Tom (Gina) Shay-Zapien, and Tim (Graciela) Zapien; twenty-two grandchildren (Erica, Alexis, Nicholas (Rosa), Jennifer (Dwayne), Joshua (Linda), Caleb, Isabella, Gabe, Noah, Samuel, Ian, Alexander, Leah, Abram, Bennett, Lyndsey (Matt), Jordan, Alexi, Aureliano, Sebastian, Salvador, Emiliano); ten great grandchildren (Aubrey, Pierce, Chase, Chloe, Rudy, Erick, Emiana, Uziel, Mason, and Wyatt); and many nieces, nephews, and friends.

In addition to his parents and seven siblings, Dave is preceded in death by his son, David (Cathy) Zapien and daughter-in-law, Stacey (Tim) Zapien.

While our celebration of Dave has been restricted due to the ongoing pandemic, the impact of his exemplary life and abiding love is limitless.

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to Dave’s favorite charity, St. Labre Indian School (stlabre.org). Arr: McGilley & Seil Chapel, 11924 E. 47th St., KCMO 64133. ww.mcgilleysheil.com.


  • Mass of Christian Burial

    mardi, 5 mai , 2020

  • Committal Service

    mardi, 5 mai , 2020


Utimio "Dave" Zapien


Steve Belen

11 mai , 2020

The Belen family extends our deepest sympathies to the Zapien family. Our love, thoughts, and prayers are with all of you during this time.

Guadalupe Hanson

6 mai , 2020

Dear Primos and Aunt Licha,
My heart breaks again for all of you with this news. Please know that though I am far away, I am thinking of all of you. Uncle Date was always good to me, and I loved to hear him laugh. He was always interested in what I was doing, and I enjoyed visiting with him every time I saw him.
You will always be in my heart, Uncle Date, as one of the uncles who helped shape me and my family into who we are. You are dearly loved! May God surround you with His eternal love and bless your loving family. And, please, give Davey a hug from me.

Alfredo Parra

6 mai , 2020

My heartfelt sympathy to Licha and family. I will always appreciate how kind you both were to me growing up as a kid on the Westside and as an adult as well.

Annalisa Zapien-Pina Young

5 mai , 2020

My memories of youth and growing up , just up the street from my cousins are endearing to me. I remember well playing together, hanging out when we were older. Going over to listen to records with Cindy, or playing outside with everyone in their back yard. Sometimes we would just sit, watching traffic go by, together. Visiting their house was special because of the laughter and love that filled the air. From the times of watching the beautiful roses that grew in the front yard, to just sharing that special time. We learned from who we came from, what family means. The Zapien family , my dad and his older brother Uncle Date were close and belonged to many of the same things to together. We went to the same church, the same school , and belong to one community that was in large part an extension of family . Who and what we each achieved in life is in large part a direct result of that strong foundation. Thank you Uncle Date for along with all our Uncles and Aunt, you helped maintain the meaning of family unity. I believe Grandpa and Grandma were the center-stones and their legacy was the strong foundation , that was maintained by their children.

Robert "Robby" Daniels

5 mai , 2020

I was very sorry to read about the loss of your brother in today's paper which appeared in the KC Star the same day as my mother's obituary. May his memory be a blessing for you and your family. I hope that you are well and safe in these pandemic times.
Rob Daniels

Katrina Rojas Vincent

2 mai , 2020

My condolences and prayers to the Zapien Family. May Mr. Zapien rest in peace and his memories live forever.

Katrina Rojas Vincent