My husband , Seymore,was Irwin's first cousin. I saw him growing up,a pride to his father, Sol.  As an attorney, he was a respected capable, just, charitable, and ethical man.  For several years, he was a great help to my handicapped niece, Linn, doing legal work for her,even traveling to Stockholm, N.J. where she lived.  For his many hours on the phone with her and his advice, he  took no compensation.  I was proud  to be a relative and friend.  I was also very fond of MaryLou.  I'm now 93 and live in Sarasota.  My sincere condolences.

Irwin was one of those larger than life people .
I remember feeling very proud of being related to him when I read an article in the Press of Atlantic City. It told of his taking up cases of police wrongdoing as well as their union protecting them from accountability.
That inspired me to contact him .

Than memories came flooding back such as his teaching me the fundamentals of basketball when I was 10 years old, in addition too him being very patient he was a great teacher,

He was my Grandmother Pearl’ s nephew . She was the sister of Red’s father.

Watching the funeral service  it was clear how he was loved by all the testimonials.

Sincere condolences to Marylou  and the family.

Steven Fenichel 

Our sincere condolences on  Red’s passing. Inspiring to hear the remarkable impact Red had on his family and many friends. A life well lived! The world would be a better place if there were more like him.May his memory be a blessing and an example for all.

Dear Marylou, Scott and Betsy,
What an amazing tribute to a most amazing man.  As Matty said, “he was one of a kind” and we feel privileged to have been part of his life.  We remember the yearly Dartmouth games, where Mort shared Red’s  giant sized enthusiasm for Dartmouth and the game of football, while Marylou and Susan had equal enthusiasm for such things as Creatiive Playthings at the Princeton games and various other non sport related activities.
We remember the fun times, the tiny quail alone on a dinner plate for which we had waited about two hours.  Above all, we remember laughing.  And of course, we think of the phone calls after so many difficult health crises.  Red, when obviously suffering, presented a positive outlook on his condition and a well thought out opinion on the current political situation, never missing a beat.
It’s been 60 years sharing each other’s joy and sorrow,  Through all this our friendship has endured and has been a source of support and pleasure for each other.  We miss him.

Our family, Judith, David and I, watched this beautiful tribute together, and many tears were shed. We recalled Red taking Adam to a 49er/Giants game at the Meadowlands. Adam brought his huge 49er finger and Red said that they almost didn’t make it to the car after the game alive. Judith remembers napping contests with Betsy at several shows. I recall when you borrowed our apartment once and left us with “rye bread” meatballs. So many wonderful memories, it is impossible to remember Red without laughing.
Your loss is great, but so are the wonderful memories he left us with. His memory is truly a blessing.❤️❤️❤️

Dear Marylou, Scott & Betsy,

We have so many wonderful memories of Red that we will cherish forever. His smile, his sense of humor and his love for life and family were infectious. We always loved spending time with our cousin Red. He made us feel so special. We will miss him dearly. We’re sorry we couldn’t be there with you but know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Sending you all our love and heartfelt condolences.

We love you,

Norma, Carl, Steven & Lisa

I have many memories of our two families spending time together in both NYC and SF as a child growing up.  Some highlights are Betsy's famous tea concoction at Sammy's, Adam's survival at 49er game when he went with Scott and Red and taunted the NY fans, etc. Red and Marilou always made time to see me when I was in town. Famous Red lingo used regularly in my life is " hang a u-ey". 
The service was beautiful and we wished we could have been there in person.
Love always,
Judith Rubinson Kashyap (and Anan, Anjali and Ari)


Dear Marylou, Scott and Betsy,

What a very meaningful service that so accurately portrayed Red's life and his genuine love for all his family and friends.  He will certainly be missed by us and all whose path he crossed. 

Our love to you three and your entire family,  Ellen and Phil



We are celebrating Red’s life and memory today.  All our love, Roberta and Rick Melli.

Dear Marylou, Scott, and Betsy,
A favorite, recent memory celebrating Red turning 80, recalling his beaming smile, his joy to be with family and friends, his enthusiasm for sports, and his world-class sense of humor.
With Love from Linda and Dan 

Many of Irwin’s friends believed him to be an only child.  In actuality Red had three brothers who “adopted” him in the 1950s.  To the oldest Larry, who was a day younger, he was a best friend and confidant until Larry passed away in 2001.  To Norman and Bobby, he was a companion, mentor, educator and lifelong friend. 
Red always brought joy, laughter and love into his brother’s lives and their homes.
Rest in peace big brother.  You will be terribly missed but never forgotten.
Bobby


Bobby and I wish to express our sincere and heartfelt condolences to Marylou, her children Scott and Betsy and their entire family on the passing of Red. Red been an inspiration to everyone in his strength and courage and constant humor enduring his illness these past years. He will be sorely missed. 

Red and I met during our freshman year at Dartmouth. We sat next to each other in Zoology class and became good friends which lasted all through college and law school and beyond. I’ll always remember Red(I never got used to calling him Irwin even when his hair turned grey) for his thoughtfulness, intelligence, concern for democracy and for his wonderful sense of humor, even when faced with adversity. Bonnie and I shared many happy celebrations with Red, Marylou, Scott and Betsy and extend our deepest condolences to all of you. I feel I am a better person for having known Red.
Paul Gartner

Dear Marylou and family,
From “Indian Princesses” to State Orchestras and family events in between, we shared so many fond memories with you snd Red.
He was a caring person  and good friend.   Will miss his good humor  and smile.
Our thoughts are with you all.

Love, Toby, Suzanne,Andrew


This picture is how I always think of Red - smiling.  It’s from the days before iPhones so the quality of the picture isn’t the best - but the quality of Red’s smile never changed.
Love, Sue

I will never forget the night Red and my brother, Marc, made dinner and served 4 courses to myself and seven friends.  This occasion came about as I was the high bid on a South Mt Primary school's raffle whereby "Red" and Marc donated their services and dinner to the PTA.   I obviously overpaid but it was worth every moment.   The dinner did in fact receive a 4 star rating.  Red you will be greatly missed.  Your humor and outlook on life will be treasured...

Dear Mary Lou and family,
We extend our deepest condolences to you and all Red’s dear ones upon his passing. Our times with him were few but they were always so enjoyable and filled with admiration for the very fine, upstanding, courageous person he was. We know he will be sorely missed by his dearest ones but we will miss him as well. May he Rest In Peace.
Our love and deepest sympathy,
Arlene and Dan Neiditz

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Irwin "Red" Facher

13 septembre 1939 – 22 novembre 2021

Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel

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