I learned only yesterday from reading The Messenger that Allen had passed away.  I got to know Al on our trip to New Brunswick, Canada in 1978.  That trip was a wonderful time for me because of the people in our group from NNC and the folks who hosted us there.  I found Allen to be thoughtful, kind, and intelligent, and an important part of my experience.  Please accept my condolences on the loss of this wonderful person--your husband, father, brother, grandfather, and dear friend.

PART TWO
One summer he joined van loads of students on a trip to Nova Scotia, where they spent the summer building a parsonage and church building.  The year following his graduation from college he spent in Nampa doing painting and construction work.

Allen's next stop was University of Oregon in Eugene, where he  earned a master's degree in European intellectual history.  Feeling the market for history professors was too competitive, he headed for a career in psychology.  Equipped with only a couple of under-graduate psychology classes he went to Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, California where he pursued and earned both a master's degree in theology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology.  Even more important than his degrees was something truly and profoundly life-changing:  He met his wife-to-be Selma, who was a classmate en-rolled in the same program.

Allen and Selma married and had two wonderful sons, Michael and Eric. After a few years in California the young family moved to Florida.  For the eight years preceding Allen's death he fought a notably courageous battle to regain his health, and even to remain alive, to continue to be with his wife, his beloved sons, and grandchildren. Allen's grace, courage, optimism, consideration of others, and sweet spirit entirely devoid of bitterness or anger or resentment during his very long ordeal was clearly and amazingly evident to all. 
Allen is remembered as highly intelligent, very gentle, serious without being austere, soft-spoken and kind to others,  not interested in trifles but always always having an eye for the humorous, and who, as mentioned above, thoroughly distinguished himself as a man who was constantly brave and gracious in the face of long and extreme suffering, even as he faced death. 
Allen is survived by his tirelessly courageous and loving wife Selma,
by his two sons, Michael and Eric, of whom he was very justifiably
proud, his wonderful grandchildren. and sisters Wava and Loris.

FIRST PART - SECOND PART POSTED SEPARATELY

Allen Bruce Fleming was born 21 June 1957 in Edmonton, Alberta,
Canada, the son of Bruce and Lorene (Amonson) Fleming.   Allen's father was an accomplished carpentry craftsman, a school teacher, and a Nazarene pastor.  His mother was a pediatric nurse.   Allen's growing up years were spent in various places in Canada – Edmonton, Port Alberni – but mostly in Davis, California, where he  graduated from high school in 1975 and was a rabid San Francisco Giants fan.

Allen attended Northwest Nazarene College (now University) in Nampa, Idaho, from 1975 until graduating in 1979 with high honors, taking a degree in history.   While at NNC he played racquetball, was a teaching assistant in the history department, sang bass in several choirs and vocal ensembles, was assistant editor of The Crusader, the college newspaper, and was a member of the student body judicial board as well as the joint student-faculty publications board.   Allen and his partners in crime spent many gleeful hours rolling on the floor laughing while composing satirical “spoof” letters to the editor of the college newspaper, creating much “spinoff” laughter for discerning members of the student body.   Allen ostensibly was “pre-law”, but he never really wanted to be an attorney or go to law school.

Allen was a skilled carpenter, roofer, and painter, having learned
those skills while working with his father on various construction
projects, most notably the family cabin that they built in Celista,
BC, on the shore of Shuswap Lake.   At the end of every school year
while at NNC Allen drove his white '66 Ford station wagon home to
Davis, California to spend the summer working, often in painting
houses (however, some of his funniest stories were from when he worked at a Jack-in-the-Box restaurant in Davis).  [CONTINUED IN NEXT POST]

Selma, Eric and Allen in Clifton, Virginia.

Eric, Selma and Allen in Northern Virginia.

Kathi, Eric, Selma, Allen and Dave in Northern Virginia.

Allen was a close friend during undergrad days at Northwest Nazarene College in Nampa, Idaho.  We were there in Nampa for 5 years and roomed together the last 3.
Allen was quiet, intelligent, thoughtful, serious, kind, and enjoyed a good laugh.
I look forward to seeing him again on the Last Day, that glorious and wonderful Day.

We met in 2015, a green bedside nurse who  later became a friend. You taught me to be sure of myself with my nursing intuition and to advocate for my patients. Selma and I grew close during your first few challenges and I made sure to take care of you as if you were family. I’m going to miss you Allen, and pray that you are no longer in pain and are  able to eat all the bananas foster your heart desires. 

“FLEMMING!” I would shout as I entered your room. Your eyes would roll and then you’d give me a smirk. Thank you for always humoring me. I would always tell you how strong you were- I hope you knew I wasn’t joking about that.  I hope you’re at peace with our Lord, I’ll cherish our walks and laughs. Thank you for the memories

Dear Selma, I would have wanted to have been with you and your family during these moments. Allen was your soulmate, a great husband and a loving and caring father to both Michael and Eric. He is being missed by everyone but I am certain he is looking down on us smiling as he sees all the love everyone is showing and how much he impacted everyone’s lives!! Allen, we will see you sometime soon!! Say hello to Mamita & Papa on our behalf!! Con mucho cariño, 
Joanna De Jesus & Sergio Gonzalez
Sergio Andres Gonzalez & Deborah Collazo
Joanna Carolina Gonzalez 

My husband Sean and I send our condolences to Allen's family.  Allen was an amazing guy, a great psychologist, and colleague, and a bright light. May God gives his family comfort and strength during this difficult time. May his memories bring comfort and peace.  
With our deepest sympathy and love. 

Dear Selma and family,

We are praying God will give you, Eric and Michael Peace, Comfort and strength during this very difficult time. We know Allen is in Heaven where he will continue to guide and look after the family.  Our heartfelt sympathies. God Bless, Rene and Liliana

Our deepest condolences and prayers to you, family and loved one's.  Rest in eternal paradise 🙏 
Sending hugs and 


Uncle Al, you were such a faithful husband and father to your family.  Aunt Selma’s love for you has no bounds, and your boys will also carry your love and memories in their hearts forever. I appreciate the example you set for me in how to show love to others through the spirit of hospitality. We will always remember your generosity and how you accepted our family as an extension of your own. 

I’m very saddened by your passing, but also encouraged by the thought of your reunion with grandma and grandpa. I can see them embracing you now, and showering you with the love they’ve always had for you — their only son. I love you so much, will never forget you, and look forward to seeing you again!

Jerrod

My deepest condolences to you and your family. May God give you the strength necessary to make it through these very difficult moments. 

Selma, I am so sorry to hear about Allen.  He was such a loving husband and father.  I will never forget how willing he was to provide my guidance and advise when I was beginning my doctoral degree.  

May all your beautiful memories of the last 40 years bring you peace and comfort.  You, Michael, and Eric are in my thoughts.  May Allen rest in peace.



 Dad, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for being an exceptional father and grandfather. You have always been my hero, and I've treasured your guidance throughout my life. Although I cannot see you in person, I have faith that you will remain by my side during both the brightest days and the darkest nights. We will be reunited again for eternity, so take this temporary break from me and my jokes as a chance to find peace. Dad, I love you, and may you rest in eternal peace.

Selma, my deepest condolences to you and the boys who are grown men now.  What beautiful photos .   Allen was a wonderful husband and father.  May God give you all strength and peace……

“To live in the hearts you leave behind is not to die…….. “

Take care,

Yvette Quinones

Zack and I extend our  heartfelt thoughts and prayers to Selma and her family.  Allen was a kind, courageous and caring  man who suffered way too much for way  too long.  May he rest in peace in God’s loving arms.  

Selma and family,
We’re so very sorry for your loss. It’s always hard to lose a loved one no matter even if they’ve be ill for a while. We pray that you’re comforted by knowing that Allen is with our Lord. God bless.
Kent and Layda Duda

Mom and Dad’s 50 wedding anniversary, Abbotsford, B.C., Canada, August, 2001.

Selma is the one and only love of his life.

High School (which he cared nothing about. Never did any more homework than he could accomplish in the 5 minute passing period between classes) graduation picture, 1975.

What does a girl do without her big brother? A brother, her constant companion in childhood, who teased just short of making her cry? Even when we were grown and lived different lives far from each other, Allen would bring a smile to my face when he’d answer my calls with, “Hi! How are you?”.  Allen’s character was gentle, compassionate and loyal, just like our dad.
He was faithful, PATIENT, goal-oriented, intelligent and self-sacrificing. I am a better person with him as my brother.  His influence lives on in those he loved. May we all strive to be better individuals as we continue life’s journey without him. God’s word promises that this is not the end: “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4. We will see you soon, Al. Say hi to Mom
and Dad. 

My deepest condolences to you Selma in this difficult time of grief.  Rest in peace Allen and prayers for your family.

Allen has been my brother in law since 2 years. Unfortunately my family and me only know him by fotos and videos. We would have liked to meet him in person. Nevertheless we had a close touch to him and we will him never forget. Our deepest sympathy goes to my dear sister Selma and her family.

The Wolferman and Rogin Families would like to share this memory of Allen and Selma holding their grandson, Charles Allen! 

Allen loved videos of Charles and embraced the role of being grandpa. He looked forward to watching new videos of Charles and hearing stories about him. Charles has a new guardian angel. 

Having a loving and strong marriage for 40years is an accomplishment! More so when  
compromised health  becomes a long term reality.    Allen and Selma met  every health crisis head on -positively and with more love for one another with each ensuing  one.   I too  with Selma hoped and prayed for Allen’s complete recovery.Not false reassurance but hopes that  the power of prayer along with the best of medical and nursing care could achieve this goal. Allen is now at peace,smiling from his celestial home. Physically he left us.Spiritually he will always be present.May you rest  in eternal peaxe  dear Allen.🙏🏻🙏🏻🌹❤️ Cathy

My sympathy and condolences goes out for families. I know Allen and selma for a while. I was working with him,  he’s very nice person. Always been a happy person, always willing and able. I miss him, but god know how he’s going through 
Allen is a good person. God blessings always.

I am honored to have meet Allen  with my late husband. We both found Allen to be such a gentleman.  My deep condolences to the Fleming-DeJesus family. 
Love, light, prayer and blessings during this difficult time. -Valerie DeJesus-Steele

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Losing someone dear is never easy, and my heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family during this difficult time. If there's anything I can do to support you, please let me know.
-Lily

In 2020, an amazing group of graduate school friends gathered in Miami to celebrate our lifelong connections and catch up on where life’s journey had brought us. Allen had been ill for quite some time, but his smile, his sardonic wit, and his love for us hadn’t changed. This is the picture of Allen I’ve carried in my heart since then. His memory will be a blessing. 

Allen and Selma are two of our oldest and dearest friends.  We are heartbroken by Allen’s loss. Our Fuller “FAB” crew met and became lifelong friends in grad school. Allen & Selma were the first to marry; then Allen and Selma were our best man and bridesmaid in our wedding in 1986. We have cherished so many wonderful memories through the years. We have been a lifeline for one another on a daily basis in a group text where we share our greatest joys and our deepest griefs, and so very much laughter. Allen’s daily voice is so missed by us already. Speaking from Loren, “I will truly miss his very dry wit, and his terrible taste in movies, or should I say his impeccable taste for bad movies?”
Godspeed, dear friend. 
❤️🙏 Forever with love and thanks for your friendship, Deb & Loren

Selma, Allen, Deb & Loren in our early days at Fuller

Loren Mallory & Allen Fleming looking fine at Sally Howard and Peter Schou’s wedding

Our beautiful friends all dolled up for Christmas

First time we all gathered again after many years at Selma & Allen’s in Florida: Allen, Loren, Selma, Sally, Deb & Sue

Our reunion at Loren & Deb’s in Oregon: 
Loren, Deb, Sally, Allen, Selma, Gail (and Nik), Tim, Sue
Eric & Michael in front

Allen is one of the finest people I’ve ever had the good fortune to befriend.  He will be sorely missed for many, many years.  My deepest condolences go to his beautiful family.

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Allen B. Fleming

21 juin 1957 – 28 juin 2023

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