It’s a year today since my therapist, Ken Porter died. His death was his last gift to me, in that abandonment has been my lifelong issue. As a result of working with him for six years, I have healed dramatically,  I owe a debt of gratitude to Ken for that. I have gone back to my previous therapist, who recommended Ken to me many years ago. I have done mourning work and continue to heal. But it was Ken who made all this possible, with his kindness, wisdom, and honesty. I will always love you and appreciate what you have done for me.
Ira Bindman, PhD

Today is two years that Ken has died. I think of him all the time. I came to Ken 20 years ago with material that no one else was able to take me into. With Kens skills, patience, and love I made my way out of the dark tunnel. Kens commitment to his own deep spiritual process was and continues to be an inspiration. His ability and choice to challenge himself and his traditional upbringing was nothing short of courageous. Whether he was being serious or poking fun at himself, everything was expressed with love. When Keanu Reeves was asked what he thought happens after death he said, “ those living will miss them.” I will miss Ken for a long time.
And I am sure he is still moving deeply through his process. Light speed dear friend.

I did not know Ken extremely well, we had dinner together just a few times together and exchanged a number of email about patients and matters of importance to us.  But in those moments of connection, I felt a centered, courageous, sensitive and loving spirit flow from him in every thing he said and did.  A most perceptive and kind hearted man, he gave from his heart, intellect, and spirit in a natural, effortless way.  I valued knowing him and will always remember the feeling of being in his presence.  

Shocked to think that it has been a year since Kit’s passing. Kit was my therapist for several years leading up to his untimely passing. Even though a year has elapsed, I think of him daily and feel his presence and wisdom often. Having the opportunity to get to know Kit has been one of the most formative and enriching experiences of my life. It is challenging to explain the gratitude and affection I feel for him and always will.  I miss him deeply

I just now, in Jan 2022, found out that dear Ken died last March and I am in shock. We met in 1982 on a blind date and dated seriously for a year during which time we got to know each others family and friends well. After our romantic relationship ended, we remained close friends over the years. He was very supportive of my work as a therapist and he attended my healing painting retreats, Painting From The Source. He sent me a copy of his book which I enjoyed... and we spoke shortly before his death.  Speaking with him was always an uplifting experience. I cant imagine life with him not being here. I never met his wife Ute, but I wish her well. Aviva Gold

Ken has been a beacon of wisdom and generosity in my life for many years.  His deep caring for patients and colleagues was so evident in his clinical postings and comments.  He showed a keen eye for what was truly important in  complicated, messy, detail oriented clinical narratives, while always maintaining a high degree of medical creativity and intelligence .  He was open to many perspectives, especially the roles of spirituality and mystical experience in human existence.  I was shocked and saddened to hear of his death, and know that this loss will be deeply affecting to many.  

I wish to give my condolences and grief-filled memories to Ute, Ken Porter's wife, who I met on March 20th when Ken  was my Discussant  at the ORI conference, when I gave 2 keynote papers on Closet Narcissism.  I tried writing to Ute by writing to Ken's (Kit's) email, but I don't think she looked there.  I haven't heard back.  It was such a huge shock to hear Ken had died 3 days after the Objext Relations Institute 
Conference, where he played a prominent role.  I am glad I was able to give Ken (Dr. Porter) a chance to express his ideas at a public forum before he tragically died.  Ken was a friend and colleague, who had read a lot of my work, and wrote many notes of appreciation.  He responded to one of my six books, "Mourning, Spirituality, and Psychic Change..." (Routledge 2003) very strongly due to his own interest in mourning in the clinical process.  He understood my cases well, and spoke of some of this when giving his discussion at the conference.  He had sent me his new book on Spiritual Psychotherapy, "Apollo's Lyre," and I read it fully.  He spoke in response to my papers on Closet Narcissism at the conference we at ORI had on that topic (I am the Founder and Executive Director at ORI).  I resonated strongly with his thinking, and our friendly email correspondence was always mutually appreciative of each other's work.  I was glad to give him the opportunity to speak right after his book was published.  I am so sad not to be able to continue our friendship, which developed through email in the last two years.  Yet we had known each other before, when we both taught at NIP in the 1980s.
So sad to lose him.  My heart and thoughts go out to his lovely wife Ute.  I hope she gets to read this.
Dr. Susan Kavaler-Adler
drkavaleradler@gmail.com
www.kavaleradler.com


Ken was my group supervisor at NIP and later became my friend.
We shared an interest in meditation and spirituality and would sometimes meet after a meditation at Quest book shop for dinner and conversation.
Ken and George became friends and led several workshops together at NYI.
I admired his intellect, kindness and honesty.
He will be missed and never forgotten.

My heartfelt sympathies TO  the family .I’m 69 years old and during my mid 20’s KEN  was my therapist and had a profound influence on my life going forward ,  He helped me understand my inner self and launched the lifelong  process of freeing me from from the ‘ sound of of my own wheels’ that were holding back . ETERNALLY GRATEFUL. RIP KEN 

AVIS DE DÉCÈS

Kenneth Porter

24 janvier 1943 – 23 mars 2021

Riverside Memorial Chapel

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