Agnes Q. O'Connor

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Agnes Quaini O’Connor, 90, a long-time resident of Old Lyme, died September 4, 2021 in Omaha, Nebraska.

Agnes was born as a United States citizen in Varese, Lombardy, Italy on January 18, 1931, the daughter of Angelo and Angela (Gianoli) Quaini and arrived in the US on the SS Rex in 1934. After graduating from Southern Connecticut State College, she married Joseph E. O’Connor in West Haven on July 4, 1953; Agnes and Joe were happily married for almost 63 years until his death in 2016. Throughout Joe’s career in the United States Navy, during which he rose to the rank of Captain and was often out to sea on submarine patrol, Agnes was the family’s steady captain at home. After moving many times with the Navy, Agnes and Joe moved to their beloved Old Lyme in 1979.

Agnes lived every day with great enthusiasm and devotion to things she was passionate about.

Her greatest joys were in the raising of her children and time spent with her grandchildren. Her love was unconditional, and she always supported and encouraged her children to be the best they could be. Her grandchildren’s annual summer vacation visits were joyous occasions that Agnes marked with balloons on the mailbox, big tins of their favorite cookies, trips to the beach, and the performance of her annual cartwheel that delighted the kids until her doctor finally forbade it. The love and pride she felt toward her family was on display whenever she drove around town with her “GRAMAO” license plate and rear window covered in stickers from her children’s and grandchildren’s colleges.

Agnes loved children and was a teacher in the West Haven School System prior to raising her own children. She served on the Lyme-Old Lyme School Board for many years, including a term as Chairwoman. She was a lifelong learner who loved reading and was a generous volunteer and donor at the Old Lyme Phoebe Griffin Noyes Library and would often say “if you can read, you can learn to do anything.” She loved nature and was an avid gardener and member of the Duck River Garden Club and the Florence Griswold Museum Garden Gang as well as a member of the Board of Trustees of the Old Lyme Land Trust.

Agnes had a deep faith and was an active participant in Catholic parishes wherever she lived; she was very involved at Christ the King Church in Old Lyme in many capacities over the last 40 years.

Agnes has been called home by husband Joe and sons John and David. She is survived by daughter Elizabeth (Michael) Dickoff of MN and son Joseph (Kathryn) O’Connor, Jr. of NE; grandchildren John (Julianna Simon) Dickoff, Meghan (David) Blodgett, Joseph (Caitlin) O’Connor, Matthew Dickoff, Sarah (Morgan McLean) O’Connor and Timothy (Sarah) O’Connor; great grandchildren Agnes Simon-Dickoff, Sam Blodgett, John O’Connor, Danny O’Connor and Edie Blodgett; beloved sisters Joanne Flynn, Wilhelmina Pandolfi and Mary Ann Tarantino; many nieces and nephews; and Paul Nkamsi, whom Agnes and Joe remained close with since serving as his sponsor family while he was a cadet at the Coast Guard Academy.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Saturday, October 2, 2021 at 11:00am in Christ the King Church, 1 McCurdy Road, Old Lyme, CT. Interment will follow in Duck River Cemetery, Old Lyme. Calling Hours will be held on Friday, October 1, 2021 from 5:00 until 7:00pm in Fulton-Theroux Funeral Home, 13 Beckwith Ln., Old Lyme, CT 06371. Masks will be required at the funeral home for all visitors.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in memory of Agnes Q. O’Connor to Christ the King Church, 1 McCurdy Road, Old Lyme, CT 06371 or The Children’s Room at Old Lyme Phoebe Griffin Noyes Library, 2 Library Lane, Old Lyme, CT 06371.

Please visit www.fultontherouxoldlyme.com for photos, tributes, directions and more service information.


  • Calling Hours

    vendredi, 1 octobre , 2021

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    samedi, 2 octobre , 2021


Agnes Q. O'Connor


Imma Nkamsi

2 octobre , 2021

May God grant you eternal rest Agnes and let perpetual light shine upon your soul. Thank you for your unconditional generosity here on earth. May God reward you with eternal bliss in heaven…🙏

MariAnne Nkamsi

2 octobre , 2021

Sleep well Agnes; you & Joe were angels on this earth. May your stars shine the brightest. Thank you both for everything.

Fran Lo

26 septembre , 2021

I worked with Agnes when she was a member of the Lyme/Old Lyme School Board. She took public service very seriously and brought earnest dedication to her role. Such a lovely woman, I remember that she kept an index card next to her phone that could explain her role precisely to members of the public who called her.

Rene and Tom Shedlosky

19 septembre , 2021

Agnes was a remarkable woman. She instantly became a friend to every person lucky enough to meet her. Her many accomplishments and contributions to Old Lyme (too numerous to list) will sustain her memory in this town forever. Think of Agnes and you'll always have a happy thought. She's someone to emulate and admire.

Countless students of the Lyme Old Lyme High School have benefited from one project Agnes actively supported and worked diligently to make a dream into a reality. It was the construction of the Boat House on Rogers Lake to permanently house the crew shells for the high school crew team. That project has given the student athletes of Old Lyme the opportunity to row not only in high school but also in college and this year, in the Olympics.

Lea Harty

13 septembre , 2021

Dear O'Connor Family, I send my condolences at the passing of a truly exceptional lady after a life so well spent. I first met Agnes 15 years ago, and she became one of my most favorite people. If I am fortunate enough to reach the age of 90, she will be my inspiration for how to live those later years without getting old. I hope all your rich and wonderful memories of Agnes bring you comfort and joy. Lea Harty

Sabine O'Donnell

13 septembre , 2021

We gratefully acknowledge Agnes' many contributions while serving as trustee of the Old Lyme Land Trust board for many years. Agnes' "can do-attitude" and wonderful sense of humor made events and endeavours a great success and joy for all!
Sabine O'Donnell
President, Old Lyme Land Trust

Christina Clayton

12 septembre , 2021

Agnes served on the Old Lyme Land Trust with me. She was the oldest member of our board but one of the most energetic, particularly when it came to outreach and events. What a wonderful sense of humor she had. And how devoted to her family and proud of her daughters and grandchildren (I believe there were some great-grandchildren in there too). We love you, Agnes.💕

Rit & Eve Manthous

11 septembre , 2021

Agnes was a fine lady, neighbor, and a good person. We thank her for her service on our School Board. May her memory be eternal.

Matt Cantner

10 septembre , 2021

Agnes was a beautiful human being. She was more of a sister to my mom than her actual sister. To my children she was a wonderful combination of the energizer bunny and a grandma. To me she was a woman who always lightened a room, put a smile on my face. Simply put she was a person we all wanted to be around because she made that day better.