Thomas Bartshe Tilney

Tom was born on January 7, 1945, in Englewood, New Jersey, to Thomas Bartshe Tilney and Barbara Jean Mason, both of New York, N.Y. He was the eldest of two brothers: Robert and Richard. He is survived by his loving wife of 57 years, Mary Jane, and their 10 children: Thomas, Robert, Daniel, Rocky, David, Timothy, Kenneth, Scott, Rebecca, and Katherine, as well as 14 grandchildren: Robert, Nicholas, Aaron, Audrey, Jackson, Devin, Carter, Sadie, Patrick, Douglas, Trevor, Sophia, Molly, and Noah.

As a young man, Tom joined the U.S. Navy and served from 1964-1969, serving overseas in Okinawa, Japan, before becoming an Aviation Machinist in the 47th Patrol Squadron, primarily maintaining turbine engines of the P-3 Orion, an aircraft used for anti-submarine operations and maritime surveillance. His Naval service finally brought him to Naval Air Station Moffett Field in Mountain View, California, where, in 1965, he would meet his future wife, Mary Jane Italiano, at the USO in San Jose.

Tom was not only a skilled technician; he also had a deep passion for art. He merged these two disciplines, becoming a master metalsmith and jewelry designer, spawning his 50+ year career of crafting fine jewelry. In 1990, Tom moved his jewelry business to Los Gatos, California, where he served the community for over 30 years, including designing and creating some of his own children’s wedding bands and sets.

Even though he was the hardest working person his family has ever known, Tom enjoyed reading science fiction novels and creating scenic art—either digitally or with traditional oil paints—and was very talented in both mediums. He was also known for engaging in deep conversations about philosophy, science, the cosmos, and politics. While his discussions on politics sometimes led to heated debates, Tom was steadfast in his beliefs but always welcomed other opinions. Those who had the privilege of knowing Tom knew of his calm demeanor and uncanny patience.

Tom loved spending time with his family, whether it was playing board games, camping at Big Basin, renting a sailboat at Vasona Park, or going to see the latest summer blockbuster movie. He continued doing these activities with his grandchildren, keeping the tradition alive. Tom was an avid coffee drinker and enjoyed piping hot coffee even on hot summer days—a habit many of his children have inherited.

His joy, playful spirit, and devotion to his family will forever be cherished by his wife, children, and grandchildren. Although he will be deeply missed, he will always be remembered as a remarkable man who was adored by all who had the privilege of knowing him.