James Willon Jim Haynes

HAYNES, James Willon – peacefully at his home on Sunday, April 8, 2012 at the age of 57. Best friend and husband for over 38 years to Kathy (nee Evans). Loving father of Dawna Bertolo (Dean) and Candace Haynes. Proud grandpa of Abigayle, Devyn and Marshall Bertolo and Cassandra Haynes. Beloved son of Marion and the late Willon Haynes. Dear brother of Barbara Periard (Roger). Special uncle to Mark Periard (Karen), Jonathan Periard (Christina) and Heather King (Brad). Brother-in-law of Wayne Evans (Carol), Lloyd Evans (Joanne), Joanne Dinsmore (Lee), Ron Evans (Barb), Larry Evans (Judy), Dale Evans (Wendy), Brian Evans (Debbie), Carol Horne (Tom), Merle Evans (Linda) and Terry Evans (Karen). Jim will be sadly missed by many nieces and nephews. Friends may call at the Arthur Funeral Home & Cremation Centre for a memorial visitation on Saturday, April 14, 2012 from 12 – 2 pm. Memorial contributions to the Diabetes Association or a charity of choice would be appreciated.

I met Jim when I was sixteen and fell instantly in love. Cathy his cousin my good friend introduced us. I don't think his mother approved. Jim and I married on October 6 1973 two days after I turned 18. We were always together he loved to collect things he had more jackets and boots than anyone I knew. On our wedding night we moved into his grandfathers old homestead. We had no money and no running water. We were expecting our first daughter Dawna she was the pride of this man. He spent every minute he could with her. She often went to work with him the first time she was only six weeks old. Three and 1/2 years later we had a second daughter Candace. She was born with alot of medical problems but he loved her as much as if she were perfect. She was always into everything and always getting into trouble after his little fit he would shrug it off and go on. We were going deeper and deeper in debt to pay medical costs for trips to Toronto so Jim kept putting in as many hours as possible at work. When Dawna was twelve I started to work part time at a local restaurant to help then in August 1987 I started to work at the local slaughter house part time and I still work there now. Jim called me every day just to talk his cell phone bill was large but that was OK because I so miss those phone calls now. Jim loved animals, music, driving truck but most of all his family. He was so excited to become a grandfather for the first time and equally the second third and fourth. Abigayle made us the first time grandparents on April 12,2004. He couldn't wait to buy her first camouflage outfit. Candace became pregnant and the father of the baby was not a good person she broke up with him on Feb 13 and we were worried about the medical problems that Candace has might affect the baby. Candace at the end of March got meningitis and ended up in a coma for about 10 days they sent her to Mount Sinas Hospital in Toronto. She was 7 months pregnant. Jim drove all the way there and we did not leave her side. When she came out of the coma he lifted her off and on the toilet because she was too weak to stand. When she got home to her apartment he got an air mattress and slept on her living room floor until we could bring her home. Then she moved to another apartment on June 1st and developed toxemia and had to have a C section. Little Cassandra was born 5 lbs 5 ounces June 2 2005. What a great grandfather. Next came our third granddaughter Devyn February 27 2006. She adored her grandpa.On May 8 2007 we had a fire and lost all our belongings including Jim's cat. He was devastated and I felt so much guilt as my carelessness caused the fire. In July our son in-law Dean got hurt bad at work. We thought that year was one of the worst but then we got a wonderful gift November 3rd 2007 Dawna & Dean gave us our first grandson Marshall Cooper Bertolo.

Jim loved all his grand babies so much. He loved to help people but wouldn't ask for help himself. He was very smart he read alot. He was loved by many and hated by few. He had a temper but it would go as fast as it came. He rarely told me that he loved me but showed me every day. I never did with out, he spoiled me and never said no. Once he said that do what ever I wanted when it came to getting a pomerian puppy and I knew that he didn't really want me to have one a little while later he called me back and said to get it that he wasn't being fair as he picked every other dog we had. He was coming back from T.O. when he got home Shadow the puppy was barking at him and growling he laughed his ass off at him. I asked him to watch him when I was at work and to take him to T.O. with him until the old dog Penny got use to him. He went to work with him almost every day until he died and became Jim's best friend and I ended up getting another puppy Ernie which Jim loved too.

Jim spent many hours downloading I Tunes. If someone he liked music from a certain band he could wait to burn them a CD. I liked this song from Enya and I bought the CD he enjoyed it so much in fact he walked his daughter Dawna down the isle on her wedding day. Anyone he cared for knew that he would do anything that he could for them, they felt safe.

Jim was the only son of Willon and Marion. He may not have been as close to them as most but he respected them as all children do. It was hard on Jim when his father died in May of 2008 at 93 but he was determined to do what he could to help his mom get through it. Who would have thought that his Mom would out live him She is now 88. He didn't speak much of his child hood but I know he didn't make friends easily he was very quiet. His best childhood memories was spending at his Aunt Laura and Uncle Ray's place on the island. His cousins were like a second family. He spoke often of John Nancy and Laurel Ann. My family was so large (I have 10 brothers and 2 sisters) at first he didn't feel comfortable as it felt like he was in a crowd but soon he became close and some were like best friends to him.

Jim didn't care much for change. He worked at Palmer Construction for over 30 years. He became close for the last few years with Mike Rainoe. The friendship appeared to be mutual. If you had the opportunity to become friends with Jim you should be honored because he would be very loyal and be there whenever you needed him.

Jim's cousin Cathy Bonnet(Haynes) was so close to him he was like a friend and brother to her. She still talks of the good times and she knows parts about Jim that I will never know. His mother said he was a timid child and he never had a baby sitter. She worried about him alot. In his teenage years I think he started to rebel against some of his parents strict Baptist beliefs but I know for a fact he always treated them with respect.

My mother died at the age of 93 on March 8 2009 and on the 22 of March we got temporary custody of our Granddaughter Cassandra. Although Jim adored her as he did all his grand babies he felt a loss of his freedom as I did mine. He became some what depressed and then his favorite job of driving the highway hauling Brick furniture came to an end and Jim became a little more depressed. He didn't feel as happy as he should have. When he was on the road he got to see our daughter Dawna and her family he looked so forward to heading down to T.O.

Jim was raised on Northland Road in Sault Ste Marie and went to SF Howle public school and high school at Bawating. He never completed high school but he was one of the most intelligent men I knew. I was so shocked a handsome man could love me as much as he did. He worked for Robinson Construction when he was seventeen as a laborer. He got his first truck driving experience driving dump truck for Louis Leblanc in 1973. After we got married Louis new son-in-law got Jim's job. In January 1974 he started working for Avery construction working in side the steel plant. He refused to cut off his long hair and therefore he was fired. May of 1974 he got a job for Wilf Boudah and got laid off in July. Then he started to work driving dump truck for Gerald Flood. He then got laid off in November. Then he worked a short time at traders metal and then quit to work for Champagne brothers. After being laid off there he went to the Chrome plant 1977 and worked with his father. He was miserable and his cheques were irregular so he quit there and worked for Bob Flood big mistake don't work for friends. He then went to Lyons ready mix 1979 and worked nights in the winter at Palmers. When he got laid off at Lyons in December 1980 he started working for Palmers on a full time base's.

Jim Haynes was far from being a saint but not only did I love this man with all my heart and cry for him every day I respected him for the man he was.

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HAYNES, James Willon – peacefully at his home on Sunday, April 8, 2012 at the age of 57. Best friend and husband for over 38 years to Kathy (nee Evans). Loving father of Dawna Bertolo (Dean) and Candace Haynes. Proud grandpa of Abigayle, Devyn and Marshall Bertolo and Cassandra Haynes. Beloved son of Marion and the late Willon Haynes. Dear brother of Barbara Periard (Roger). Special uncle to Mark Periard (Karen), Jonathan Periard (Christina) and Heather King (Brad). Brother-in-law of Wayne Evans (Carol), Lloyd Evans (Joanne), Joanne Dinsmore (Lee), Ron Evans (Barb), Larry Evans (Judy), Dale Evans (Wendy), Brian Evans (Debbie), Carol Horne (Tom), Merle Evans (Linda) and Terry Evans (Karen). Jim will be sadly missed by many nieces and nephews. Friends may call at the Arthur Funeral Home & Cremation Centre for a memorial visitation on Saturday, April 14, 2012 from 12 – 2 pm. Memorial contributions to the Diabetes Association (www.diabetes.ca) or a charity of choice would be appreciated.