Brian Richard Pataky

8 juin 196428 avril 2021
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The name Brian means “strong, virtuous, and honorable”-Those who knew Brian realize he personified each of those qualities every day of his life. Brian’s strength allowed him to survive the death of his first love and first wife, Tracy. Tracy passed away just a few short years after their beautiful daughter Daniell was born. From that point, Brian was a single parent who thrived in parenthood and continued to strive to serve others.

Brian was an Assistant Chief firefighter and true inspiration to every crew he worked with in New Jersey. Brian received many awards for his dedication and valor during his service with the firefighters. He protected communities from the flames of fire, and provided joy to children by being the Fire Station’s best Santa Claus ever. Brian completed culinary school and truly enjoyed cooking and baking. His ability to pull together a feast with only odds and ends was simply magnificent to witness. Those of us fortunate enough to enjoy the fruits of his labor in the kitchen, have been spoiled and realize there are no restaurants in this world to compare to a dish served by Brian Pataky.

Brian was a talented Registered Nurse providing care for the sick and working shoulder to shoulder with surgeons in the OR. Brian was the nurse who surgeons prayed to have assisting them. Brian’s leadership and mentoring abilities in healthcare built a cohesive work environment and strong clinicians for the community.

In 2013 Brian met Rachel. A grand love affair ensued. Brian and Rachel were married on December 13, 2014. Their union was complete with the blessing of Daniell, and both of the couple’s families. Brian and Rachel had a fairytale wedding and proceeded to live happily ever after. Never uttering a cross word between them. Brian was honorable and chivalrous each day...Rachel was doted on every day and never touched a door handle in Brian’s presence.

Besides Brian’s love for God, Daniell, Rachel and family members- He had a serious devotion to all things Star Wars and Disney. At the holidays, when in doubt, the perfect gift for Brian was something Darth Vader related. He even named his truck Vader. Our perfect get-aways were Walt Disney World vacations and Disney Cruises. It was always so invigorating seeing Brian in Disney. It was as if he was transported back in time and became 10 years old seeing the sights and characters for the first time, no matter how many times we vacationed at Disney. For Brian, all of the stressors of the world and the weight of all his responsibilities vanished while in Disney.

In October of 2019, Brian was diagnosed with Stage IV Pancreatic Cancer. He fought from day one and had far more good days than bad. He continued to care for his wife and daughter while battling cancer...never complaining or missing a beat. His battle went unseen by many. Unless you were aware of his diagnosis, you wouldn’t have known due to his strength and ability to keep moving forward. Brian was loved by every nurse and physician he encountered during our treatment journey. His quiet demeanor was a perfect set up for the well timed funny one-liners.

Brian changed so many people’s lives for the better and stirred the desire for all who knew him to be a better version of themselves. Each day he modeled his strong faith in God, love of family, selflessness, compassion, kindness, looking for the best in everyone, appreciating all he had (and willingness to share), calm demeanor and his ability to find humor in all situations.

The world lost an angel who lived among us for 56 years on April 28, 2021. Perhaps, God decided he needed one of Brian’s famous Thanksgiving spreads for himself.

Brian was loved by many and will be sorely missed.

Brian was predeceased by his mother Janet Marie Pataky and his first wife Tracy Pataky.

He is survived by his beloved daughter Daniell Pataky, his loving wife Rachel Pataky, his four sisters- Janine McLaughlin, Diana Harris, Heather Botto and Nancy Cole, and his father Richard Pataky.

A visitation will be held for Brian on Monday May 3, 2021 at 6:00 – 8:00 pm at Coble Funeral and Cremation Service at Greenlawn Memorial Park, 1155 Shipyard Blvd, Wilmington, North Carolina.

A Funeral Mass will be held on Tuesday May 4, 2021 at 11:00am at St. Marks Catholic.

Burial will follow at Oleander Memorial Gardens.


  • Visitation

    lundi, 3 mai , 2021

  • Funeral Mass

    mardi, 4 mai , 2021


Brian Richard Pataky


John Hayes

10 mai , 2021

Our deepest condolences for the loss of a truly wonderful man. Brian was a Jedi Knight. Giving, caring, self-less. May the Force be with him always.

Renee Lydlum

4 mai , 2021

So dependable, kind, giving & coupled with an incredible sense of humor. A gentleman & a family man. You will be missed. A life lived well. RIP

Karen Steadman

3 mai , 2021

I grew up with the Pataky family and haven't seen Brian since school days. I'm so happy to see that he made such a beautiful life for himself. You were all blessed to call him your father, husband, brother and son. May he rest in peace. 🙏 Karen Steadman

Brenda Laganelli

3 mai , 2021

I so enjoyed working with you ! Your sense of humor, and love of family! Miss you Bryan

Joyce Hayes

3 mai , 2021

What a beautiful tribute to a very special person! 💕💕💕💕 Love from Aunt Joyce and Uncle Jack

Gunner Smith

3 mai , 2021

Hey Big Boy, You put up one hell of a fight. RIP

David Rizk

3 mai , 2021

Our thoughts and prayers for all family and friends...
what a moving tribute of his life and the impact he had on so many...
with deep condolences to have lost someone so giving and yet so young...
I am sure he was so comforted by all those around him and those who provided him comfort to him thru these difficult days...
Hoping you all may find peace that his presence will be with all of you, those that touched him and were so touched by him...
May his memory be eternal!

Debbie Rossi

3 mai , 2021

Brian was our Eeyore, he always came in so quiet, but then you saw the sparkle in his eyes and he made everything alright. I remember how his eyes lit up when he spoke of his daughter, Daniell, and how when he first started dating his soon to be wife how happy he was, he knew she would make his life complete. He was always one to give a kind word and to share in your joy or grief. He will be missed so much by so many. Love to the family who shared him with so many.

Laura Botto

1 mai , 2021

I’m so very sorry to hear about Brian’s passing.. He was always a great guy whom loved his family.. I remember growing up and going to my Uncle Ed and Aunt Heathers house for gatherings and seeing Brian.. The love for his daughter was like no other.. May god bring peace to his wife, daughter and family during this time.. ❤️

Rest In Peace Brian ❤️😇

Christine Garvin

1 mai , 2021

Brian was always so very nice to me whenever I was at Wilmington Surgcare. He always had a kind humble demeanor about him that grasped my heart. He always asked if I received my “snack bag” that the ladies there provide for us. We were all so very blessed to have Brian in our lives. Much love and prayers for his wonderful family.

Christine Garvin
Wilmington Eye