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Hayden Michael Dookheran
17 mai 1964 – 4 août 2020
Peacefully with his daughters by his side, our Dad, Hayden Michael Dookheran, passed away on August 4, 2020.
Dad was born on May 17, 1964 in San Fernando, Trinidad and Tobago. He was an only child and had many fond memories of his early years growing up in Trinidad. At the age of 8, he moved to Toronto with his mother and would visit his father every summer in Winnipeg. When he was 13 years old, he moved to Winnipeg to live with his father with whom he shared a special relationship. He called Windsor Park home for many years and attended Beliveau School and graduated from Windsor Park Collegiate. He went on to complete a certificate in business administration. Dad spent his career working in the hospitality industry, which appropriately fit his personality and his ability to connect with people. He spent 11 years of his 25-year career working at the Norwood Hotel.
Dad is survived by his two daughters, Kyra and Salina (Mas); grandson, Kale; his father and friend, Ellyson; mother, Gloria; numerous aunts, uncles and cousins globally and many close friends whom he thought of as family. Dad was a people person. His smile and charismatic personality lit up every room he went into. Not only did Dad leave a lasting impression on every person he met but he also made a point of learning everyone’s name that he crossed paths with. He had an ability to make everyone feel special and his big smile and outgoing laugh brought comfort to so many. He had a genuine appreciation for culture and in his final few years at Vista Park Lodge you could often hear him asking staff and visitors when he met them how they said hello in their ethnic language and he asked about their cultural backgrounds. He was so proud to be from Trinidad. One of his favourite sayings was “you can take a man out of Trinidad but you cannot take Trinidad out of a man”. He was equally proud to be a Canadian and often said how grateful he was to live in Canada. Dad loved nicknames and often made up his own nicknames for the special people in his life. He loved being outside in the sun and he loved to read. One of his favourite places was The Forks and over the years we’ve created many special memories with him there. Nothing made Dad happier than spending time with his family and his friends. Dad enjoyed sports and played baseball, volleyball and golf throughout his life. He loved watching sports and you could always count on him to be cheering on ALL of his teams- the Winnipeg Jets, the Oakland Raiders, the Dallas Cowboys and any NBA team that Michael Jordan or Kobe Bryant were on. He had a true appreciation for music and loved to dance. At every party you could find him on the dance floor with his Trinidadian flag in hand. He loved his soca, chutney and reggae music but also enjoyed classical music and jazz. Dad’s face lit up when he was listening to music and during some of the challenging times throughout his life, music brought him relief and peace. When we hear his favourite songs, we know we will smile and find comfort in the music that brought him so much happiness.
We will miss hearing him say “gimme a bonx!” which is his own version of a fist bump that he first taught us when we were little kids and he continued to ask us for a “bonx” as adults. We will miss hearing his stories and listening to him recite his favourite quotes. Dad will be remembered for his jokes, his smile, his laugh and his spirit. He loved his family more than anything and we know that even though he is no longer physically with us, we will continue to feel his presence and love. Dad was diagnosed with progressive multiple sclerosis in 2014 and despite the challenges he faced, he continued to have a zest for life and a positive spirit. As the MS progressed, he moved to Vista Park Lodge where he spent his final 3 years. We would like to thank all of the wonderful staff at Vista Park Lodge for the care and comfort they provided to him. We would also like to thank the Scaletta (who Dad lovingly referred to as the Scaletta 11) and the Biswas families for their kindness and friendship they extended to our Dad during his time at Vista Park Lodge. You are special people and Dad loved you. We would also like to thank his community of friends and especially thank his close and special friends who visited him regularly and added so much quality to his life. Dad’s friends were his family. Donations in Dad’s memory can be made to Manitoba Possible (formerly the Society for Manitobans with Disabilities) or to Willow Place.
Dad, we will miss you so much. Thank you for all of the memories. We know you are at peace now and that brings us comfort. We love you very much and we know you will always be with us.
A Celebration of Life will be held on August 8, 2020 at 10:00am. As a result of COVID-19 and the gathering restrictions, a limited number of people will be invited to attend the celebration in person and they will be contacted with the details. For all others, the celebration will be live streamed and we hope you can join us in celebrating the life of our father. The live stream can be accessed on the Thomson “In the Park” Funeral Home Facebook page, you may follow this link to view it: https://www.facebook.com/Thomson-In-the-Park-Funeral-Home-and-Cemetery-1934981230093053/
A Celebration of Life
samedi, 8 août , 2020
Hayden Michael Dookheran
have a memory or condolence to add?ENVOYEZ CONDOLEANCES
août 25, 2020
I’m so sorry to learn of Hayden’s passing. I knew Hayden from school, junior high and high school. I loved your dad as did everyone else. He was fun, gentle, respectful, and lit up the hallways with his gregarious disposition. We lost touch after high school but met up with once again when planning my wedding at the Norwood in 1992.
Hayden planned everything just right and may have cut me a bit of a discount, thanks again Hayden. I also got a very “careful” phone call when he had to tell me he broke my cake topper. I think he was expecting bridezilla. It didn’t matter to me, and how could I’ve been upset with him anyway?? I got a new one, whatever.
The wedding he helped curate has lasted 28 1/2 years, so far.
Thank you Hayden for your help, your well wishes and your good luck.
Rest In Peace, Hayden. You were adored by so many. 💕💐 we lost a good one
août 7, 2020
Hayden visited our family home the first week he landed in Winnipeg April 1977 and for many years following he, along with my cousin Ricky were regular faces at our home in St. Vital. One memory is when they both volunteered to deliver flyers around the neighbourhood as a favour to my parents and when offered money for their work, they refused saying they were happy to help and could not take money from “Uncle and Aunty”. Many years later, it was Hayden who took me to my first social and I remember how I felt sitting shot gun in his car with the music blasting and thinking how cool it was that he cared enough to take the time to have a 15yr old kid hang out with him for the evening. It was a good feeling and one that still brings a smile when I think about it. Might seem like an insignificant story but to a young immigrant kid wanting to fit in and be accepted in a new Canadian life, his kindness and “big brother” stature has left a lasting impression on me over the years. His kind spirit will never be forgotten and will live on through Kyra, Salina and their future generations. Rest in Peace my brother as you reunite in spirit with other loved ones gone ahead!
août 7, 2020
My deepest condolences to Hayden’s family; may you have the comfort of knowing what a beautiful person Hayden was. Hayden was a regular visitor to our home in Winnipeg when he would come to visit his dad. We were both 13 the first time I met him, and I remember thinking that I had never met such a considerate and thoughtful 13 year old boy before. My 2 brothers, sister and I have such wonderful memories of the times we shared with Hayden as children. Hayden and I lost touch for a couple of years but became reacquainted towards the end of highschool. I was pleasantly surprised to see that Hayden was as kind, considerate, and fun as a young man as he was as a 13 year old. Winston Churchill famously said, “We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give”. By that measure Hayden lived a wonderful life - for he gave so much to so many - my family and I included. We will miss you Hayden, you are loved by many, and the world will be a little less bright with you no longer in it.
Ana & the Mohammed Family
Samraj Rikkijai Jaimungal
août 7, 2020
I knew Hayden as a promoter of cultural events in Winnipeg and after the first event we became lifelong friends . A great human being with a heart too big for his body and a trini to the bone living in a foreign land .
One of my best and Unforgetable memories of him was an all fours card game at Chris Sookram’s home the day after one of his events where we were playing five dollars a corner and after the game which Hayden and his partner won he just took the twenty and ripped it into 4 pieces and gave each player to sign as a mark of friendship
We laughed and enjoyed the evening so much we missed the flight back to Toronto lol
As of the last time we spoke we both had our pieces in our wallets from then to now
I offer my deepest condolences to his family and friends and ask that God Almighty have mercy on his soul and that they find peace during this time of bereavement
Rest In Peace my friend till we meet again to wave the red white and black 🇹🇹💯🙏
Kenny & Gyany Rattan
août 7, 2020
Our deepest sympathies to the Dookheran family. May God give you all the peace and strength that you seek. We all know that Hayden is in a better place and without pain.
We have fond memories of him growing up as a child in our home with our children Kevin, Charlene and Ricky.
I hope that the Lord brings your family the much-needed strength and peace during this sad time.
We are honored and blessed to have known Hayden. He was truly a blessing and will be greatly missed by all.
Love from the Rattan family.
août 6, 2020
I’LL ALWAYS REMEMBER!
When Hayden was twelve, we were travelling to The Allegheny Mountains for one of the numerous and wonderful holidays that we experienced, we left Toronto to drive south to the US.
My co-pilot and I set off on our holiday to the Allegheny River at the Appalachian Mountain Range.
After stopping for refreshment we continued.
Please understand that I’m from Trinidad and was not a traveler who used location maps so I did not understand when someone told me to go North or South/East or West, I understood Left or Right so I said to Hayden, which way do we go? He answered “In a few miles we go East”, to which I replied “Right or Left”? He looked across at me and adamantly said in that stern and resolute manner….”Mom, for an intelligent woman, you are stupid!!”
Wow! This twelve year old is letting me Have It!! I’ll show him, I thought!! After instructions from my co-pilot we made it to our destination. Hayden then went to organize himself for the adventure.
At that time, I grabbed that map and sat down with great enthusiasm and a bit of embarrassment to educate myself in map-reading. I looked and learned and after a long while I successfully mastered the art of map-reading!!! I can now navigate with great confidence and knowledge a geographical map. Thank you my son!! Thank you for many happy and wonderful years that we shared!
This is only one in a life time of memories that I wish to share.
Now that he is resting peacefully and sharing that charismatic smile and effervescent personality with the angels, I am thankful that I was a part of his life. His pains are no more but his legacy will live on in our memories. I’ll always remember our times together and although it is painful at this moment I reflect on wonderful memories, shared with you my only child who brought me happiness and fulfillment.
RIP my beloved and sit with the angels. You were the best thing that ever happened to me. My love as always is forever.
août 6, 2020
Not sure on how to start this.My Condolences to Kyra,Salina and the rest of the Family....So Very Sorry.Hayden was an incredible person/Friend.I was incredibly taken back with the unwanted news of his passing.He had a great sense of humour and one of the most infectious smiles.Hayden you truly were one of the most respectful people that I have had the privelage to have a friendship with.Every time I seen him he would address me as Uncle Lou.I know he Loved his Family and everyone he touched very much.You will be forever missed.I'm glad your pain is over.Rest in Peace My Brother.
Lou and Maria Vena
août 6, 2020
My condolences to Kyra, Salina and to everyone who loved Hayden. He will be deeply missed by so many. Rest In Peace, Hayden
août 6, 2020
Kyra and Salina -- Our Condolences to you especially at this time. Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this time.
Auntie Isha, Indi and Nal