It’s been awhile ,and I apologize. It’s Monday ,Sept.20 th,2012. The year that passed was fairly quiet. Covid hit inMarch 2020. Big Jimmy wound up in ICU for 3 weeks. Thousands of people died. To date I still have not heard from anyone. Barbara, Sharon ,all the kids. No, I still don’t know why. Even my brother Richard disowned me without reason after Lil Jimmy died. Kristen came to see me yesterday and showed me pictures of the same people. I take it my track record with family is severely damaged. From sisters ,Sharon andKathy ,to my one brother Richard and all of their kids ,as well as their kids have not acknowledged me .I tried desperately to keep 92 ,but with no one to confirm I could ,it is still vacant. I stopped about 2 years ago ,keeping the weeds outside cut, snow shoveled and insured that the locks were intact. Now however I want to go back one more time. Maybe I can get your small table and Uncle Alberts clock, plus a few more things.No, I didn’t take any furniture, pictures or other items. I left them all ,except the most important papers. Yes, the deeds, mortgages, wills ,and more from 1897 on. That’s how I found out your mom, Ruth was a widow when she got 92 and 102. I had written a poem about 92 and all of your sisters and brothers. The setting was in the kitchen, playing cards. I hope to get it back someday. Craig Desarmo took my 2 iPads . A jigger of brandy ,is what brought back so many memories. I still think of the party I had for you at 100, a casino theme. Ruthie came from California, but you and she had an disagreement. I still look for your ring. I gave my daughter my grandmothers rings. Your macaroni salad, never have I had one that tasted as good as yours to this day. I do hope you realized the charges against me and LittleJimmy were untrue and unfounded. But that phone call changed everything and everyone. You were the last of a big family ,as was I, but I no longer have any of them in my life. I’ll always wonder why. ❤️ 🌹☕️🦥🐞

It’s May 9th, 2021, Mother’s Day. Also wishing you a belated Happy Birthday ,May 6 th. I wishI could say things are okay, but it’s not, nor will it ever be. I take it you know I’ve been disowned by everyone ,and I don’t know why. It’s been years. I think losing Lil Jimmy was the start of losing everyone else. I miss you both. Still no word from Ruthie . But memories of the times we shared sometimes make me smile; other times I cry. I can’t help but wonder constantly what I may have said or done to cause this permanent separation. I went to the cemetery ,I placed a rose,encased in glass ,with your name on it. Uncle Ronnie, I put a flag. I cleaned the stone. I plan to go back soon. I hope I pleased you with my promise of having you buried withUncle Ronnie and matching the lettering that states you as his wife and the dates. I still have all the original paper work from the 1900’s re: Vineyard, the homes ,people and I still have the small feather shaped pin with your brother Billy’s picture I it. I tried several times to duplicate your macaroni salad, but couldn’t. I will post what I have, only because I may not write again. 

Aunt Bud, it’s 11:39 pm ,Tuesday night, June 30th, 2020. What can I say? I do hope your fully aware of what’s gone on since you left.As of right now it’s 2:27 am, Wed. morning. I was on the phone with Kathy Uber literally for hours. You know I like things validated or confirmed. Speaking of confirmed, I can’t say I ever heard from Ruthie after I sent her all the documents of yours ( life ins.,bonds,stocks,shares) . I obviously wasn’t thinking. Now though the real issue is BJ. 15 opinions, no definite dx. His weight went from 230 to 170. His waist size 40 to 30. The closet still bothers me, I mentioned it to Paul as well as Kathy. I won’t promise you anything, I haven’t done well in the past as you know. No, I’ve not gone to the cemetery. The 4 th of July is almost here and I can taste your macaroni salad ,made for me. The faint scent of grilling in the air. Oh! Those were the days. I miss them so much, but it kills me to know they’ll never occur again. I talked to Joe ,yesterday ,his birthday, yes, the day you died. I am tired, but I will continue this letter later today. Miss you ,

Aunt Bud, I apologize for not telling you that Lil’Jimmy died ,Oct. 21st .2012 at92. Seeing you in the NH ,calling for him ,was unbearable. Empty promises and untruths , by me ,knowing or think g ,that his death would only make your condition worse. I tried desperately to get you home. That one phone call in Sept. to APS caused this entire nightmare. Again I’m sorry Inever told you Lil’ Jimmy died . Forgive me ,Judy 

You were right! It is now years later ,and to date ,Aug. 25th, 2019, not a  word ,note ,e- mail,text, phone call or text. Yes, all of those are ways to communicate. However ,although I’ve never heard back from Ruthie ,I did think about going to see her again. But more important is that you know I handled all of your debts. Of course it took me forever. I followed Ruthies advice and sent her all of your “ important” papers. Naive? Or gullible? I’m not sure which applies.I was not able to continue any relationship with anyone other than my own. Sorry I couldn’t have done better. For sure you will Rest In Peace ,knowing I kept my word ,although it took ages ,and did as you verbally asked me.Any other type of communication was kept from me,as you know. Not to worry about what little remains. I’m going to order the other item you really wanted. Rest Rosemiester

Aunt Buddy, I miss you so much. I never wanted to disappoint you,but I have.  After giving to others throughout your life,how can they just forget. I hope your happy with the finished grave stone I had designed. It really is beautiful and matches Uncle Ronnie"s.

Aunt Bud, I'm feeling really down. Wish you were here to give me your opinions and advice. Or just to hang around with. We had the most fun in Atlantic City, shopping and sitting in the yard. Think of you often. Still unsure about the future. Everything depends on Big Jimmy's final tests. Hope your with Lil Jimmy. I spoke to Mike again at the funeral home. I just can't seem to bring myself to complete it. Any way, missing you, love you , your favorite person , Judy

Aunt Bud, are you by chance haunting me? No one wants to be on your bad side. I miss you and love you, like to think I'm your favorite niece. Sure I was.

Aunt Bud, hard to believe your gone already a year on June 29th 2014. As promised I will do what I said and hopefully within the next 2 weeks. Hope your not mad that I never went back to 92.i will however one day. A lot has happened these past few months, including Big Jimmy losing his job of 24+ years and we were forced to move; hence the picture I'm sending you. Picked out a small tattoo, but I think I want something bigger. Unfortunately Big Jimmy's battle with cancer isn't promising. Still don't know what I'll do. I remember you always telling me not to worry as I'd always be able to live with you. Ironic? Any way, I'm starting to cry, so let me tell you as I always did when you were alive, I love you. Judy

Aunt Bud, another hectic week. Big Jimmy went for ambulatory surgery and got admitted. He was discharged home yesterday afternoon. He cannot use his left arm/ hand for anything. They say he needs 6-8 months of physical therapy. Meanwhile things are quiet. My first time ever living off of Vineyard. Missing you more as each sunny day appears. My promise to you will be kept in June and I'll even send you pictures via this site. Pray you are at peace & happy. Your favorite niece Judy

Aunt Bud! Enough is enough already ! Getting ready to move and I don't know anyone there. But again I see no one here any way. Putting the painting you gave me to be reframed and Aunt Ethel's rocking chair has to be sent out to be done, to it's original look. The arms and spindles are so loose. Other than that just waiting for Joseph to come see us. I never and I know you didn't ever think I could be so " low profile" you know rarely out/ seen and for whatever reason, those close to me in location and relation I never hear from. I do talk to Ruthie and Tommy. As well as Margaret and family . So with that being said, I'm saying good night, love you, Judy

Aunt Bud, went and scheduled Big Jimmy's surgery Rory 5/14/14. Wish you could be with me. I may see you sooner than you think. Missing you, love you, so sorry how things went at the end. Judy

Aunt Bud, I am laughing right now because being we have to move in 3 weeks. I am going through so much! And guess what? A picture 8x 10 of Joan Blondell. Written: to Ninnie, where are you? You are missed.  ( signed) Love Joan Blondell. Of course I'm keeping it! Missing you, love you, Judy

Aunt Bud, I went to cross county today with Big Jimmy and got so upset. So many reminders of all the times we went and how you would spend so much time in the puppy store.  ( no longer there) And of course  the stores and sitting on the bench just watching people. Okay, also commenting . Odd to be filled with so much happiness and yet inside you can actually feel your heart racing and do anything from " giving in". . Well, missing you so much . You were more than my Aunt, you were my friend, companion, partner in everything. Must be careful what I write here as it is scrutinized and many times not put on,esp. with Lil Jimmy.. It wasn't fun anymore Aunt Bud.I have to go, missing you, love you. Judy

Aunt Bud, how do you like this ! Can you believe that me , of all people have no place to live! Talk about " those people" & " oh come on!. Laughing a little just thinking of how you would react to all of this. You would be knocking more than on wood and loudly saying the names of the trinity people( Jesus, Mary &  Joseph) .Now I am laughing more because I can picture you and how you would be and for a little woman you had a big mouth. Really miss you, esp. Times like this and with the rather getting nicer. Always gave you credit when weather permitting out you would go , gone for hours, buses and cabs to every where. And of course your relationship with Macys. It would cost 3 x the amount of your bill just to get there. And one thing you did that drove me crazy was you would see an item pick it up walk around the stores for hours and then just as we were getting on line to pay you would change your mind and say" next time" . I know you were mortified when you seen me sitting and taking to the mannequins! " oh Judy" you would say and depending on your mood either laugh or get furious with me . The other thing you were known for, by me and LilJimy was when we would get seated at a place to eat, strt to be waited on and you would abruptly stand up get your coat and start to leave! I remember well and I quote " I read these people " right away and out we would go. I've often wondered what you meant when you said " read" these / those people. I know you weren't psychic and thre were no obvious writing on them other then a name tag. So what exactly were you " reading" and how, why and what if anything did they say? You were so funny and didn't even realize it. Another great one was " what do you mean!!!!" Loud and directed at a peron who could not or would not give you an answer . So many times, so much fun, regret I ever took it for granted. Never imagined you not in my life. I miss packing your lunch and individually wrapping each item and labeling it of course and almost always with a card. You would open that bag and react as if it were  a three course meal from a elegant restaurant . Even the individual salt/ pepper / condiments ect. And let's not forget the " silverware" was included  as well. I really mis doing that and spending time with you either in the house or the yard. There are a lot of things I will tell you about, but not right now. " Rosemeister"

Aunt Bud, sic( spelling incorrect) meant to say " side" and "is". One of the funniest things you ever did and not on purpose was when I took Joseph for a photo shoot, try outs for commercials and when we left you turned and said" I got your purse" laughing hysterically I said " purse? I didn't bring one" . Then we both realized you picked up and walked out with another woman's pocketbook! You were mortified , I laughed all the way home! Many other times we messed up and laughed about them. I will write about another incident next time I touch base with you. Miss you. Judy

Guess who came by? Craig. We talked and I cried , remembering the 3 of us together ( and  Kip) in the yard, gardening, fixing the windows, new doors being put up, and painting the wall on the Sid of the house and around the "rock" garden. Have to tell you that your " lagrangia?  Tree/ plant is about 10 by 10feet wide! What I'll miss isc your lit up yard, when Lil Jimmy put all those colored lifts in , no offense but it looked like a disco . And the motion spot light , lit up your yard and each yard on either side as well as the houses behind yours! I know you adored Craig, and he you. He is doing okay, maybe  what happened did make a difference in someone else's life. I hope so. But you were my reason for getting up & going up the street. Miss you more as each day passes and pray you know the truth. Hey Aunt Bud, " knock wood" & " those people"  ; " oh Judy! " and in your loudest voice and you could be loud calling " Jimmy repeatedly, about 6 times , meanwhile he had answered you and I laughed quietly or went out to the yard. The best was your patio set being blown into the people in the far back of your house during a horrific storm! You were so funny and didn't even realize it. I miss you coming to dinner @ my place. You teaching me ( ! ) the buses to take all over the place. Haven't been on a bus since then. And I think , no I know I heard you curse, once, what a shock! Where did you hear that kind of talk? Time for me to " get a move on" as you would say. Touch base soon. Love you , my Rosemeister. Judy( favorite niece)

Aunt Bud, talked for hours today with Ruthie, all set for June. Miss you so much. Love you

Hey Aunt Bud , happy valentines day, sorry I am so late. Missing you  in a way I never thought possible. Never went back to 92. In my heart .

Miss you so much. Think about you often. Pray some day I will get the answers to the questions that haunt me , especially in regard to what started it all. (Who?)Have not been to 92, but am thinking of getting a tattoo in your memory, a Rose Bud of course! I pray you are at peace and with your family and hope you catch a glimpse of Lil Jimmy , although I never told you he might be. Thanks Aunt Bud

Aunt Bud, I am trying to keep it together , you know what I mean I. Said it to you so many times! But there are times that the anger, hurt, regrets and not knowing get the best of me. I miss you so much , you were my reason for getting up everyday and kept me busy , always had fun. You were one of a kind and  I miss you so much. I pray(although I am mad @ God) that you are at peace and if there is a heaven you are there playing pinocle(?) with all your sisters and brothers and maybe , just maybe you will catch a glimpse of my son . All my love  Judy

Aunt Bud , first Christmas without you and although it snowed and is white , it feels dreary and dark both day and night . Last year was hard , but at least you were here this time your gone and And I shed a tear, remembering the lights Little Jimmy put on the fence and the wreath on your door , that's something I know I'll see never more.Pray you are at peace , in heaven and with Little Jimmy just like before. Thanks for so many years of great memories and for being so good. I think of you every day and still wonder why , there was that phone call and you had to die!

Aunt Bud,wish you were here I miss you so much and more because of the holidays.This was our first thanksgiving without you and the first time we will not be shopping or just window browsing.Still have not gone back to 92,as you know Big Jimmy is very sick ,I think of all the things you use to say find myself using some of those same one liners, like'tidy up 123 or those people'Then I laugh you did not realize how funny you made things sound.Thats all I have of you, memories,but in the spring your name will be engraved next to Uncle Ronny's,just as you requested. love and miss you

Aunt Bud, The humane society and Yonkers animal shelter as well as about 12cooking books/magazine and of course the Indians and those from the smile train as well as about 6 saints really miss your generousity. What should I do with all these and Good Housking,Martha Stewart, Redbook and all the others? I do however have a never ending supply of Mass cards and calendars I will think of something I always do.The mail girl misses you too.

Aunt Bud,I stayed overnight at 92, I brought my I-pad and cell phone too. No heat no lights, nothing to do.I slept in your bed like I use to.There till the morning I stayed and no I was't afraid.the stairs were my only concern,fall down them once you really learn.Rocking in your chair another thing I do and it reminds me so much of you. Thanks for the memories

Aunt Bud, these are the times I miss you most. I know you would be right by my side , Big Jimmy misses you too. You would be doing everything possible to make his illness a little easier .I miss you so much, the holidays without you just won,t be the same. Love you , my Rosemiester

The way things happened  were beyond my control ,I carry your memory in my heart my soul.I think of you almost every day, don't understand why they took you away. Love you

I am doing everything you asked.Still have a few issues, but I will get to them.It is difficult doing it all alone! Miss you,love you

Aunt Bud, I think of you every day.Miss you so much.

Aunt Bud, I am having a hard time coping . I need to believe you are with little Jimmy in heaven. I have decided to stay in Lake George. There is nothing for me in Yonkers. Miss you

Aunt Bud, really trying to do what you said.Losing Littlle Jimmy, Nancy Burke, you and Linda DeStefano has me down love Judy

Aunt Bud, I have so much to say, but not tonight.Sat yesterday at 92, all I thought about was you.,cried a bit, sitting where you use to sit. I feel like this nightmare is not over for me. all I can do is wait and see.YOU will always be my Rosemeister.miss you SO much!!!! love Judy

Dear Aunt Buddy,

     You are now at rest with your family.  Rest in peace.

      Love, Bobby,Marion,Robby&Kimberly

Dear Aunt Bud, May you rest in peace.  Thank you for helping all of us our whole lives.  When you see my Mom tell her I Love her.  Love Ruthie and Billy Dee

Aunt Buddy, I loved you and will miss you. I pray you are with "little Jimmy:I will miss you so much, taken too soon and within months. Thank you for all you have done for so many in your 92 years, love, judy

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Rose Myers

Décédé(e) le 29 JUIN 2013

Whalen & Ball Funeral Home

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