Demaine Funeral Home

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Harry Leo Carey Jr.

December 23, 1945July 18, 2019

Harry Leo Carey It is with great sadness that the family of Harry Leo Carey announces his sudden passing. He was the beloved father of Brian (Meg) and Colleen Schmitt (Matthew); adored papa to Hope, Gabriella, Arianna & Harper; brother of Charles (Kathleen) and a cherished best friend and companion to Sherry Andersen. He is predeceased by his loving wife, Aurelia “Riz” Carey. A native of Washington DC, Harry Carey attended Gonzaga College High School (’63), followed by the University of Scranton (’67) and ultimately culminated with a law degree from Catholic University (’70). Harry was in Fair Housing throughout his 37 years of service at HUD, most recently serving as Associate General Counsel for Fair Housing. He was involved in the drafting of the provisions of the Fair Housing Amendments Act of 1988 and the development of the HUD Regulations implementing the Fair Housing Act. After retirement Harry taught at John Marshall University and continued to advise colleagues in the field of Civil Rights. Harry was known for his magnanimous heart. He was a role model to many. He never met a stranger that didn’t quickly become a friend. He will be sorely missed and forever loved by all. Funeral services will be held at St Aloysius Church in Washington DC on Saturday, August 3rd at 10am. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to Gonzaga College High School to benefit the Carey Family Scholarship. We ask that you please share a memory with the family below.


  • Funeral Service Saturday, August 3, 2019


Harry Leo Carey Jr.

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Shirley Wilkins

October 8, 2019

To the family and friends of Harry,
I am just learning of Harry's sudden passing. Please accept my condolences. Harry was such a great person. We worked together at HUD for many years on Fair Housing matters. I recall one of proudest moments in Harry's career as being when the Fair Housing Act, as Ameded was passed. Harry certainly was a tough act for any civil rights lawyer to follow. Harry made a difference for the better in the lives of so many americans that sought equal housing opportunities.

sandra merin

August 23, 2019

Colleen, Brian and your beloved families,

I have to say we are all the better for having your father and your mother in our lives. I know you are saying the same. Chuck and I have a multitude of glorious memories of Riz and Harry and of you, especially when your parents were adoring you as a little boy and a little girl and then watching you grow into cherished adults with their precious grandchildren. You made so many of their dreams come true; I'm glad for them.

Please know that we too are missing your parents and are so sorry for your heartache. 'Twas too, too soon.

We send our love.....

Sarah Maguire Stoll

August 22, 2019

Brian and Colleen ,
So sorry we didn't know about final arrangements until after the fact. We celebrate in Spirit with you, your families and Harry's Extended Family of Friends. We shared many good times with your Dad and Mom for so many years and so these are the blessings from friendships that will always live on. In remembrance,
Sarah Maguire Stoll

Richard Price

August 5, 2019

Harry was a great man and a good man, just a heck of a nice guy. Great lawyer and friend, but more than that just an open and caring person.

Mark Matulef

August 5, 2019

Harry was a person to emulate. His picture should be in American Heritage Dictionary - in multiple definitions: mentor, friend, leader. He was part of the greatest generation of HUD Office of General Counsel leadership. He was committed to fairness and justice. He emulated balance between career and family (with family first - he was always direct about that). I had the pleasure (and frustration) of working on one of Harry's "special projects" - projects as much or more for the growth of the attorney working the project as anything else: extending Federal protection to fair housing investigators and attorneys. I could make a career out of missing Harry. Hundreds of attorneys can point to Harry and say that he made us better lawyers, better parents, and better persons.

Kimberly Sanford

August 3, 2019

I was extremely saddened to hear of Harry's passing. My memory of HUD will always begin with Harry who served as my supervisor in OGC during my first 10 years. Under his leadership we had a great team in Fair Housing that led to long lasting friendships.

Harry was caring and supportive to the point of vacating his office to allow me to rest when ill on more than one ocassion. That was just his nature. I'm grateful that GOD allowed our career paths to cross and Harry will truly be missed.

My prayers and condolences to the family.

Kimberly Sanford

Estelle Franklin

August 2, 2019

I always described Harry as the best boss I ever had. That is an incomplete description, however, because he was much more than that; he was a mentor and friend.

I met Harry in 1999 when I was hired as the Assistant General Counsel for Fair Housing Compliance and Harry was the Associate General Counsel for Fair Housing. I cannot overstate how nurturing and supportive Harry was to his management staff. If things went right, Harry would always give credit to the staff. If things went a little sideways, he'd stand up for us and take the hit. He gave us freedom to grow as attorneys and managers, and always encouraged us to think independently. It is a tribute to him and his attitude to always lift up, that upon his retirement, both of his Assistants achieved SES status.

He was much more than a phenomenal manager. He was a friend with whom I had many conversations about many things, but especially family, exchanging stories about his kids and my daughter. Brian and Coleen, I never met you, but I know all about you, how much your Dad loved you and how proud he was of you and, of course, the grandchildren.

Post retirement (for us both), we'd talk and see each other from time to time. I last saw him, about a year ago, when we went to a baseball game.

He was one of the Great Ones, and will be truly missed by me, and many, many others.

My Sincere and Deep Condolences

Sara DeFilippo

August 2, 2019

My deepest sympathy to Brian and Colleen and their loved ones on the untimely death of your father Harry. His family and friends in Albany always loved and admired him. It was always an enjoyable and fun time when the gang from Washington came to visit whether it was for a celebration or a funeral. We had not seen for some time but were looking forward to a visit from
Harry and Charlie.

We will miss him but now there is a very funny and special man in heaven.
With love and sympathy,
Cousin Sara DeFilippo
And family

Stephen Fitzgerald

August 2, 2019

I remember Harry from Waynewood where our children grew up. We played tennis together for a few years. My daughter, Paula, is the same age as Colleen. What I most remember are two seasons of basketball when the girls were about 9 or 10. In the first season, Harry was the coach of Colleen's team and I was the coach of Paula's team. We struggled against them. The next season I somehow managed to get Colleen (a very tallented guard) and her Dad as my assistant coach. We had a very good team. I learned from Harry closeup how a person can be very, very competitive and at the same time good natured and caring.

Bob and Betsy McGroarty

August 1, 2019

I first met Harry L Carey in Martin Hall at the U of Scranton. It did not take long before we became close friends and shared that relationship for over 50 years. We had many adventures and amazing experiences together. We spent time at each other’s homes where I met his inspiring and loving mom and his brother Charles. Harry was smart and with his charming personality and wit gave him many friends. He was the President of our class and my roommate. We also shared many friends at Scranton and that group was especially noticed by the Jesuits and Professors. I can’t say we enjoyed the attention, but we all moved on and remained in contact. I was in Harry and Riz's wedding and from time to time Betsy and I would catch up in person. When together It did not take long to reminisce about our past and then the conversations shifted to our children and grandchildren where we enjoyed sharing new stories. We will miss those days but we believe our friend Harry L Carey is in a better place. Rest in Peace Harry.
Betsy and I send our condolences and prayers to the Carey family. We are so sorry for your loss.