OBITUARY

Margaret Mary Schaeffer

February 13, 1930February 8, 2021
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Margaret Mary Schaeffer (née Adelman), 90, passed away peacefully in her sleep on February 8, 2021 at Anne Arundel County Medical Center.

Margaret, or “Marge” as she was better known, was born on February 13, 1930 in Baltimore, MD, to Henry and Margaret Adelman, the second oldest among four siblings, and she spent her childhood and adolescence in the Patterson Park area of the city. After graduating from high school and a stint as an administrative assistant, she was married to Jack Schaeffer in 1953 and moved with him to Columbia, South Carolina for a few years, then to the Edmondson Heights neighborhood of Baltimore upon returning to Maryland. She lived there as a housewife and mother, raising her five children before moving to Ellicott City in 1968. Five years later, she moved with her husband and children to Barrington, IL, a Chicago suburb, where she enjoyed an active social life that revolved around her children’s school years, the Biltmore Country Club, a new group of Midwestern friends (many of whom became life-long friends of hers), “the Follies,” doubles tennis, and an avid but nail-biting devotion to the Chicago Bulls during their glory years. After the untimely death of her husband, she returned to her native State in 1997 to settle down in Heritage Harbor, Annapolis to be closer to much of her family.

Marge was a skilled bridge player and bowler, who enjoyed a good Scotch and an energetic turn on the dance floor. She loved to travel, loved crabs and beer, crab feasts and crab cakes, card games and Sunday dinners with her family, and weekends with her longtime and devoted companion, Dan Weber. She endured life’s tragedies without complaint (in the same way she endured her own uncomfortable furniture) but she was no fan of bundt cake.

She was caring, strong, secure in who she was, independent late into her life, proud of her children (and especially proud of her grandchildren), and always displayed an irreverent but good-natured humor about life and its foibles which some say she passed on intact to her children and grandchildren. She was an adoring grandmother to her ten grandchildren and five great grandchildren who loved her dearly. Marge was a beautiful woman and an even better personality, full of life, animated conversation, ready laughter and sharp wit, and she will be sorely missed by her large family and friends. But we will also celebrate the many, many years that we had her with us, and a full life that made our own lives more interesting, more meaningful, and a lot more fun. Marge was “with it” right to the end.

Marge is preceded in death by her husband, Jack Schaeffer, and by her brother, Henry Adelman.

She is survived by her sister Mary Ford, brother Charles Adelman, and her five children: Kevin Schaeffer and wife Donna, Kyle Becker and husband Bruce, Brian Schaeffer, Todd Schaeffer and wife Shannon, and Brad Schaeffer and wife Diane. She is also survived by her grandchildren: Brigit Shaffer and husband Bill, Matthew Becker and wife Kelli, Steven Becker and wife Jennifer, Alexandra Schaeffer Prevoznik and husband Chris, Caroline Schaeffer, Patrick Schaeffer, Ryan Schaeffer, Tyler Schaeffer, Brooke Schaeffer, Jonathan Schaeffer, and John Luke Schaeffer, as well as her great-grandchildren: Cassidy Shaffer, Marissa Shaffer, William Shaffer, Mckenna Becker, Rylee Becker, Brennan Becker and Mai Mai Schaeffer. A visitation service will be held at the John M. Taylor Funeral Home in Annapolis, MD, Friday, February 19, from 4:00 pm to 7:00 pm. Marge will be interred on Saturday, February 20, in a private ceremony at 11:00 am at Crestlawn Memorial Gardens Cemetery, Marriottsville, MD.

Services

  • Memorial Visitation

    Friday, February 19, 2021

  • Memorial Service

    Friday, February 19, 2021

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Audrey Batchelor

February 10, 2021

Marge was my Texas Hold Em buddy. When she was losing she always said, “Okay, that’s it.” “I’m leaving.” Even if we were playing at her house! Marge would always say, too, that I drank water and Scotch not vice versa. She kept a close eye on us girls.
She had a curious wit and sene of humor that I found delightful.
Her comments in any comical situation were always spot on! She could find humor in any situation. Which I found very refreshing.
Of course, she will be missed by many but we are all so much wiser and better for having had Marge in our lives.

Jane Syk3s

February 9, 2021

I was honored to have been a small part in making Marge feel her best when getting her hair done weekly and for special events with her family. Totally amazed at the music knowledge she had. Titles and authors of songs playing on satellite radio she was spot on.
She will be missed and pray her soul rests. I know her loved ones will miss and have many good memories to share.
Sincerely Lady Jane and Anna

John Ryan

February 9, 2021

Kevin and Donna,

Some of my favorite times spent with you two were spent enjoying memories of Marge. I enjoyed the few times I was fortunate enough to meet her and especially happy that I was able to spend a few minutes over Labor Day weekend talking to her. She was a witty and funny woman to be sure. I am sure you will miss her.

John Ryan

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