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In lieu of flowers, online donations can be made in Barbara’s memory at the Animal Welfare League of Arlington (www.awla.org/donate) or the National Alliance on Mental Illness (www.nami.org/donate).

Barbara Roos

January 10, 1956August 10, 2019

Barbara Roos January 10, 1956 – August 10, 2019

Barbara Roos of Arlington, Virginia passed peacefully from this life on August 10, 2019 at the Virginia Hospital Center, surrounded by loving family and friends.

Barbara was born in Boston, MA, though she lived most of her early years in Morristown, NJ. Following her graduation from the Bayley Ellard High School in Madison, NJ, she attended the University of Bridgeport where she received a Bachelor of Fine Arts degree. Barbara relocated to Arlington Virginia in 1978 to begin her professional career. Barbara was most recently a Program Manager with the American Retirement Association in Washington, DC and previously held related positions with the Rural Electric Cooperative Association, the National Automobile Dealers Association and the Child Welfare League of America.

Barbara was an impassioned volunteer for decades with numerous organizations in the Arlington area involved with caring for the vulnerable. She had a particular focus on mental health, suicide prevention and sexual violence. She was also actively involved volunteering with local organizations providing for the care and comfort of domestic animals.

Barbara was predeceased by her parents Robert and Helene Roos. She is survived by her brother Robert Craig Roos and his wife Sally of Raritan, NJ, sister Elin Roos of Hingham, MA, sister Carol Graber and her husband Raymond of Middletown, DE and brother William Roos and his wife Karen of Mountain Lakes, NJ. Barbara loved and was deeply loved back by her many nieces and nephews, Debra Bednarski, Amy Roos, Jeff Roos, Brian Roos, Megan Johnson, James Graber, Laura Graber and Mary Elizabeth Roos and by her many cousins from New England within the Roos, Coyne and Gallipeau families.

Visitation is planned for Thursday August 15, 2019 from 4-8 PM at the Murphy Funeral Home in Arlington, VA. A Mass of Christian Burial is planned for 10:00 AM on Monday August 19, 2019 at the Church of Christ the King in New Vernon, NJ. Interment is private.

In lieu of flowers, online donations can be made in Barbara’s memory at the Animal Welfare League of Arlington (www.awla.org/donate) or the National Alliance on Mental Illness (www.nami.org/donate).


  • Gathering Thursday, August 15, 2019


Barbara Roos

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Kelsey Mayo

August 20, 2019

Barbara was an absolute delight and an amazing professional. I looked forward to every opportunity to work with her on programs and see her at live events. She was simply wonderful and will be sorely missed. So thankful for the light she brought to us, which will remain in this world long after.

Michaela “Flynn Face” Van Deusen

August 19, 2019

I believe that I am still in denial about Rooster’s passing. I’ll no longer pick up the phone and hear Barb’s exuberant greeting, “Flynn Face! How ARE you?” If either of us used the other’s given name, rather than our self-dubbed nicknames, we knew we were in trouble.

There are too many memories of Barb to write them in this small space . . . I have so many from which to choose! If you had ever been in Barb’s townhouse, you may have noticed a framed quote at the top of the first set of stairs. It is SO spot on:
“Barbara—another word for friend.” I’ll always miss you, Rooster.

Ellen Frishman

August 16, 2019

I am in shock. I’ve known Barb since the late 70’s working together at McKinsey. We had lots of crazy adventures together in the DC area. It’s been a while since we saw each other, but I will always remember her fondly.

My deepest condolences to her family and friends.

Lynne Adams

August 16, 2019

Barbara and I met in junior League in Washington DC. Our sustainer group of single women always loved to meet at her home for Pot Luck dinners. I moved to Florida and if she was in Florida we would meet up and share laughs, stories and dinner. I even went to a redskins game with her. Always the ultimate hostess. She made a mean burger! I am so saddened to learn of her passing so young. Such a warm and giving soul. She will be missed by so many. I know how much she loved her nieces and nephews. My condolences to her family.

Joe Vetrano

August 15, 2019

Dear Barbara as you lay in State i want to share a memory with your friends and family. We met while we both worked on the Boardwalk in Wildwood in 1977. We had fun with the other kids working and we exchanged addresses.
I never saw you again in person but we exchanged Holiday Greeting Cards every year since ! I ALWAYS looked forward to your Card and enclosed Letter of the years Activity. I have the last one here now, i kept it out as The Message was simple and heartfelt on the front....Peace & Joy with a few pointsettas.sp.
I knew we were the same age but didn't know until reading this NOW...we are both born January 10, 1956.
Barbara's photo here looks near the same as i recall.
As i have a Streisand CD playing i'll say Thanks for the friendship Barbara(and a few phone calls) , as i wish You, Your Friends and Family another Happy Day another Fun Adventure.
Peace & Joy,
ox , Joe Vetrano

Nancy Montague

August 15, 2019

Barbara Roos had many friends. I was glad to be among them. She was adamant – it didn’t really matter about what (pot meet kettle, I know.) Her last six months have been a shining example of maintaining a positive attitude in the face of adversity. She was strong. She was loved. I will miss her very much. I offer my condolences to her family and friends on our loss.

Una Murphy

August 14, 2019

Barbara was a very special friend and will be sorely missed. We had a lot of fun times together. From her annual Holiday party to the "Barbara-Qs", she was always opening her heart and her home to her friends. We had many fun game nights together with the gang. Barbara organized the trip to Cleveland where I met my husband... So many memories of good times. We recently were able to spend some nights together just the two of us, sharing stories, memories and plans for future good times. I will keep Barbara in my heart always.

Maria, Stephane, Henrik & Mariela Vogel

August 14, 2019

We are saddened by the loss of Barbara especially since we recently spend some time at the pool with her. On the same token, we are grateful that we got to see her in good spirits and doing so well and we will remember her like that. Barbara was always gracious and invited us to be part of her ritual Sunday brunch at the pool and she would always ensure to lend her floaty to the kids which they would use as a boat all day long except when she had to take her nap on it. She will be missed.

Claire Burns

August 13, 2019

Like many of us, Barbara's departure leaves a big hole in our hearts. I like to think of it as she's at the best beach resort spa ever - reunited with her parents and all those she loved so dearly.

Barbara was a networker of friends and family. I have so many more wonderful people in my life now that I credit her for.

She could be a bit contradictory at times (and aren't we all?). She'd argue that I still owed a $1.16 on a restaurant bill and then turn around and give me the shirt off her back if I asked.

Those of you who have gone on road trips with her, know she was on a driving mission, no stops allowed. I learned early on to hit the bathroom prior to take off and avoid all liquids until we reached our destination.

Barbara was my rock at times when I didn't even know I needed one. She would intuitively show unannounced and make me feel better.

So Barbara, until we meet again... Please put in a few good words for me with St. Peter. Not sure I'll make the cut on my own when I get there. I will carry you with me always.

Jim Apistolas

August 13, 2019

I worked with Barbara through two jobs: the National Automobile Dealers Association and the American Retirement Association. I hired her into both jobs - and would do it again in a heartbeat. She was crazy, dependable, creative, resourceful, and mostly just amazing to be around. She also was a character - she sat right outside my office door at our last job together and I looked right at her desk from my office. I loved watching her progression through the year - New Years, St. Patrick's Day, Easter etc. She had decorations for them all! I especially loved how she would put Christmas lights on her cube for December. To top it all off - she was the "Social Chairman" for the group - planning breakfasts, lunches, and thankfully, happy hours.

Mostly though, Barbara was my friend and I loved her. I will miss our conversations and the notes that she would send me. She was truly one of the good ones. Thank you for being my friend BD Roos, I will miss you.