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Frederick William Stokeld

June 15, 1933October 1, 2019

Frederick William Stokeld died Tuesday, October 1, in Arlington, Va., where he had lived for 51 years. He was 86.

Fred was born June 15, 1933 in Middlesbrough, England. He was the oldest of 16 children born to Frederick Stokeld Sr. and Beryl Metcalf.

In the 1950s Fred served in the Royal Air Force and was stationed in West Germany. He also earned an undergraduate degree from the London School of Economics.

Fred later moved to the United States and received an MBA from Indiana University. For a time he lived in Chicago and worked at the Sperry Rand Corporation before moving to Portland, Ore., to take a job with the Portland Chamber of Commerce.

In Portland, Fred met his future wife, Laura Renfro. They married on August 4, 1962, and had two children: Frederick Stokeld Jr. and Amanda Stokeld Moroney.

In 1968, Fred and his family moved to Arlington after Fred accepted a position in the International Division of the United States Chamber of Commerce in Washington. In that role Fred periodically traveled to Canada, Europe, and Africa.

After leaving the Chamber in 1989 Fred did consulting work and also worked in real estate.

Fred loved his wife of 57 years and adored his children. He enjoyed reading history and poetry, listening to classical music, gardening, cooking, watching football, and spending time with family and friends.


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Frederick William Stokeld

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Jane Ablett

October 11, 2019

Over the years I didn't see much of Uncle Fred, but when he did visit he was always a quiet soul , he chose his words carefully but always delivered wise words with poise, laughter & intrigue.

I remember when I visited Washington DC in the mid 80's I stayed with Fred & Laura for a few weeks, I was given an itinerary each day by Fred, to explore the entire City, he rewarded me on some nights when I returned, blistered & exhausted with a bar of chocolate!

Have fun & laughter on the other side, Uncle Fred xx

josephine McCoy

October 9, 2019

Goodbye and God bless to my wonderful big brother Fred
A kind caring compassionate man with a wonderful sense of humour and head of a unique family who loved and adored him
I will never forget how you rescued me ,aged 6, from under the garage door ,when it fell on me and broke my leg, and how you kept my spirits up writing funny messages on the plaster cast,
much love from your little sister..........never forget you......
Josephine xxx

Bee Popple

October 7, 2019

Although I didn’t see Fred as much as I would have liked, we did keep in touch quite often sending silly cards and photographs, like the one here. This is how I want to remember him. (On the back of the picture he wrote, ‘these oysters worked’!)
Like everyone mentioned in their lovely tributes he was indeed a kind and gentle soul with a subtle sense of humour. He will be truly missed.R.I.P. Lovely Fritz. Your loving sister B.

Nick Stokeld

October 7, 2019

My dear Big Brother-I will miss the monthly calls across the ocean -your words of wisdom and anecdotes of life at Montreal Place-CroydonRoad-Devonshire Road and then Parkhurst ! RIP Fritz from brother Nick,Jane and all the Lowestoft family

Nicholas Hollis

October 7, 2019

I was privileged to have Fred as a friend and a collaborator during our shared time at the Chamber. We worked together on various trade policy projects, including EU enlargement, East-West trade and African outreach. His graceful wit and charm will be deeply missed. R.I.P.

Nicholas E. Hollis

Barbara Schwartz

October 5, 2019

I'm Barbara Schwartz one of Fred's many nieces. He was always so kind and funny. I loved that he stayed in touch with my mom, Susan (a younger sister) while we were growing up and to the very end. He always made an effort to call and write and also visit us in San Francisco, where we live. He gave my mom away at her wedding (since they lost their dad at a young age). He came to my wedding and my sisters, here in San Francisco. He cared and made it clear by staying in touch and attending special events. I love him and his kind, and beautiful nature. He is missed by many and I will cherish all the pictures and memories I have of him. He also made my brother's kids feel so welcome and toured them around DC. Love you Uncle Fred! XOXOOXOXOX

mary-louise stokeld

October 5, 2019

I am the youngest of Fred's many siblings, by the time I came along he was already executing his escape plan, (15, kids 15 pairs of shoes to polish each week, who would blame him certainly not me) although he never did really leave us, for every so often a card/letter would appear, at first to Mums address then as time passed by, and all them family spread their own wings, he would add yet another address to his rapidly expanding address book and we'd all get letters from him, telling us of his travels, always a funny anecdote, always kind and caring, never forgetting any of us, a testament to how much Fred was loved is shown by the many lovely words from his nieces and nephews

Dan Kush

October 5, 2019

My partner Laura Fantauzzi and I send our deepest condolences to Laura, Fred and the rest of Fred Senior's family. He was a friend, a really nice guy, and a kind and thoughtful gentleman in so many ways. He, Laura and Fred kept our US Chamber retirees group going strong. Thanks so much for that! And he always gave me his really cool military magazines from Britain that I loved to read! We wish Peace, Love and Harmony to Fred and his loving family. DAN KUSH

barbara stokeld

October 4, 2019

Our oldest brother, first born and adored by his siblings. He was a distinguished, kind and gentle soul with a well-honed sense of humor . It must have been a tough role being the first born of 16 yet be seemed to thrive. He told me of a time he was studying for exams at the same time holding new born twins - me and my brother. "Didn't you hate that?" I asked -- "No, I loved it" he said. You lovely wonderful man. I love you! little sister Barbara

Susan Stokeld

October 4, 2019

I greatly admired my brother for his wit, intelligence, command of the English language, his eloquence, his amazing memory for historical facts, his whimsical takes on this crazy life of ours, and, his delight in the absurd.

Fred was a genteel human being, averse to negativism, hence his ability to take the high road.

Always happy to hear from family, One could 'hear' his smile at the other end of the phone.

Hopefully the books Fred wrote will be made available for us all to read and appreciate.

His lovely soft voice will not be heard again but will live in my memory forever.

You will be truly missed brother.

Adios Fritz
Happy Trails til we meet again.
Love, Sue