Murphy Funeral Homes


R. Jeffrey Kidwell

August 29, 1963June 2, 2021
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Richard Jeffrey Kidwell, known to his friends as Jeff, passed away at 57 years old on Wednesday, June 2, in Arlington, VA surrounded by family. Jeff is survived by his wife Patricia Mack, his two children, Catherine and Christopher Kidwell, their mother, Jessica Kidwell, his nephew Harry Kidwell and his loyal companion, Sheba.

Born on August 29, 1963 in Orange, VA, he attended Orange County High School where he was active in student government, theater, and soccer. He graduated salutatorian in 1981 and went on to study industrial engineering at Virginia Tech. He was a jack of all trades: novice builder, singer and guitar player, dog whisperer, business man. He was a beloved brother of Beta Theta Pi, never to miss a Hokie tailgate, and the worlds best dad and friend. As an ardent seeker of truth, his natural curiosity made him a successful engineer and astute business professional.

He was recently retired, but during his successful career he was the type of man who led his companies like his family; with compassion, empathy, profound logic, and deep humor. A friend to all, his door was always open, and you can bet he already had a plan to take care of any problem you brought his way. You would rarely find Jeff without a Makers Mark and ginger ale in hand, singing along to Wilco. Above all, Jeff was a kind, good man. He left this world too soon, but his family and friends take comfort knowing he’ll be cracking jokes and problem solving in the next life, reunited with his brother, Martin Downs Kidwell, mother, Anna Louise Brady Kidwell, and father, Franklin Downs “Bud” Kidwell.

A visitation and reception will be held on Sunday, June 20, from 1-5PM at Murphy Funeral Home located at 4510 Wilson Blvd, Arlington, VA 22203. The family requests that masks be worn at the funeral home.

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James Smith

June 18, 2021

I first met Jeff in the mid 90s when he worked at Vertex Solutions. I asked him to work with me on a large, complex IT transformation project for the Defense Information Systems Agency. The work required us to travel to numerous Government sites and work long hours. We spent a lot of time together on the road and I got to know him as a talented consulting professional who truly cared about making the Federal Government work more effectively for the American people. We later worked together on numerous projects and I came to regard him as a valued friend and colleague. One of the good guys. I will miss him very much. Rest in peace my friend.

Noel & Janeen Mueller

June 10, 2021

Jeff: We are hoping that this message finds you somehow, somewhere in the Cosmos as we are certain that you are a bright new shining star up there looking down on us.

We are deeply saddened at your passing and particularly that we were not able to spend more time together as we had planned to do with you, Patty, and Sheba but for this past year’s challenges. We were very much looking forward to spending more time together at our beautiful homesteads, and bonding more as friends and neighbors. We have truly enjoyed your company and the get-togethers that we were able to have with you all since our move next door.

We are so very fortunate to have known you and shared a big part of our lives next door to each other in our forever homes. In a few words, you are a very strong, courageous, honorable, courteous, friendly, smart, and caring individual. On a grander scale, you are much much more. You are a hero as a husband, father, innovator, teacher, transformer, and protector of our homeland. No doubt that you have touched the hearts, minds, and souls of hundreds if not thousands of people throughout your life as you have ours. We are certain that you will continue to do so in your new form and spirit.

Rest assured that we are here to help comfort and support Patty, the kids, Sheba, and the rest of your family and friends as best we can while we grieve together over losing the physical you, as we celebrate your life and accomplishments, as we keep you in our prayers and thoughts, and as we move on with our lives with your spirit alive and well with and among us.

Not going to say goodbye, just so long, as we look forward to hanging out with you again soon among the stars, and wholistically in the after-life when our time comes.

We miss you. Rest in peace friend, and cheers to you with a little Tullamore Dew.


Noel & Janeen

"I’m not afraid of death because I don’t believe in it. It’s just getting out of one car, and into another." John Lennon

Liesel Wolff

June 10, 2021

Having lived next door to Patty and Jeff for many years, I will miss Jeff's friendliness and positivity. Patty, my heart goes out to you.

Dana King

June 10, 2021

I wouldn't be retired today is not for Jeff Kidwell. He gave me a chance when I thought I'd never work in the industry again, and nurtured me through some rough early patches. Last year, as I needed an exit strategy, Jeff took all the time I needed to help me set a plan, and to put my mind at ease that I was treating everyone fairly, including myself. I can't ever remember seeing Jeff, in the office or out, no matter how busy, where he didn't appear genuinely glad to see me. That didn't make me special--he treated everyone that way--but it sure made me feel special. He has surely gone to a better place, if only because his loss so greatly diminishes what he left behind.

Laurie Thomas

June 8, 2021

My deepest condolences to Patty and his children, Catie and Chris. He was so very proud of all of you.

Jeff touched so many people throughout his life with his compassion, empathy, friendship and his never ending love for all people. He left a legacy of kindness and the importance of connections other others. So many memories being shared of the ways Jeff touched our lives which speaks to his wisdom and character.

I will miss our FaceTime and phone conversations, even the poor connections. I will miss the updates on The Grand Floofer.

Godspeed Jeff, you can rest now and be without pain.

Chip Downey

June 7, 2021

I met Jeff in high school. We played soccer together on the high school team and shared several classes together. It was clear to me Jeff was fiercely competitive, articulate, smart and a gifted leader. His leadership, I don’t think, didn’t necessarily stem from that though. It came from his compassion and humility. He was someone I wanted to be like. While we left school and parted ways to live lives I have thought of Jeff from time to time, and well. Good men leave their marks

Jenny Riddick

June 5, 2021

So many memories of Jeff’s kind heart and devotion. We served on many class committees and clubs in high school. He was a true friend who would always offer a listening ear and a hug. Talks on the beach, Jimmy Buffett concerts, driving around “idiot circle” in Orange and lunches after my husband passed. I kept in touch with him about his dad as I visited Bud at the nursing home. He was so strong for all in the loss of his own family. At this time, it is hard to be strong for his loss. What an amazing dad and person who will the world will miss. Rest In Peace my friend. I know heaven has truly received an angel.