Murphy Funeral Homes

4510 Wilson Boulevard, Arlington, VA


Roger Anthony Stanley

October 5, 1947August 16, 2019
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Roger Anthony Stanley was born on October 5, 1947 and passed away on August 16, 2019.


  • Visitation Sunday, August 25, 2019
  • Funeral Service Monday, August 26, 2019
  • Graveside Service Monday, August 26, 2019


Roger Anthony Stanley

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Coco Stanley

December 8, 2019

Hi Daddy,

Today we are attending a candlelit celebration on your behalf. It feels like just yesterday we were in the hospital and you grabbed my hand, shook your head (as in to tell me everything will be okay and to stop crying) and whispered I love you. I pulled myself together and said I love you more.

I try to be strong for you (and Mom) everyday and keep pushing because I know that’s exactly what you would do if the roles were reversed. You’ve always had the best mentality about life. “Life happens and you move on”. I miss you more than I can explain but I find comfort in listening to your voicemails which always start “It’s your daddy...”.

I miss those little things about you, Daddy. You know, announcing yourself on my voicemail even though I have caller ID lol, I miss you always singing random songs about what you are doing or that you ate too much, I miss your wit and your smile, I especially miss you saying you had to look on the “interweb” .

I always felt we shared such a different bond and we just understood each other. I hope you are resting easy and watching over all of us, especially Mom. She’s doing okay :) we are keeping her preoccupied but there’s never a day that goes by we don’t talk about you or miss you or wish you were still here. The holidays just don’t feel the same without your presence.

I love you, Daddy. Thank you for being the best dad and influence in my life. I wish you could be here for my 30th birthday. I promise I’ll behave and make you proud :) Until we meet again.

John Scheuermann

September 25, 2019

I learned today that Roger had passed away. Roger had been our law firm's accountant for thirty years. He came to us through Mary Wallace, then a firm associate. When Mary moved on Roger stayed. His wise counsel and advice was indispensable to our firm's financial health and stability. He was a true professional and he will be missed.
To the Stanley family let us extend our deepest sympathy for your loss. Know that this good man has gone to a better place.
Jack Scheuermann, Elizabeth Menist and the attorneys and staff of Scheuermann & Menist

Scott Campbell

September 23, 2019

Roger was my sister Stephanie Campbell’s accountant and he played a key role in helping me settle her estate in 2014 after she had passed away. I pray for his family during this difficult time. Peace be with you.

David Crouse, Jr

September 23, 2019

I just received the word that Roger had passed. I'm so sorry for your loss. I met Roger at a very difficult time when he was helping in the settlement of a family estate matter. He was someone I could count on to share a laugh to help me through the ups and downs of that time. After that I continued to employ Roger each year for our taxes until recently when my father passed and we ended up switching to a local firm down here. I missed talking to Roger this year. Roger was always a stand up guy and was very patient with my family. He will be missed. God Bless.

Paul Buongiorno

September 18, 2019

To the entire Stanley Family
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband, father and grandfather just recently. I have fond memories sitting in the Stanley kitchen and family room with everyone while Roger and I were working on a variety of projects. It was a special time. Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss and know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Paul Buongiorno

Brian Petty

September 8, 2019

He was my accountant for over 40 years. And I considered him a friend from Day 1. Always funny, patient and full of beans. A dear heart, and a great personal loss.

Glenn Marcus

September 2, 2019

After an unsavory experience with an accountant, Roger was recommended by a friend, and what a benefit that was. Roger was a joy to employ. He was excellent at his work, and a joy to schmooze with. I earned lotsa points with friends by referring folks his way. When I got married, I started filing jointly, and had to use my wife;s firm accountant, who was a shadow of Roger. I went to Roger's office to say goodbye, and he was most gracious, and gave me some hilarious tips on how to make a marriage last, I treasure my memories of him.

Roger Miller

August 24, 2019

What a concept. Old guys playing baseball at age 40 and over. Thanks to men like Roger, Larry Lombardi, Jerry KIemm and Jim Beck, this became a reality. I never dreamed that I would be able to play well into my seventies and I am extremely grateful to those who had the foresight and energy to make this possible.

On another level, Roger and I are/were in the same profession and we spent countless hours on the telephone discussing tax issues and strategies for our clients. He was an enormous help to me and I hope I was to him. I will miss you my man. Rest in peace.

Lisa Dunner

August 23, 2019

Roger, also known as “Ra” to me, has been my law firm’s accountant for 17 years and my friend and personal accountant for nearly 30 years. He was always direct, to the point, and oh, so funny. I will miss hearing about his baseball, his motorcycles and his family who he loved so much; I will miss the lollipops he gave me when I visited during tax season, and I already miss hearing him call me “Kiddo” or “Blondie.” Roger was a gem... Love ya Ra....


August 21, 2019

Roger was one of those men that exhibited a sense of calm and wisdom. And, yet a true competitor on the ball field and in life. What he may have lacked in height, he made up for with his heart with his love of life, family, and baseball. We owe a lot of thanks to him, for without his efforts, DCMSBL may never have came as far as it has come. Roger, please say hello for all of us to the ultimate umpire in chief.


Roger Stanley was born in Queens, NY, on October 5, 1947, to Norman and Margaret Stanley. He enlisted in the Army in 1967, spent almost two years in Germany, and served in the reserves beginning in 1971. He earned his Masters degree in Finance from Benjamin Franklin University. After graduation, he worked as an accountant for several companies, then opened an LLC and became his own boss.

On August 10, 1968, he married the love of his life, Patricia Bott, and they celebrated their 51st anniversary only a few days before he passed away. He is survived by Pat, six daughters--Sherri, Denise, Kristi, Jamie, Nicole, and Cory--and three grandchildren, Romeo, Jaslene, and Vincent, as well as his brother Warren and his family, and his brother-in-law Stephen.

When not working his day job, Roger could often be found working in the yard—frequently with his youngest grandchild at his side—tinkering with his motorcycles or cars, playing baseball in the Mens Senior Baseball League, or watching the Nationals or the Redskins. As a dog whisperer, he also spent a lot of bonding, playing, and walking time with his favorite four-legged people, Payton and Peanut.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital - http://giftfunds.stjude.org/RogerStanley

The family will hold a Reception/Celebration of Roger's life at Sherri's house on August 26 after the Burial. All are welcome and anyone who is interested in attending can contact a member of the family for the address.