Mary Terry

April 27, 1952December 24, 2017

Born Mary Patricia Meeley, Dr. Mary M Terry passed away on Christmas Eve after a decades-long battle with breast cancer. She is survived by her only son, Daniel, of Long Island City, and life partner Gregory Koch. Surviving also are mother Mary Ellen, sister-in-law Joanne (Tricia, Kate, Bessa), sister Carolyn with husband Chuck (Bill, Charlie, Caitlin), and brothers Stephen with wife Stacye (Keara), John with wife Donna (Thomas, Lauren, Colleen), Robert with wife Liz (Joseph, James) and Brian with wife Sybil (Colin, Claire).

For those in her counsel - family, friend, or colleague - Mary could always find the quiet struggle in the room and connect with the one bearing it, draw it forth, examine it, laugh at it, and give its power back to those carrying the burden. And we all watched her draw on her own inner strength in the process. Her humor and wisdom touched so many, whether by making up poems to tame and befriend elusive words, reading aloud and adding drama and excitement in the most amazing voices, donning silly garb and conducting science experiments with the little ones around a table at the beach, having intense heart-to-hearts in the wee hours, or sitting quietly by, so those dear to her knew they were never alone.

Dr. Terry spent the last 25 years alongside many dear colleagues teaching science and the roots of self-directed discovery to so many boys rolling through their formative years at the Allen-Stevenson School in Manhattan. This is where her scientific background as a PhD neurobiologist was allowed to blossom as an energetic educator - teaching exploration and inquiry while holding the hand of another.

Please join us in remembrance in all of these ways, and in any personal and singular ways she will surely have inspired. Be it in person, in spirit, through gesture or quiet meditation, call to mind the gifts she has given to each of us. Wish her well. Take comfort in her peace. Take pride in her triumphs. And take a moment now and again to call to mind the tiny gifts and the grand visions at the times and places she would have filled for you, were she still at your side. She is, and always will be. Our Peach.

Service Information: Mass of Christian Burial to be held Saturday, Dec 30th, 10:00am at Holy Name of Jesus Roman Catholic Church, 96th & Amsterdam on Manhattan's Upper West Side.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Susan G. Komen Foundation for Breast Cancer, or the charity of your choice.


  • Funeral Mass Saturday, December 30, 2017
  • Reception Saturday, December 30, 2017

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Ron wiley

September 5, 2018

I was one of the fortunate whose life was changed by knowing Mary. We shared an office during her neuroscience years. A couple of years later, I had dinner with her and she did exactly what was described in her obituary. She drew me out about the “burdens” I was carrying, validated my efforts and empowered me to eventually make changes that dramatically changed my life. I regret never having the opportunity to thank her.

Adele Abrams

January 8, 2018

Just learned of Peachy's passing, we were high school friends at MSD. Condolences to her family and friends. So sorry for your loss.

Angela Clancy O'Connor

January 5, 2018

I had the great pleasure of having Mary & Daniel along with her dear friend Lisa (R.I.P) and her son Ian stay at our home in Dublin during their visit to Ireland in August 2011. Both were dear friends and soul mates of my baby sister Una Mc Gillicuddy. Our home was a buzz for those few days with laughter, stories, song, and new friendships. There was nothing about Mary you couldn't like and everything about her that you could love! She was interesting but more interested and engaged at every level with our immediate and extended family during her visit. She was warm and quirky and we all loved her instantly. She was such easy company and we had endless cups of teas chats and laughs with her, Lisa and Una into the wee hours of the morning! Mary took a big interest in our son Denis who was aged 9 at that time and I know from Una often enquired about him following her visit .
More recently (April 2016) me and my sister Kate along with Una had dinner with Mary in her beautiful home while visiting NYC. She was well at that time and we all enjoyed a great evening of chat and laughs and fondness. We will forever remember Mary as a kind and lovely person that touched our lives briefly but through her relationship with Una she has forever been in our hearts and will remain there . May she Rest In Peace. Sincere condolences to you Daniel and to Mary's Mom & extended family.

Thomas Verchot

January 3, 2018

I will so miss Mary's dry sense of humor and calm presence.

Rose F

January 2, 2018

Daniel and Mary Ellen, though relatively young, Mary lived her declining life with grace, with strength and with compassion. God promised, "To bring back the soul from the pit to be enlightened with the light of the living."(Job 33:30) May we treasure and put faith in this promise to embrace Mary once again. I give the Terry family and relatives my deep and sincere condolence.

Will Goss

January 1, 2018

It was a pleasure working with Mary for the past four years. She was a kind and uplifting person. Whenever our paths crossed she had a smile and an encouraging or warm comment ready. I am going to miss her. She really went out of her way to make me feel welcome at Allen-Stevenson.

Kristin Filling

January 1, 2018

I feel so fortunate to have worked alongside Mary for more than 20 years. Her passion for the boys and science and exploratory learning was inspiring. She had such a determination and commitment to be better, to push herself and guide those around her. Mary was a warrior. She was fighting her own battles but showing up and giving so much to all of us every day. I have such happy memories of sitting in meetings with Mary while she shared her vision for the future and how to make our school and our teaching better. Thinking of Mary makes me smile.
She was an inspirational teacher and colleague. Even in her pain and illness, she was so very full of life and hope. My heart is heavy for Daniel and her family, and all of us at AS who knew her. She will be missed dearly.

Michelle Demko

January 1, 2018

Mary's enormous spirit was a light & inspiration to us all. Even when her physical body, her shell, was declining, her presence was still huge. Her smile, her warmth, her wit - her caring - drew us all to her as she quietly taught us life lessons. I can hear her stories of Daniel (love to you, Danny), my favorites being the Robin Hood & incognito stories.
Oh, Mary, you will be sorely missed.


December 31, 2017

I don't know Mary. I just saw her photo and her smile.
I do not mean to intrude, but for some reason, her photo seemed to jump out, and it touched me.

From her picture, it immediately became clear that she was a good person, A happy and joyful person that could have been a friend. A person who changed things by her mere presence. Please accept my condolences.

As you continue to reflect on Marys life, please remember there is only one true God, and his name can be found at Psalms chapter 83, Verse 18. He is a Spirit; you cannot see him, but he sees you. He knows your pain and sorrow, He loves you, and he wants you to love him in return.

Ginny Rowe

December 30, 2017

To have had the privilege to work beside Mary and experience her brilliant mind and compassionate spirit is something I will always cherish. Her patience and humor always shone through, no matter the challenge before her. Mary was a great light for all who knew her.