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Thompson Funeral Home

530 Industrial Parkway South, Aurora, ON

OBITUARY

Hong "Lily" Li

June 13, 1963July 14, 2020

Hong Li, known as Lily to her Canadian friends, family and co-workers, passed away on Tuesday, July 14, 2020 at Providence Healthcare in Scarborough at the age of 57. Lily endured a debilitating and fierce battle with lung cancer for more than two years. Lily persevered in her fight without regrets. Lily was happy with all she had lived and accomplished. She was most proud of her son Bingran and his academic successes. Sadly, Lily will not be able to witness Bingran's graduation from the University of Toronto's Engineering Faculty. Lily was the loving and devoted wife and life partner to Armando. Lily will also be missed by her mother, Qunying and brother, Rongwei in China, as well as her extended family and friends. In Armando’s words, “Lily is my greatest loss.”

Lily was a personal support worker at Sunrise of Aurora since 2013. She was loved by the many residents in her care.

Lily enjoyed attending to her indoor plants, cooking, yoga, cycling, gardening, and growing her much loved lavender with Armando, even embarking on swimming lessons at the Murray cottage. She was a cost conscious shopper but also valued quality. She relished clipping coupons and price matching. She held the family unit in the highest esteem and found it best embodied in her favorite movie, On Golden Pond. The many parks and sites visited were rendered more beautiful with Lily at their centre!

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A visitation and celebration of life for Lily will be held on Saturday, July 18, 2020 from 10:00AM to 12:00 PM at Thompson Funeral Home on 530 Industrial Parkway South in Aurora, followed by her interment at Aurora Cemetery at 14253 Yonge Street in Aurora.

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  • Celebration Of Life

    Saturday, July 18, 2020

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Hong "Lily" Li

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Kathy Milani

July 27, 2020

Dear Bing,
Your mother’s heart swelled with love for you and she was very proud of your achievements. May her loving spirit protect you and continue to guide you so that your talents reward you with all the good things. Many believe you are capable of so much and I know your Mom would like for you to achieve all the goals you set your mind to and as your guardian angel she’ll always be cheering you on.

xin xu

July 26, 2020

Dear lily, it's been a week since I attended your funeral. I missed you every day during this week, especially at night when I always remembered the days we were together and couldn't sleep for a long time.

I remember that the first time we met was when we took an accounting course in 2011. At that time, you were young and beautiful, with a graceful posture, you spoke softly and softly, and you always smiled at people, which gave me a very good impression! The course time is very short, it is over in half a year, but you and Ming Li, we have become good friends. Over the years, the three of us have gone to the park to play together in the beautiful summer, get together before Christmas, and usually take time out to drink coffee together and talk about work and life. I feel happy every time I get together, so I look forward to the next time I get together!

You love life and nature, you like to make food and grow flowers, and you like sports. You often invite Ming Li and me to go swimming, and you also bought lily seeds to share with us. Last year's Mid-Autumn Festival, you made moon cakes for us when you were sick. So many good memories, I miss you so much!

Armando gave you the greatest love and made your life colourful. We saw a lot of pictures of you, and saw your smile, happiness and joy! There is no sickness in heaven, I wish you happiness in heaven!
We will always miss you!

Kathy Milani

July 22, 2020

Armand, as your sister, the most important thing for me is knowing that you’re happy. As I got to know Lily, I realized you were finally sharing your life with someone that brought you great joy and comfort. Lily was humble but also fearless in showing her willingness to help anyone in need, in whatever capacity she could. She would face a problem with the conviction that she had the solution. I saw her as someone who enjoyed sharing her bright spirit with others with laughter and good sentiments. Even when she was confronted with the unimaginable burden of her sickness, she remained truly wonderful to her friends. Her natural expressions of love never failed even when life became too difficult. Lily’s relief from suffering brings you pain, but may the memory of the smile of your beautiful Lily also bring you peace.
Love, Kathy

Ling Li

July 21, 2020

Armand- Sorry for your loss of Lily. I was heartbroken since I heard she passed away, and did not sleep well for a few nights. I cannot accept she is gone. Her beautiful smile was deeply buried in my mind. I cannot forget all the good times we spent together and she was the one who taught me how to cook sushi, I cannot believe God took her away from us so early. From your writing, I can see that she suffered a lot from fighting with the sickness. Now she can rest in peace, no more pain. She will be missed forever.

Doug Izon

July 19, 2020

Condolences to friends and family and especially to Armand and Bing.
Fran my wife and I (Doug) will miss Lily. I spoke at the Celebration and here is what I said.
We first met Lily at a dinner party at Armand's house Sept 2,2014. Lily and Armand's mom did most of the meal preparation. Lily and Armand have brightened our lives on 12 occasions since we first met Lily. All of these occasions were shared with our friends Ross and Sue. Graham and Lorna joined us on 3 occasions.
We shared multi day cottage getaways at the Ross and Sue’s cottage in 2015,16,17. It was here that I witnessed Lily as a kind, caring, friendly and fun-loving woman. I watched her swim I think for the first time under Sue’s coaching. I saw her compose and take pictures of nature. She delighted in catching any sized fish and wanted to eat them all. Lily won our hearts as a friend and a lovely person to know. We also went for a few days in 2019 to Ottawa/Gatineau and had a marvelous time exploring the museums, galleries, canals, and casinos. Lily took many pictures and wanted the setup to be just right. It was wonderful that Lily and my good wife Fran seem to hit it off. In Ottawa Lily would frequently hold hands very naturally with Fran as we toured. Lily was a warm and loving person.The group of six celebrated Christmas at our home in 2015, 16, 18. Armand and Lily would always bring delightful deserts and beautiful flowers. We also hosted 2 parties in 2018 and 19. Ross and Sue had the group of six over to their Burlington home for parties in 2017 and in Nov. 2019. Sadly that was the last time we saw Lily. In July of 2018 Armand's mom unfortunately passed. Lily was a great and compassionate support to Armand, Armand’s mom and family during this tragic time.
In summary It was a privilege to get to know Lily over the years. Strong willed, compassionate, trusting, affectionate, a loving and proud mother, caring and independent. She is certainly missed by both both Fran and I.

Joanne Nardi

July 17, 2020

Arman,
Sincere condolences on the passing of your most loved Lily. We enjoyed having Lily join our family gatherings, and she will be very missed!
Love,
Joanne, Christian and Lindsay, Alexa, Mason, Logan and Casey
xox

Ross and Sue Murray

July 17, 2020

We will deeply miss spending time with Lily. We had many memorable adventures with Lily and Arman which we will cherish forever. Love Sue and Ross Murray

Don Roy

July 17, 2020

Armand- my sincere condolences for the loss of your beloved Lily. She was a lovely lady and sadly taken away from us much too early. She will live on in our hearts.

John OHern

July 17, 2020

Armand- So very sorry for your loss. Lily was such a nice person. Denise and I enjoyed spending time with you guys in Apsley at Loon Call Lake over the past few years. Lily always had a great smile .

Michelle Milani

July 17, 2020

Armand, we are so very sorry for your loss. We enjoyed having Lily join our family get togethers. Lily will be greatly missed.

Love Villas, Michelle, Nikki, Villas and Jackson

FROM THE FAMILY

I cannot write about our journey without being overwhelmed with sadness. In the course of two years, three targeted oral therapies were followed by two intravenous therapeutics. In tandem, a countless number of radiation treatments to the brain and back were performed and I know any more of them and damage to other organs was a real possibility. Yet your fighting spirit could not be deterred. You tried everything that could possibly help. I saw you spend hundreds of hours researching for trials and alternate remedies. Sometimes grinding items indistinguishable to me from bark and twigs into a pulp for consumption. You were unrelenting but so was the cancer. When your beautiful long hair started to come out in clumps you feared my departure. Instead, we did the best we could together until the final week. I was never going to leave you. Your struggle was my struggle but you did all the hard work. You faced the enemy inside you. I could only imagine the suffering and what the voices calling out at night were saying while you slept. As my cherished Lily, for all the happiness we had together, and the love and joy … I hope you are in a better place. Now you are free. Rather, most importantly, now you are free of pain.

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FROM THE FAMILY

Thank you for celebrating Lily’s life with us at the funeral home and cemetery. You are her dearest friends in Canada and she misses you all. I will go to the cemetery today and read all your cards to her. She wishes you all the best and hopes to meet you all again in the afterlife.

FROM THE FAMILY
FROM THE FAMILY

I was very honoured that you joined me to celebrate Lily’s life. In the short time Lily was in my life, she gave me many wonderful memories, love and affection. Lily was fearless in pursuing adventure. She could turn our modest trips into special events even with her illness. She was not afraid to join in as a full participant in whatever was happening nor downplay her playfulness and exuberance. As she became weaker but wanting to remain busy, she began unraveling sweaters to remake them into another style. She continued to cook for Bing and me until the stamina required to sit in a chair was no longer available. Stoic till the end, she never expressed any self-pity or anger at what she faced.

When it came to lavender she was obsessed; however, she was never able to see her first substantive harvest in person this year. It was only fitting the sprigs of lavender be brought to her. Thank you for being fully involved in the transfer of sentiment and hope at the graveside. Lily and I are very grateful to have such good friends and family.
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