Aubyn Byers HOWE

December 31, 1940October 8, 2021

It is with deep sadness we announce the passing of Aubyn Byers Howe on October 8, 2021. She was a loving wife, mother, and friend to all whose lives she touched.

Aubyn was born to Charles and Veta Byers on December 31, 1940. She grew up in Houston, graduating from Lamar High School and continuing her education at University of Texas at Austin where she was a member of Delta Delta Delta sorority and Pi Omega Pi, the honorary business society. On a blind date she met and later married the love of her life, Robert, (Bob) Howe.

Bob fell in love with his blonde haired, blue-eyed beauty, asking her to marry him but not until one of them graduated UT. She now had a goal and graduated in 3 years. They spent 60 wonderful years as a married couple!

During her life, Aubyn accomplished many things, all while battling multiple sclerosis for almost 50 years. Her talent to raise several million dollars for Tulsa, Oklahoma charities earned her the recognition “Hundred Tulsans Who Make a Difference”. She worked tirelessly for numerous organizations, some of which are the Mental Health Association, the American Heart Association, the National Jewish Center for Immunology and Respiratory Medicine, the March of Dimes, and the Ronald McDonald House.

Her leadership skills were put to good use chairing events both large and small. This fundraising fireball chose to become active in fund raising to “contribute to something that’s dear to my heart, where I could make a difference”. She has served on boards of more than 20 different non-profit organizations and received countless community honors, none more personal than her 1996 Maximum Impact Award from the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.

Aubyn is survived by her devoted husband, Bob; son, Chris and daughter, Carol; brother-in-law, Randy Howe and wife Anita; and brother-in-law, Jack Chandler and wife Virginia and a host of nieces, nephews and cousins. She was preceded in death by her parents, Charles and Veta Byers and Bonnie Howe Chandler (sister-in-law).

The family would like to thank the Brookdale Hospice team that provided professional and compassionate care for Aubyn’s final two weeks of life. Ashley, Whitney, and Jennifer’s care was especially appreciated. A memorial service will be held at a future date. Remembrances may be shared at


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David Marks

October 20, 2021

Bob and Family, I have such very fond memories of Aubyn. Always had a great smile and radiance about her. She did so much for the Tulsa community in so many ways. My sincere condolences to all.

Susie Mccaleb

October 18, 2021

Bob and family

Your obituary for Auburn was so meaningful and sweet. What good memories and how proud we are of all that Aubyn did
and shared during her lifetime.
We thank you for giving such loving care and devotion to her.
And we are very thankful that you lived in Austin these last few
years. It was a pleasure to be with her and remember her
wonderful smile and spirit.
We will look forward to a memorial service at some time.
Blessings from Susie and Bill

Skip Teel

October 17, 2021

Bob, I am so sorry to hear about Aubyn. I remember first meeting her at a Ballet Board meeting and was so impressed with her energy, enthusiasm and commitment. As we got to know each other, it was a pleasant surprise to learn that you and I were Fraternity Brothers. She graciously accepted my invitation to join the Board of the Child Abuse Network and brought her talent and knowledge, which helped us so much. I so admired her ability to deal with all the adversities in her life and always have that wonderful Texas lady smile and positive attitude in spite of everything. You have my deepest sympathy and prayers for you and your family. Rest in peace Aubyn.
In Hoc, Skip Teel

Gwendolyn Miller-Beeler

October 13, 2021

Mrs. Howe was a gentle soul I was privileged to know along her life journey. Godspeed and condolences.

Carol VanMeter

October 12, 2021

A wonderful friend through junior high, high school and UT. Many fond memories of slumber parties, girls’ nights out, and lots of laughter. Condolences to the family.

ron anderson

October 11, 2021

Sorry for the loss and condolences to the family .. Aubyn and I dated in high school. I to graduated in 1958 from LAMAR ..We attended the same church where her Father was the music director .

Mauricio Salazar

October 11, 2021

My wife, Rosario, and I were very blessed during our time in Tulsa, OK, to meet Aubyn and to witness her great spirit, kindness, humanity and leadership. Her work and accomplishments for the community were at a level very seldom seen in this world.
As close neighbors in Tulsa, we had the opportunity to spend time with Aubyn on an informal personal level and together with Bob we attended events together and also were guests are their place in Colorado. The personal contact with the Howes reaffirmed our respect and admiration for Aubyn.
We offer Bob, Carol and Chris our deepest condolences.

Sandy Bennett

October 11, 2021

Since my memory isn't shown here, I am writing again for Aubyn to make sure it is recorded.

I am visualizing being with Aubyn sprinkled through the years so many times all the way back to about 1967. One of my favorite times I remember was our Hippy Party in Lake Charles, Louisiana, costumes required. Bob and Aubyn stole the evening with their arrival on a motor cycle, Aubyn on the back, clutching onto Bob and looking very much the part with her mini skirt, boots, and long hair flowing to her waist, held on by a cool cap.

Fun followed her. But always accompanied with making sure everyone else was happy. Nothing was too difficult for Aubyn to undertake and tackled with the joy of doing for others. I was fortunate to cross paths with her of course in Houston and also Tulsa. I deeply regret I had lost contact with her and didn't know she was back in Houston and living just down the street from me. I am another person on the long list of people who's lives she touched. And as I write this, I can't help smiling and laughing because that's what we always did when we were together.

Sandy Bennett

Joe Dean Phipps

October 10, 2021

I was so saddened to learn of Aubyn's death, and wanted to share my grief and feelings with Bob, and with all of the family. Aubyn was one of the most beautiful friends, in every way, that I met at UT. Aubyn was an absolute treasure. She was so full of love and fun and that amazing smile of hers clearly broadcast her deep joy with everyone that she met, and all of those in the world who were simply blessed to see her beautiful face. For Aubyn, and you, Bob, to find each other and form a life partnership made it a perfect picture. Bob, our wonderful and close relationship, formed within Sigma Chi, was one that I absolutely treasured and valued, and have carried with me all of these years. Aubyn's joy, and smile, will be a memory for me, as I know it will be for you, Bob, and for all of the family as we continue to remember and treasure her. Joe Dean Phipps

Mary Decordova

October 10, 2021

Bob, You were blessed by many years of marriage to a beautiful loving wife.
Death changes us, the living. In the presence of death, we become more aware of can inspire us to decide what really matters in life and then seek it.

Lynne DeCordova