On March 30, 2019 Patricia Ann Turkos (Formerly Patricia Denbow) Beloved Wife of Joseph Turkos of Lutherville, MD and Devoted Mother of David Denbow and his Wife Mindy of Mifflinburg, PA, Kenneth Denbow of Lutherville, MD, and Michael Denbow of Abingdon, MD. Loving Grandmother of Carson Denbow of Denver, CO, Eric Denbow of Ithaca, NY and Erica and Ryan Arnold of Lewisburg, PA. Also survived by her Sister Linda Gates of Stroudsburg, PA and many Nieces, Nephews and Cousins.
Family will receive friends at the Burgee-Henss-Seitz Funeral Home, Inc. 3631 Falls Road Baltimore, MD 21211 on Monday from 3-5 and 7-9 P.M. Services will be held at the funeral home on Tuesday at 10:00 A.M. Interment in Holy Rosary Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Good Bears of the World P.O. Box 13097 Toledo, Ohio 43613. This is an organization that provides Teddy Bears to children and the elderly in need of comfort.
Pat graduated from Mary Help of Christians Academy High School in North Haledon (Passaic County) New Jersey in 1963. She worked at the Loyola-Notre Dame Library from July 7, 1988 until her death; prior to that she worked at the Cockeysville Branch of the Baltimore County Library. She received the Outstanding Paraprofessional Award from the Maryland Library Association in 2009.
Pat was a member of the Maryland Library Association & specifically the Associates, Paraprofessionals and Library Support Staff Division (now called the Support Staff Division) serving several times as its President. She was also an active member of the Beary Hugs Den of Baltimore (until it folded due to dwindling membership), a chapter of Good Bears of the World, a charitable organization that gives away teddy bears to children, the elderly, and others in need of some comfort and love.
Pat also loved to read books. She collected bookmarks and tote bags and was fond of carousel horses and rocking horses. Her husband gave her an adult-sized rocking horse. She also became a collector of teddy bears, starting with mass-produced bears, but eventually moving on to artist bears. She also learned how to make teddy bears herself but had to stop when tremors developed in her hands. She was particularly fond of Winnie the Pooh and his friends. Pat also enjoyed going out to restaurants with her husband, other family members, and friends. Her favorite restaurant in Baltimore was Chiapparelli’s in Little Italy. But her favorite waitress was Sherri Bowings currently at Outback Steakhouse in Perry Hall. Pat also enjoyed taking short trips with her husband. One of her favorite spots was Williamsburg, Virginia, where they went on their honeymoon. But she also really enjoyed going to Ocean City during the off-season just relaxing and listening to the waves. Just before her death, she was planning trips to Mifflinburg, PA to visit her oldest son, David, and his wife, Mindy to see their new house. She was also planning trips to Lancaster, PA and Gettysburg, PA.
Pat stayed with me for nearly 21 years of marriage despite my stubbornness, annoying habits, and many other faults often resulting in arguments. She had promised my mother, at the time of our engagement, that we might not be talking to each other, but that she would never leave me and break my heart. She kept that promise. My heart is broken, but not because of any action that Pat took. She fought this final battle as best as she could. My responsibility as her husband was to love her, care for her, and protect her. But I was helpless and could do nothing to save her even though I pleaded with God to spare her and let her fully recover and just take this stupid, silly, stubborn old man instead. But God would not budge. I feel this is His punishment to me for my stupidity and stubbornness. My heart is now completely shattered. I have lost the kindest, gentlest, most patient, most understanding, most loving and most precious person I have ever had in my life. All I have to look forward to now is my death so I can be together with her again and tell her how sorry I am for everything, how much I truly love her and that I now realize that what was important was our love, our being together, our appreciation of each other and not the nonsense that we argued about. I miss Pat every minute of every day and have shed more tears in the last few days that I have in my entire life. I feel completely dead and empty inside. Nothing else matters to me now except Pat. And she has been taken away from me.
Pat was always devoted to and supportive of her three sons regardless of any mistakes they made. She also enjoyed interacting with the students and faculty in her job at the library and always tried to provide the best service possible. She Developed many good working relationships with the faculty at both Loyola University Maryland and Notre Dame of Maryland University. Faculty Tended to see her as a kind and helpful individual and positive presence at the library.
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