John Kincaid Carpenter

March 18, 1971May 13, 2020

John Kincaid Carpenter was born on March 18, 1971 and passed away on May 13, 2020

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Albert Martin

May 20, 2020

As a minister, I can truly say, this news has absolutely left me totally speechless and at a loss for words!

Comfort and peace for all of Johns family’

Rest Well my friend! Miss you!

Alex & Sonya Bookter

May 20, 2020

May God bless you and your family during this most difficult time. John was a great neighbor and will be missed by all.

Kathy Victorian

May 16, 2020

John Kincaid Carpenter, your tansition from earth to heaven still has me in disbelief. Friend, you are missed!
Rest well, John! Rest well!

Andrea Smith Borie

May 16, 2020

We are all grieving the loss of John but none more than his husband, mother, and family must. My heart goes out to you all! My last conversation with John was by secret phonecall where we conspired to make a surprise gift for his beloved, John Sykes. I was commissioned to paint the altar flowers from their wedding that a dear friend of theirs had arranged. Even though I felt this painting deserved a more experienced artist, I was honored to paint it. In our conversation, he told me how meaningful it was to have been married by Father Mark Holland with his mother officiating. He told me of spoiling his father with delicious food (that he admitted John S. made) who was ill and lived next door. I remember the numerous pitiful FB posts when John S. was out of town for an extended period of time. I have known John since he was a little boy and he has always been brilliant, passionate, and hilarious! What a special gift he was to us all! Rest in peace, John.

Louis Dorff

May 16, 2020

I met John Carpenter in, I think, 2006 or 2007. At the time he lived in Washington DC and worked at Fannie Mae which had sponsored a conference that I had helped organize. He came to NYC to attend the conference, which opened with a VIP dinner at the Rockefeller Foundation. During the years that followed, we laughed hard many times about that evening and his general dislike of swanky affairs such as the one at which we met.

John and I never lived in the same city and my guess is that we may have actually spent time together in person as few as a half dozen times. Nevertheless our friendship blossomed and I’ve counted him as a good friend for nearly 15 years now. His kindness, compassion, and attentiveness were extraordinary; his sense of humor was sardonic and hilarious; his politics was unabashedly progressive; and his devotion to his family was deep.

He was very obviously elated as well as transformed by meeting and falling in love with and marrying John Sykes; their wedding was memorable and moving. I most recently saw them when we vacationed together on Fire Island in August 2017. My mother had died a month before that; John had been checking in on me constantly, it seemed, for the preceding year and a half when her health was declining. That was typical of John Carpenter and being with the two Johns that summer was comforting.

I hope that all others who miss John and mourn his loss as I now do are able to find comfort, and that his spirit will continue to live on with each of us. Rest in peace, John. I love you.

Natalie Depp

May 15, 2020

I always coveted stories that involved someone being in the presence of John. His humor, his personality, was magnetic (and hilarious). As I grew older and somewhat wiser, I learned more about his dedication to equality for all. He was more outspoken about women's rights than I am, and that is a shame on me. John, I'm so sorry you're gone. You are so well loved, and your memory will bring so many joy, though right now we are all struggling to make sense of a world in which you worked so hard to impel us to examine injustice more closely. As someone who doesn't normally pray, I pray that all affected by this loss are comforted by their memories and do not allow themselves to dwell on the circumstances, as we may never learn what they are, no matter how difficult that is to accept. My love to John's husband John, his sister Liz, his beautiful niece and nephew, his brother Rob, and mother Betty, and of course to all of us left scrambling to make sense of this devastating loss. <3

Suzie Woodbury

May 15, 2020

We are so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news. A sadness too deep for words to lose a the love of you life- John Sykes.
We were so pleased to have John C. join our family. To be able to attend J&J’s wedding is a memory we will hold close to our hearts.

Stacey Stewart

May 15, 2020

John was a dear colleague and friend. So brilliant, amazing and charming. I miss his spirit. I’m devastated by this news. He will be so missed. My condolences to his family.

Tiffani Patterson

May 15, 2020

John Kincaid Carpenter is one of the kindest, sweetest, wittiest souls I know. I've known him since middle school and he has always been a classy gentleman to me. May God rest his soul in heavenly peace.

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