Sharon Kay Messenger

November 29, 1949October 30, 2018
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Sharon Kay Messenger, Indianapolis, 68, passed away, Tuesday, October 30, 2018. She was born November 29, 1949 in Grand Rapids, Michigan to the late Jack and Helen (Raines) Garwood. She is also preceded in death by her siblings, Donald Garwood, Jack Garwood Jr., and Linda Bangert. Sharon was a loving and active mother, staying involved in the PTA and Little League and anything else her boys got into growing up. She enjoyed bowling, playing board and card games with her family, a daytime soap, doing a puzzle or crossword, or hit the casino. She also enjoyed crocheting so much she made both granddaughters their first baby blankets. Sharon cared for many family pets over the years to include gerbils, birds, cats, dogs, and fish and enjoyed the fall season and flowers. She was crazy about her granddaughters and so proud of their achievements, like seeing them off to college. She was a giving and caring wife, mother, sister, and grandma who will be remembered as a sweet and honest lady. She is survived by her husband of 51 years, Kenneth Messenger; sons, Tom Messenger and Tim Messenger (Melinda); granddaughters, Madison Kay Messenger and Haley Renee Messenger; siblings, Robert Garwood (Mary Lou), Sandy Callahan (Harold), Steve Garwood (Marti), and Jeffery Garwood (Peggy); and many extended family members and friends. Visitation will be Sunday, November 4, 2018 from 1 pm to 3:30 pm at Little and Sons Funeral Home, 1301 Main St., Beech Grove, Indiana. Her Funeral Service will follow at 3:30 pm. Contributions in her memory may be made to: ASPCA, American Cancer Society, or American Heart Association. Please visit to offer condolences, share memories, read the obituary, and view pictures and videos from her life.


  • Helen (Raines) Garwood, Mother
  • Jack Garwood, Father
  • Kenneth Messenger, Husband
  • Tom Messenger, Son
  • Tim Messenger (Melinda), Son
  • Madison Kay Messenger, Granddaughter
  • Haley Renee Messenger, Granddaughter
  • Robert Garwood (Mary Lou), Brother
  • Donald Garwood, Brother
  • Jack Garwood, Brother
  • Sandy Callahan (Harold), Sister
  • Linda Bangert, Sister
  • Steve Garwood (Marti), Brother
  • Jeffery Garwood (Peggy), Brother
  • and many extended family members and friends.

  • American Cancer Society
  • American Heart Association


  • Visitation Sunday, November 4, 2018
  • Funeral Service Sunday, November 4, 2018

Sharon Kay Messenger

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Phyllis Depew

November 3, 2018

My dear friend,

You will be forever missed, I will always remember the goods times we had at the kids gathering and the few times we got to the casino together. I will cherish the secret talks we had when no one was looking. Forever in my thoughts.

Your Friend, Phyllis

Ken Messenger

November 3, 2018

My Dearest Sweetheart,

I know not why this has happened all I know is that I love you so much and now I miss you so much. We have been through a lot through the years, but I didn't want it to stop,I wanted more.
I am so thankful for my time with you, I will miss you every day, my heart aches for you in a very special way.
I know the Lord has opened his arms for you and that angles have taken you away and if I am lucky I will join you again some day. I miss you so much but I know your pain and suffering is over now and you will forever be on my mind.
I love you honey for allways.

All My Love
All My Life

Your Husband, Ken

Frances Smith

November 3, 2018

Aunt Sharon I have so many memories of you . When we use to come over as kids I was always so happy to come and see you guys. You always meant the world to me. You was always the most kindest, loving person. I will always cherish those child hood memories of you. Tell my momma I said hi and I love and miss her. You guys will now be watching all your soaps together again. I love you ❤️ . Praying for uncle Ken , Tom and Tim Love you all.

Adrienne Simmons

November 3, 2018

What can I say about Sharon. She has been in my life for over 20 years and been a very big part of my life. I remember many times when I just needed someone to talk to and Sharon was always on my short list. She became a surrogate mother to me when I lost my mother five years ago. I knew whenever I need to talk to my mom I could call Sharon and get the same advice and comfort I would have received from my own mom. I can not explain in words how much she meant to me but I do know that she was a bright light in my life and she will be missed. I do know that this is just goodbye for a little bit, I will see her again. She is watching over all of us and guiding us to bring love and happiness to us all. I will think of her often and when I see a hummingbird I will know that she is checking in on me and reminding me that she will never be far.

Madison Messenger

November 3, 2018

I love you so much. I will forever cherish all our days together and will remember all the good times. I remember spending days with you, just grandma granddaughter days, and we would make food (what’s grandma and poppy’s house without some food?), go shopping together, watch your soaps (which, when I was little, I didn’t understand the concept of soap operas and thought it was so funny that you liked to watch “soap”) and just gossiping like two girlfriends. You always had something to say to help me through whatever it was I was struggling with. Your advice and support in anything and everything was so comforting and I felt I could share all of myself with you. You have always been there for me and my dad and have done everything you possibly could do to help us. When I was sick, you would sit with me and rub my bald head and bring me any food I was feeling and your presence and the happiness you brought with you never failed to brighten my darkest days. You made me feel safe. I think about the times you brought up the slot machine when I was a little girl and I was so excited for the day I turned 21 so I could finally sit at a real slot machine, and I’m so glad I was able to experience things like this with you along with so much more. I will miss you everyday for the rest of my life and am sad that I won’t have you there for the big milestones ahead, but I know you will always be in my heart and follow me wherever I go. I feel so blessed to have been shown so much unconditional love and if I can become half the woman, wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend that you were, I will consider myself lucky.

Love, Madison Kay ❤️

Tim Messenger

November 3, 2018

Dear Mom,

I love you!! It’s hard to imagine that I will never get to see you, talk to you , see your smile or hear your laugh. All I have is memories now but I have so many to remember. From seeing you at school, attending all my baseball games, playing cards on a Saturday night, watching your little shimmy shake when something tasted so good to you, the list goes on and on. I miss you so much. You showed so much love to everyone you knew and everyone loved you. You were the best wife, mom, mother in law, grandma, sister, daughter that a family could ever ask for. It’s hard to believe you have left us but your pain is gone now mom. As much as I want you here forever, i know now that you're an angel looking over us. Fly high!! Give hugs to everyone in heaven.

And don’t worry, we will take care of dad, not as good as you but we will try our best.

I love and miss you mom.❤️
Forever in my heart

Love, Tim

Thomas Messenger

November 3, 2018

Dear Mom,
It’s only been a short time since you left and I miss you. There is a hole in our lives now and I miss you. I will never forget the sound of your “hello” when I would call, or the smile that would appear when I came over. Without a doubt you loved us all, that is certain and I miss you. All my wonderful memories of you will never fade, that I can promise. I am who I am today because of you and you were always proud of me and always made that clear and I miss you. You were the sweetest, kindest most honest person I’ve ever known and I will carry your memory close to my heart always and forever.
I will forever love you
I will forever miss you


Tommy Cooper

November 2, 2018

Sharon was always positive regardless of the situation,always smiling.EXCEPTwhen we went to Atlantic City and she was broke in 30 minutes,or the time she sucked Thomas's bird up in the vacuum.She was a great person and friend to me and Debbie.Thinking of Ken and the boys,Sharon would say you will be ok and be smiling.We are sorry for your loss but just remember the memories and smile.

Haley Messenger

November 2, 2018

I sit here and I struggle to find the words on what to say. All I know is I am going to miss you so much. I told you anything and absolutely everything because I knew you were a safe place. I could come to you for anything and know that you would never judge me or turn me away. That was just how you were. You cared so much for others, and your love was worth more than anything in this world. I'm gonna miss your laugh, playing cards with you, talking about your cross word puzzles, seeing your smile whenever I walked through the door. I'll keep those memories forever and will continue to cherish the moments we spent together. You and papaw always managed to be at nearly every single softball game, dance recital, award ceremony, band concert, etc. and I cannot thank you both enough. Your support boosted my confidence in everything I did. Words cannot describe how amazingly perfect of a grandma you were, but just know that I am blessed to be called your granddaughter. Thank you for all the advice, the compliments, the good times, and for being you. I love you always. I'll see you in a little bit.

Love, Haley

Mary Crabtree

November 2, 2018

Sharon i have been blessed to have you in my life for so many years. You are one of my closest and most faithful friends and i love you like a sister. I treasure the memories we have made together. Many moments of laughter and also the shedding of a few tears. Ken Tom and Tim you will always be family to me. I share your grief. She will always be with you in spirit. Take care of yourselves. Love Mary and Ron