Stacy, Monica and Clinton and their families Part 2
In his final days, our parents relayed his last days. Whilst extraordinarily hard, we saw a true love story highlighted.  Ama so devoted, by his side. An unwavering sense of duty, all done with love. Patient and forgiving, when all else is foresaking, never failing or faltering even though the heart is breaking. We know that the next coming days, months and years may seem unimaginable but one day at a time, your broken heart will be whole again, from the love of your sisters, sons and daughter-in-laws, grandchildren, and great grand children. Family heals all wounds and Honey’s chicken.

Your babba, would be so proud of you his sons, supporting their mamma, the way you have and although separated across the world, don't ever forget the power of the bond you have when you come together where you came from.

As we look back over time we find ourselves wondering if we remembered to thank you enough, for all you have done for us or for teaching us by your example, the value of hard work and family. We’re thanking you now and we are hoping you knew, this all along, how much you meant to us.

Whilst it saddens us to have not been able to share in your later years of life, we hold close to the memories and values you taught us throughout your life. Those were enough to last a lifetime. Your selflessness to all will be held dear to our hearts, Everyday to strive and become a role model that you were.

A hero steak roll from steers, is on the menu for today and a pot of tea.

Tribute from South Africa Stacy, Monica, Clinton and families

On behalf of your grandchildren in South Africa, it is with great sadness but even greater honour to speak about you, Aher today.

With the passing of a loved one, you tend to search for the physical remains to validate your relationship, to hold on to, but in a time before that all existed, memories only remained and what substantial memories there of you.

He was a great lover of music, Stacy had her first saxophone by Ahe. He had a zest for life and good food, he loved being out and we often teased him of his many girlfriends due to his social traits. Most of our childhood memories were made up of him in it. From picking us up from school and going to the shop and home, sleepovers and dont forget about the lunches which ama was not fond of but most importantly the Saturday night dinners, were somewhat part of our tradition. Ama would be preparing a 10 course  meal, with aher over seeing each detail and too could prepare a spread for royality. So much love, lessons and food came out of their Bez Valley house, we still hold dear today and reminisce over. Its was all about family and the importance that we all are together no matter what.

At 60 plus years he set off to a new country, with the purpose of providing a better life for his family. We are immensely inspired by his tenacity and willingness to succeed and that he did from starting in catering to ultimately knowing the down town streets of China town, for his Tai chi and favorite spots for yum chou and of course his sweet treats. In life we are told to go to school, then university, get a good education,  but some of the most important things to be learnt are right in front of you. Lessons from your olders are truly the ones to cherish.
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Dad was a sociable, kind and generous person. He touched the lives of everyone around him, leaving an indelible mark that will be cherished for many generations to come.

Dad had an unwavering commitment to family. He accompanied me when I began my startup life journey to Toronto, Canada. His guidance and support gave me the courage to face the unknown. He made sure that I was safe and sound before returning back to South Africa.

Dad had an adventurous  spirit and loved exploring new places, which is why my fondest memories were of the many family trips we took together.

Another milestone was when we celebrated Dad's 80th birthday in Toronto, Canada. He was surrounded by family and relatives. His biggest birthday surprise was when Stanley, Sheena, Stacy and Sienna (his 1st great granddaughter) came all the way from South Africa to attend his birthday party.  It was a wonderful get together, as it has been years when they last saw each other since immigrating to Seattle, WA. 

Dad loved going to yum cha for all the delicious Chinese treats. Whenever we'd go to Seattle, he'd take us to yum cha. We'll cherish these memories.

Dad's love for travel, his ability to find joy in the little things, and his deep appreciation for the bond of family and friendship summarizes the spirit of my Dad.

Dad, although you're no longer with us in person, your spirit will live on in the stories we tell and the good memories we shared together. I'll remember you not with tears of sorrow, but with smiles that reflect the joy you brought into our lives. We'll forever love and miss you dearly Dad. 

RAYMOND

Sincere condolences to Mom, Stanley, Raymond and Kenny.  Dad (yeh yeh) was such a kind, generous, loving, friendly and sociable person.  He loved his yum cha,  tai chi, music and socializing with anyone no matter their age.

Dad (yeh yeh), we love and miss you. You'll forever be in our hearts and will never be forgotten.

With Love,
Pauline, Ben and Keira

It's sad to lose someone as nice as Uncle Fred. I don't think I ever saw him angry. May he rest in peace.

Condolences to his wife Aunt Honey, sons Stanley, Raymond, Kenny, his sister Aunt Lilian, and the rest of the family.

We are very saddened by the loss of Uncle Fred who was a true gentleman in all respects.

His ability to patiently listen and guide & encourage others stood out as one of his many qualities. He gained everyone's respect by his kindness, wisdom, and generosity. We particularly also recall his deep knowledge and appreciation of Chinese culture and his enthusiasm to share it with the family and the community.

Aunt Honey, Stanley, Raymond and Kenny & their families please know that our thoughts are with you during this difficult period.

This message to be read at the memorial service of FRED HOY from Carol Chin & her family in Canada & South Africa:

FRED  HOY was our dear brother-in-law and uncle who will always be remembered for his unfailing generosity and kindness, especially to those in need.  We are just a fortunate few of the many who have been blessed with Fred's thoughtful giving and sharing not just in material things but his vast knowledge in Chinese philosophy and culture, his music, his life experiences and invaluable guidance and advice when needed.

One of many examples was when Fred learnt that we needed a food mixer.   He went and got us the best, top of the range mixer available that has been truly a gift that has kept on giving.  For well over 40 years hundreds of feather light chiffon cakes have been baked and enjoyed by family and friends, especially Kenny who, without fail when he was growing up, came to our house every week to pick up his favourite cake.

We celebrate Fred as a humble man who lived life with honour and integrity, who was trustworthy and loyal, who gave freely without ever looking for admiration, undying gratitude or expectations of favours in return.  Not once, not ever!

His great sense of humour and skill for Chinese puns (homophonic wordplay to the younger generation) always brought smiles and laughter to all around.  He was a great and true friend and a wonderful uncle, brother, father, grandfather and great grandfather but most of all he was the best loving husband to Honey.

We know you miss him terribly for he was your world.  We pray you are comforted in the knowledge that Fred looks down on you and all your loved ones with the same love and care as ever before.

To all of us Fred will be saying:

May the roads rise up to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
May the rains fall soft upon fields
And until we meet again
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

God bless Fred, Honey and his entire family.

Our sincere condolences to Aunt Honey, Stanley, Raymond and Kenny. Our fond memories of uncle Fred was that he was  a kind and  a generous person. He had such a sunny personality and was always smiling and joking whenever we met him . May he rest in peace.

Fred was not only a brother-in-law, he was also a friend to me. I will never forget his kindness, helpfulness, advice, and financial support for my business during the hard times.
We pray that God bless his soul and rest in eternal peace.

Condolences to his wife Honey, sons Stanley, Raymond and Kenny, and the rest of the family.

James, Evelyn, Lorraine and Winston

Dearest Fred,
You & Honey have practiced the ultimate tradition of kindness, generosity, consideration, friendship, thoughtfulness & magnanimity taught in the best cultures & religions.
You have been the embodiment of dedication to family & friends; you have reinforced our hopes of humanity over the past 20 years of this unique neighborly friendship, treating us as deserving family members.  Thank you forever for sharing your great sense of humor, your many life experiences & business stories, your music, & esp. your dedication & caring support of everyone throughout your Life.
LOVE, b, E & Spencer

To Raymond and family,

Please accept our deepest condolences during this difficult time. Our thoughts are with you.

From Warren,  Ange and family

Uncle Fred, 

You were a wonderful and good hearted man. You helped our family whenever we needed, in the shop or otherwise. You always spoke of doing the right thing. Thank you for sharing your time with us. We will miss you dearly. 

Honey, Stanley, Raymond and Kenny, may you find peace and comfort in these challenging times. Our prayers are with you.

With Love, 

Eileen, Ming, Cheryl, Anthony, Nicholas, Charissa and Coffee

Our heartfelt condolences to Kenny, Raymond and Stanley. Uncle Fred was a pillar of strength and your loss is felt deeply by all. No words can describe this sad event. 

Uncle Fred was the most caring, selfless and generous person we knew. My deepest sympathies to the family and may you find peace and comfort during this difficult time. 

May God be with Uncle Fred and may his soul rest in peace.

Love 
Vincent & Estelle Hoy
South Africa

May the loving memories of Fred forever bring you peace. Sending our sincere sympathy and love to you Honey, Stanley, Raymond, Kenny and all families. May Fred rest in peace. Our love and prayers are with you. With love and support.  Elaine, Raymond, Michelle and Alastair.

Uncle Fred, you were a strong role model for us all. Your loyalty, caring, kindness and generosity shone so brightly and reminded us the importance of taking care of family and loved ones.

Our heartfelt condolences to Aunty Honey and family. Sending love and care to you as you navigate your terrible loss.

Love,
Nikki Jackson, Ares Jackson and Eddie Hogan xoxoxo

We are saddened to hear of Fred’s passing. He was a very caring person, especially to our family. We will all miss him dearly. 
Our heart felt condolences to Honey, Stanley, Raymond, Kenny and to the extended families. RIP

From Carol Chin Family and the Lau Family.

Uncle Fred, you meant so much to so many. You are sorely missed. I still remember your advice to me as a young kid. 

Love Edward J and family

OBITUARY

Fred Hoy

February 21, 1932 – January 2, 2024

Sunset Hills Memorial Park & Funeral Home

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