A.J. Kinder

March 25, 1928October 4, 2012

AJ went home to his heavenly Father on October 4th, 2012. AJ is survived by his wife, Gwen Kinder of the home. 4 Children – Dian Gaylord and husband Roger of Lebanon, TN, Jim Kinder of Warr Acres, OK, Vickie Lay and husband Jerry of Jones, OK, Bobby Farrington and wife Vickie of Amarillo, TX. Grandchildren Misty Sarat, Herb Listen, Angie Hill, Bryan Farrington, Richie Campbell, Ross Lay, Traci Wallace, Nathan Steffee, Clay Farrington, Sarah Steffee and spouses. 15 great-grandchildren. Several nieces and nephews that knew him as dad and pawpaw. 1 brother Kenneth Kinder and 4 sisters, Mildred Stroud, Dorothy Wright, Shirley Oaks and Loretta Davis.

Preceded in death by parents, John and Lillian Kinder, 2 brothers, John Kinder and Calvin Kinder, 1 sister Faye Collins, Daughter-n-law Tina Kinder, great-granddaughter, Lathena Sarat.

AJ and Gwen met July 3, 1978 and have enjoyed 34 wonderful years together. When these two families joined together they became one complete family. Even though he mercilessly picked on each one of his grandchildren and great grandchildren AJ loved them very much. He enjoyed watching them grow and play.

AJ served in the US Army during the Korean war. He was a self-employed trucker working all over the state of Oklahoma until 1998 when he retired. Prior to being a trucker he was in construction building houses and apartments.

He enjoyed camping, hunting and fishing with his son and brothers. He loved relaxing in his easy chair watching OU football and recently the OKC Thunder basketball on the television. He also enjoyed listening to gospel music. He especially enjoyed spending time with his wife and family.


  • Public Visitation Sunday, October 7, 2012
  • Private Family Visitation Sunday, October 7, 2012
  • Funeral Service Monday, October 8, 2012

A.J. Kinder

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October 7, 2012

Aunt Gwen, I wish I could be there with you. Just know that we are thinking of you and sending our love to you all.

Joe and Shirley

Larry Leon

October 7, 2012

To all of A.J.'s family and friends; please know that I was very sad to hear this hard news from Roger this afternoon, and I spoke briefly with Dian this evening. I have a long history of fond and close memories with the Kinders and y'alls clan of folks in Oklahoma--my absence this weekend and Monday is bitter for me and I regret not being with you. I am still part of your special family, I would be there, bow in hand. Do not think that I am not with you.

A.J. is one of the last of his Greatest Generation, of our unique shared heritage and legacy of Oklahoma, one of a kind, never to be duplicated. A soldier, a king of the road, father, friend and man of his own ways. A.J. still rolls on, and never leaves any of you, and I will keep his memory close as you do the same. I do now and will Mark and Honor his Life and Passing in this way from here in Louisiana. Accept my meager condolence, I know God Blesses you all in this hardest of duties this weekend.
Se Rafraichir,