Debra "Debbie" Sue Barter

December 27, 1957August 2, 2018
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Beloved Wife, Mother, Grandmother, Sister, and friend, Debra “Debbie” Sue Barter, 60, passed away Thursday, August 2, 2018. Debbie was born December 27, 1957 in El Dorado, Kansas to Arnold and Lorraine (Klein) Thummel. In the early 70’s, her family moved to Oklahoma City and planted their roots. Debbie graduated from Putnam City West in 1975. On August 6, 1976, she married her soul mate and best friend, Joseph Barter. Debbie was the heart and soul of her family. She loved them unconditionally and they loved her the same. Debbie was one of the most generous, compassionate and giving people most had ever been around, and your life was enriched just by knowing her. She loved good music, especially the Rolling Stones, crossword puzzles, jigsaw puzzles, crocheting, and most of all, her grandbabies. She was preceded in death by her parents; daughter, Mindy Sue Barter; brother, Don Thummel, and sister, Connie Thummel. She is survived by her devoted husband of 42 years, Joseph Barter; sons, Joseph Barter, Jr and wife Stephanie and Jacob Barter; grandsons, Jerek and Jaden Barter; brothers, Alan Thummel and wife Karen, and Craig Thummel; a host of nieces, nephews, other family, and friends. Visitation will be 3pm-6pm Sunday and 8am-8pm Monday at Bill Merritt Funeral Home. A wake service will be 7pm Monday at Bill Merritt Funeral Service. A Mass of Christian Burial will be 10am Tuesday at Epiphany of the Lord Catholic Church. Interment will be 3pm Tuesday at Frederick Cemetery.


  • Jason Barter
  • Jordan Corn
  • Damion Sailors
  • David Thummel
  • Matt Thummel
  • D Burchfiel
  • Jerek Barter, Honorary
  • Jaden Barter, Honorary


  • Visitation Sunday, August 5, 2018
  • Visitation Monday, August 6, 2018
  • Rosary Service Monday, August 6, 2018
  • Funeral Service Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Debra "Debbie" Sue Barter

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Alan Thummel

August 7, 2018

Debbie will be missed for her unselfish concern for anyone needing someone to talk to. She and I were about five years apart. I can remember that she never, ever, got spanked. I remember using that fact, to no avail, when My buns were about to me warmed. She was the best little sister any boy could have! As kids, I usually took advantage of her giving nature; much to my chagrin . She was the best TV tuner prior to remove controls! She was a great gopher until she got old enough to realize I was taking advantage of her. And even then her kindness willed her to help her big brother. She never did anything that a sibling might hold near for use by threatening “ I’ll tell Mom and Dad” ! And I will always be thankful that she was the type of Sis to not throw me under the bus by telling on me. And there was probably lots to tell.
Sis, I’m so blessed to have shared the thousands of memories , good and bad, with you and of you. I will hold them dear forever!!! I know you are in a better place. Though we know not the reason of your departure , we know you were needed for a damn good one!

Craig Thummel

August 4, 2018

Debbie was born 2 1/2 years before me (we were the youngest of five siblings). We grew up together and formed a special bond that’s lasted all of our lives. She was my best friend, always there when I needed her and never one to put herself before others. She was always able to handle everything that life through at her and her immediate family and then somehow had the time and strength to assist others with whatever was going on in their lives. As both of her sons stated, she was a mom to many of their friends. She was the glue that held their family together and will be missed by many. She is in a much better place now and is no longer suffering from the medical issues she’s had to deal with over the years. I know she wanted to spend many more years here on earth with her family, most especially her grandkids, but the Lord needed her for reasons we do not yet understand. I also know that she’s with her daughter Mindy and other previously deceased family members (and pets) and they must be having one heck of a time up there! So here’s to you, Sis. My best friend, always and forever. I love you very much. Until we meet again….

Joe Barter

August 4, 2018

Mom, I love you and miss you so much. Im gonna miss our talks as Im driving home from work, or seeing you everyday after work when you picked Jerek up from school. Im gonna miss your spirit, your love, your care, your glue to this family. Your cheering at my boys sports games. Your laugh, your sarcasm. Your voice. I love you mommy, from Joe Joe, you're the only one that can call me that still