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Glen Abbey Memorial Park & Mortuary

3838 Bonita Road, Bonita, CA

OBITUARY

Rebecca Dipasupil Palmares

February 9, 1947July 27, 2020

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To the great grief and sadness of all who knew and loved her, Rebecca Dipasupil Palmares left this life on July 27, 2020. She was 73 years old and died in her Chula Vista home, with family around her to say their goodbyes. She handled her departure from this world just as she handled her journey in life: with grace and humor and calm. Here are some things to know about Rebecca Palmares: She was born on February 9, 1947, in Batangas, Philippines the youngest daughter and the fifth of seven children. She earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing from La Concordia College and devoted her entire adult life to easing the pain and suffering of others. Her last position prior to retirement was as Nurse Supervisor in the Intensive Care Unit of Kindred Hospital, San Diego, California. While she was attending nursing school she would tell her siblings and parents all about what she learned that day, using medical terminology and describing procedures that either went right over everyone’s heads or bored them to tears, but she was so enthusiastic everyone would become just as excited as her. She was the quiet and pragmatic sibling who was a bit of a science geek and scholar. She was modest and reserved, but had a terrific sense of humor and an infectious girlish giggle that she never lost, even in her later years. Yet her most enduring trait was her concern and caring towards others, hence her career in nursing. When she herself was recovering from breast cancer 10 years ago her first thought was of others; never herself. Nobody has ever heard Rebecca say a single bad word about anyone, her entire life. Her siblings can recall only one single instance in all 73 years of her life, in which she lost her cool, and it was because she wanted to attend Midnight Mass one Christmas Eve and couldn't find a ride. She met her future husband, Ramon, while attending a friend’s party in Washington, D.C. At first they seemed like an odd couple because he was a rough and tumble navy man and she was a cerebral, sedate, proper girl. Her sense of fun and steady nature — not to mention her beauty — surely won him over. They married in 1973 in Washington D.C., then settled in Norfolk Virginia, and later San Diego, California. Rebecca and Ramon raised two children, a son, Raymond, born in 1974 and a daughter, Emmie, born in 1980. Rebecca’s children and grandchildren adoredher. Rebecca was a devoted sister, calling her two sisters every day without fail, playing mahjong with her siblings every week, and visiting her older sister, Rosalinda, every day when she was sick in the hospital. Rebecca was organized, meticulous, and mentally strong. She was not afraid of death, and right up until the morning she died, she showed her mischievous side, writing on a white board that she wanted a manicure and a McDonald’s milk shake. She got both her wishes granted, with smiles and tears. Rebecca was able say goodbye and to hear her loved ones tell her they loved her — those in San Diego and Texas who could be with her physically, and others in New York and New Jersey and other places, through FaceTime. Unable to speak in her last days, she wrote on her white board, “I love you” and drew a big heart, showing it to her FaceTime family, via her mobile phone. To her last breath, she didn’t want others to feel sad. Rebecca is predeceased by her parents, Raymundo and Emeteria Dipasupil, and her beloved brothers Reynaldo Dipasupil, and Redempto Dipasupil. She leaves behind her loving husband Ramon, her son Raymond and his wife Lori, daughter Emmie, and four grandchildren, Ryan, Russell, Ava, and Anthony. She also leaves behind her siblings Raymundo Dipasupil, Rosalinda (De Leon), Rizalina (Ecdao), Roderico and a host of nieces, nephews and their children. We were blessed to have her. Now she is with God and the angels, where she clearly fits right in. 💔

Services

  • Walk Thru Outdoor Evening Visitation

    Wednesday, August 5, 2020

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  • Funeral Service

    Thursday, August 6, 2020

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  • Committal Service

    Thursday, August 6, 2020

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Memories

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Rizalina Ecdao

August 11, 2020

I am 4 years older than Rebecca, but I looked up to her because she knew much more. She was more mature and made wiser decisions. Even with our age gap, we were very close. We’ll have our early morning calls. I could identify her calls because of her personal ringtone. We would chat just about everything; the highlights would be our grandkids, and the beautiful jewelries and lovely wardrobes that she purchased. What a show off! Not to overlook, she would be boasting about our nephew Kevin’s genius strategies in investing her money. Oh, I am so envious! These were her pleasures. Unpretentious, candid and sincere. Now that she is no longer with us, she left a void that could never be filled. Quite frankly, I wouldn’t doubt it if there was already a welcome wagon waiting for her in Heaven. And I am hoping about the possibility that we’ll meet again someday, that is, if St. Peter would open the gate for me.

Rosalinda Deleon

August 7, 2020

Rebecca Dipasupil Palmares. Her many friends called her Becky. I called her Ineng all her life, because she was the youngest sister of 7 siblings. As a nurse, she performed her duties with ease and professionalism. At home, she nursed her family from illness to health. When our parents were aging and became ill, on her one day off, after working multiple 12 hour shifts, she would take them to doctor appointments and care for them at home.
I was in and out of the hospital, these last few years. She’d be the first to see me and stayed for hours attending to my needs and to keep me company. She was there for all of of my trials and tribulations.
Did you know that she had a beautiful voice and loved to sing? But never in front of an audience because she wouldn’t want to be the center of attention. She was content to be in the background, listening and laughing at our family stories and jokes, offering advice and help when needed.
Ineng never complained or lost her composure. She made her life seem so uncomplicated even though it was quite the opposite. She suffered many hardships, quietly and with dignity. Without ever flinching, she garnered her inner reserve and handled anything life threw her way. She always looked out for others before her own needs. Even during her last days, she was more concerned with my health and how I could handle the news of her condition. So although I am filled with so much sadness, I know that Ineng would want me to be strong, as she was for me.
There was a time when she was recovering from major surgery to remove cancer from her body. I took her to lunch at Mc Donald’s, one of her favorite restaurants. She was so easy to please. We saw a handicap parking space closest to the door but she asked me to park further. "Someone more sick might need it more," she said. That was typical of my sister. She was everything that is decent, kind and fair. Rest in peace Ineng. I love you forever.

Rosa Dipasupil Deleon

August 7, 2020

Rebecca Dipasupil Palmares. Her many friends called her Becky. I called her Ineng all her life, because she was the youngest sister of 7 siblings. As a nurse, she performed her duties with ease and professionalism. At home, she nursed her family from illness to health. When our parents were aging and became ill, on her one day off, after working multiple 12 hour shifts, she would take them to doctor appointments and care for them at home. I was in and out of the hospital during these last few years. She’d be the first one to see me and stayed for hours attending to my needs and to keep me company. She was there for all my life’s trials and tribulations.
Did you know that she can sing? She had a beautiful voice and loved to sing. But never in front of an audience because wouldn’t want to be the center of attention. She was content to be in the background, listening and laughing at our family stories and jokes, offering advice and help when needed. Ineng never complained or lost her compposure. She made her life seem so uncomplicated even though it was quite the opposite. She suffered many hardships, quietly and with dignity. Without ever flinching, she garnered her inner reserve and handled anything life threw her way. She always looked out for others before her own needs. Even during her last days, she was more concerned with my health- how I could handle the news of her condition. So although I am filled with so much sadness, I know that Ineng would want me to be strong, like she was for me. There was a time when she was recovering from major surgery to remove cancer from her body. I took her for lunch at Mc Donald’s, one of her favorite restaurants. She was so easy to please. We saw a handicap space closest to the door but she asked me to park further. "Someone more sick might need it more," she said. This was typical of my sister. She was everything that is decent, kind and fair. Rest in peace, Ineng. I love you forever.

Tita Dipasupil Olimpo

August 6, 2020

Tia Rebecca you will be miss.
My father always say family is family just reach out and they will be there.
Dipasupil clan are big family, thank you for the opportunity of meeting my fathers first cousins way back 18 years ago on my daughter’s 18th birthday party. I reach out to Tia Lina and Tia Rebecca that we would love to see Dipasupil brothers and sisters and they didn’t disappoint the whole clan showed up and we love it. The second time Dipasupil get together is a surprise to my visiting auntie Conching Dipasupil Jimenez, whole night of reminiscing their younger years way back in PI. The third time is when we have our house dedication. It might be few instances but all of them are memorable.
Tia Rebecca now that you are in heaven I hope you will continue with the tradition of family get together.

Mark LoPresti

August 6, 2020

Lola Bec, thank you for being apart of everyone’s lives. My Lola Rosa told me a story about how you treated me and Matthew by buying us toys at the mall. I believe was too young to know how kind you were to us. Reading what people have to say about you shows how much you are loved. And oh, how you will be missed. I know that you left us too soon but I was glad to spend even a little bit of time with you recently at Christmas 2019 in San Diego. I know that you are leaving behind many people that care about you and I hope we can learn to be awesome like you Lola Bec. Although we couldn’t attend in person, the online service is very nice. The LoPresti Deleon family is here for you and your family with love and prayers.

Cassie Dipasupil

August 6, 2020

Auntie Bec, you left us too soon and are already dearly missed. I am grateful for having grown up with you as a one of my role models and I can only hope that even a tiny bit of your kindness, selflessness, and generosity has rubbed off on me. I take comfort in knowing that you will get to enjoy my papa’s company in heaven.
Rest In Peace and Love auntie,
Cassie

Matthew Lopresti

August 5, 2020

Dear Lola Beck,
The last time I saw you was Christmas last year back in 2019. However, there was a common cold going around and I had to stay distanced. I wish I could have talked to you more and learned from your wisdom. My Lola always talked about you. Rest in peace, please watch over our family from heaven. Love Matthew

James Lopresti

August 5, 2020

While I haven't spent must much time with Tita Beck I do have wonderful memories. One of the first times we were together at my home on Long Island, I was ill. Beck went way out of her way to make sure I was comfortable. While that may not sound like much, I have never forgotten what she did for me. Her warmth will be missed by all, may she rest in peace.

Mercedes Dipasupil

August 5, 2020

My sister-in-law, Rebecca Palmares (Ate Beck) was a kind, generous and courageous woman. She loved her family, relatives and friends unconditionally. I will miss our weekly telephone conversations - modestly talking about our children and grandchildren and, on occasion, politics.
Cooking may not be her greatest strength, but savings and investments are favorite topic. Cooking is simply limited to frying eggs, cooking rice and heating up something prepared by Ramon.
Ate Beck is stylish in her own way, making sure that everything she wears (dresses, handbags, footwear and, of course, her jewelry) are all coordinated.
Rest in peace dear sister-in-law. I love you.

Ched

Anna (Ella) DeLeon McGrath

August 5, 2020

I spoke with my Tita Beck about a week before she passed away. Even though two days before she had been in terrible back pain, she called to express concern about my mother (and Rebecca's big sister) Rosalinda's low weight due to side effect of medications, urging me to make sure mom ate more and continued gaining weight. Tita Beck said, "I can't help it, it's just the nurse in me, I have to give advice," as if she needed to apologize for thinking of her loved ones...as if thinking of others when one is in pain oneself, is something to apologize for. That was Tita Beck; never fully recognizing how wonderful she was.
I have a memory of Tita Beck that's etched forever in my heart, when I briefly attended high school in Chula Vista, CA. It was a time when my family were considering moving to CA from NY, and I decided I would go to CA first. I wanted to get away from Queens, NY, be the maverick. My parents tentatively agreed, so I moved to CA and lived with my grandparents.
Well, I became homesick and didn't do well in high school. I didn't make friends at Chula Vista H.S., I didn't even try. I cut out of school to take the bus to Plaza Bonita Mall, forging my grandmother's signature in a "sick note" to the school. My grandmother found out; she and my grandfather were furious. So were my parents, but they didn't yell, they just said they were disappointed. That was worse than being yelled at. I was being sent back home to Queens, with failure as a badge.
Who came to my bedroom to comfort me, to make me feel like a human being again instead of a loser? Tita Beck. She sat with me, gently patted me on the back, squeezed my arm, as I lay on the bed sobbing. "It's okay, Ella, don't worry." She made me feel so much better. She made everything and everyone better.

FROM THE FAMILY

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