John J. Carr

October 30, 1957June 28, 2018
Play Tribute Movie Play Tribute Movie

John J. Carr, age 60, passed away peacefully on June 28, 2018 at Massachusetts General Hospital with his devoted husband by his side.

Born in Mount Kisco, NY, John left his hometown of Brewster, NY after high school and arrived in Boston to attend Northeastern University where he graduated with honors.

In 1997 he met the love his life, Bill McLeod where they both lived in West Fenway. For the last 16 years, they lived on Beacon Hill and in 2013 exchanged marriage vows in Battery Park overlooking the harbor in Newport, RI.

For the last 18 years, John was a case manager and ADR Specialist in the Boston office of JAMS (Judicial Arbitration and Mediation Services).

In addition to Bill, John is survived by many friends including Gabriella Bertucci of Somerville, Mary Ann Solari of Maine, Cynthia Barlow of Connecticut, Kristyne Bowman of Malden and the JAMS family in Boston and throughout the country. John is very much missed by their two cats: his beloved Betty who ensured he was tucked in at night, and his buddy Buzz, who waited for John to come home from work, and then snuggle next to him on the couch while they both waited for Bill to come home.

Visiting hours will be held on Tuesday, July 3rd from 4m to 6:30pm in the Boston Harborside Home, 580 Commercial St., Boston with a Celebration of John’s Life to begin at 6:30pm.

Deep appreciation and gratitude is extended to Dr. Benjamin Davis, Dr. Robbie Goldstein, Dr. Margaret Threadgill, Justin Alves, RN, Danielle McGonagle, LICSW, and the many other doctors, nurses and staff on Bigelow 9 and Blake MICU 7 at Massachusetts General Hospital. Their expertise, understanding and love will never be forgotten. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made in John's name to PAWS, Protection of Animals in Wakefield Society, 383 R. Lowell Street, Wakefield, MA 01880.


  • Visitation Tuesday, July 3, 2018
  • Celebration of Life Tuesday, July 3, 2018

John J. Carr

have a memory or condolence to add?

Kristen Kingsley

July 15, 2018

I am so sorry to hear of John’s passing. He was such a sweet, kind and genuine person and the love Bill and him had was palpable. He fought so hard and I felt honored and privileged to care for him. Rest In Peace...

Chas Tiernan

July 12, 2018

So sorry to hear of John’s passing . He was a good friend to so many people. My sincere condolences to Bill and his entire family . May you Rest In Peace sweet man .

Gabriella Bertucci

July 2, 2018

John Carr is dearly loved and missed. I am forever grateful for his friendship which is irreplaceable. Many gifts in one soul; kindness, patience, wit, a sense of humor, love of adventures, music and people. Many memories; of adventures both near and far with family and friends; of when John & Bill first met & John told me he found his true love. Many hearts are broken and send love and strength to Bill.

Nancy Johns

June 30, 2018

I met Bill in law school in 1987. I’ve loved him ever since. I only met John and was able to spend time with him once as I live in Arizona now and haven’t been back east since the time I met him. It was obvious how in love and how happy Bill and John were. I loved John for it. My heart is broken. I love you Bill.

Lynne Reveliotis

June 30, 2018

Bill - I wish I knew what to say. I was so happy to be your and John’s friend. Your wedding is still a happy memory. I love you. I love John. I’m so sorry.

Lauren Vaughn

June 29, 2018

Bill, from the minute I met you and John I saw the love and connection you shared. It was not only a pleasure but an honor getting to know you both and caring for John. I am at a loss for how sorry I am to hear about his passing. I was able to see him Tuesday nignt and I’ll never forget the smile he gave me before I left his room. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this impossibly difficult time. I’m so glad we met. I will forever hold fond memories of you and John close to my heart.
Much love,
Lauren Vaughn-Bigelow 9

Laura Swenson

June 29, 2018

I remember when Bill and John first met such a long time ago . I saw the peace, the love and happiness when they were together. When I lived in Boston in Bill & John’s building near the state house, it was John who volunteered to take care of my cats while I was away. And when Bill and John cane down to visit my three boys and I, it was John who had to make sure he brought down three sets of little cars for the boys to play with. John was a kind, caring and considerate man who inspired my friend Bill to be a better man every day. I was so happy to be at their wedding to witness a public statement of their love for one another., to see them hand in hand with the Newport bridge in the background. My heart breaks for you Bill. Life is too short.

Jacob Simon

June 29, 2018

John Carr was a kind, warm soul who was deeply in love with his husband, Bill. He was very witty and he was a very easy person to talk to. He was the kind of man who you could go months without speaking to but then pick up the conversation again as if you’d chatted the day before. John was a good man, and I will miss him dearly.