Philip Martin Downey

October 18, 1949January 5, 2014

Philip M. Downey, 64, of Bayonet Point, FL, formerly of Franklin, MA and Upton, MA, passed away on January 5, 2014. He was born on October 18, 1949 in Orange, NJ to the late Stephen and Helen (Tracey) Downey. After graduating from Scituate High School, Philip enlisted in the U.S. Army and served his country faithfully during two tours of duty with the Army Special Forces in Vietnam. His first tour was with the 5th Special Forces Group's 3d Mobile Strike Force at Long Hai, where he served as a recon team leader. His second tour was with Special Forces Detachment B-33 at Hon Quan. His numerous honors include a Bronze Star Medal, awarded for heroic action while under fire. Philip is survived by three children: Rachel Downey of Boston, MA; Sarah Downey of Takoma Park, MD; and Matthew Downey of Janesville, WI. He is also survived by eleven siblings: Stephen Downey, Mary Downey, Theresa Downey, Ann Banach, John Downey, William Downey, Patrick Downey, Joseph Downey, James Downey, Agnes Downey, and David Downey. Besides his parents, he was predeceased by two brothers: Martin Downey and Vincent Downey. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in his memory to the Wounded Warrior Project ( Calling hours will be held from 12:00 to 2:00 PM on Wednesday, January 15th at the Nickerson-Bourne Funeral Home, 40 MacArthur Blvd, Bourne, MA. Funeral services and a burial with military honors at the Massachusetts National Cemetery will follow.



  • Visiting Hours Wednesday, January 15, 2014
  • Memorial Service Wednesday, January 15, 2014


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Danielle Tabor-Porter

January 17, 2014

My deepest sympathy to the Downey family. Phil was such a blessing to have crossed paths with. I will remember always, the support and insight he offered to me and to so many. I feel lucky and proud to have known him, and have missed him dearly since he moved...I will keep on missing him till we meet again.

Brandy Capistran

January 16, 2014

Phil, what can I say? You were the best listener a girl could have. You made me think about life, in a different way. You got Joe and I together. For that I am grateful. You, also got me out of trouble a few times ;) You are a shining light. When you walked into Heaven, I can see Ray saying where the hell have you been? :) Rest Now Phil, you deserve it. Much love, Brandy and Joe

Peter Trumble

January 16, 2014

Agnes and family, I am so sorry for the loss and so thankful for his service to our country. My families thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Lori Jay

January 16, 2014

Phil- one of the greatest and most genuine people I have ever met, I was lucky to have had the privilege to know you and share a beer or two with you. Thank you for all you did and who you were. You touched my heart and I can still hear your laugh and see your smile. I hope you and Ray are sharing a beer and telling some good tales. Love you.

Erik Jay

January 16, 2014

Phil, Now more than ever I wish I was as eloquent as you. You never ceased to amaze me with your kindness, incredible stories, and and your loyalty to country,community, and friends. I'm proud to have known you and to call you a friend. Be at peace buddy!

Matt Lindi

January 16, 2014

Wow Phil - there are a few things give me pause to reflect, and the news of your passing is among them.

Thank you for your companionship, your teaching, your humor, your stories, your insight, your humanity, but mostly for your friendship, support and the light you shone into my life. You could be counted on to find the good in any situation, and the lesson in every situation. You will always be missed and never forgotten.

Peace now, Brother Phil. You deserve it!

Until again we meet ...

Kerri Goff

January 15, 2014

Agnes and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss and grateful for your brother's honorable service.

Francis Moroney

January 14, 2014

My friend Phil,

He became a good friend of my family after we got him out of hibernation on Christian Hill road. He started me on a reading adventure that I will never forget. He took me on a trip to Philadelphia Pa. to meet his friends (and now mine) Gerry (the mole),Steve Yednack and his Cambodian friends Saun te Hin and his brother Sonny at an American/Cambodian Association banquet.that is a another story and experience that will last me a lifetime. We spent a lot of time talking about life, books, people, religion, and anything else we could think of. I know Phil was proud of his service for our country and of the men who were there with him. I thank you for that Phil and I pray our heavenly father welcomes you with open arms.
Rest in peace my friend.

Kimber Shelton

January 14, 2014

Agnes, So sad to hear of the loss of your brother. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you and your family during this time of morning.

Bobby Stevens

January 14, 2014

My Dear friend,
Growing up together you were always good with words and I was always struggling to try to find the right words; and now I find it so much more difficult to try to find the words to express my thoughts and feelings. Know that our friendship lives in a place where there's no space and time, where the dreams and wishes of our youth are immune to the bludgeoning's of chance, and where we will never be afraid to be ourselves.
Ours was unconditional friendship, one that kept our hands outstretched for each other no matter how far the distances apart.
I loved you Phil for all the things you were and all the things you weren't and all the things you wanted to be, I believed in you old friend and I always will. Sometimes I wish I didn't know now the things I didn't know then.

You had written this to me just before our last High School reunion, in it you reveal yourself, and I kept it for that reason.

“Looking back, I equate it to a bunch of insecure kids, all thrown together, holding one another's hands as they attempt to cross a busy street. Some of us did not make it. More of us will be lost along the way as we attempt to finish the race to get to the other side ( whatever that is or was ), and thus, we reach back for one another to both seek and give support, and to cherish the memory of those lost along the way. I think we all wanted to love one another but didn't know how. Do we know how to do that now? Can we ever go home again? - sadly, no. Phil”

Phil, I will miss the chance of adding new memories to our lifelong friendship.
Good by old friend may you find peace and comfort in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Sorry about all the muddy gush
Your best friend Bobby