Patricia Anne Grocki

August 1, 1947February 4, 2021

A dedicated educator, proud mother and grandmother, and great friend, Patricia died in her sleep after a 21-year battle with Parkinson's disease. Patricia was born in Brooklyn, NY to John McComb and Dorothy Keenan. In Brooklyn, she attended St. Agnes Elementary School with her younger sister Barbara and received the prestigious General Excellence Award. The family moved to Long Island where she attended high school at Sisters of St. Joseph’s School in Brentwood. While in Long Island she was surrounded by an extended family of aunts, uncles and cousins. She returned to Brooklyn to attend St. Joseph's College.

Driven by a love of children, Patricia embarked on a career as an elementary teacher. Also, she enjoyed the rewards and challenges of working with children in need as a social worker for Catholic Charities. Eventually she rose to positions of responsibility in the education system. She became Principal at The Hebrew Academy in Albany, NY. The irony of a devout Irish-Catholic as Principal of Jewish school was not lost on many. Later she became Principal at Middleburgh Elementary School in Rensselaer, NY (1998 to 2001) and Principal at Cleveland Hill Elementary School in Buffalo, NY (2001 to 2004). While at Cleveland Hill she navigated the school through a major renovation project.

After getting married, Patricia made the bold move to adopt five Korean children. One by one, Pat conquered the challenges of adopting from overseas such as teaching her children English and transitioning to life in the small town of Wilson, NY. She was a proud mother and even prouder grandmother, affectionately called "Nana" by her 12 grandchildren. Nana loved to spoil her grandchildren with her time, love and devotion.

After her retirement in 2004, she spent one year living in Toronto to help her daughter Shannon take care of her two grandsons, Mathieu and Aidan. Then she retired to The Villages in Lady Lake, Florida in 2005 where she made many new friends and enjoyed a plethora of activities in the retirement community like line-dancing at Spanish Springs Town Square. However, her favourite activity was hosting her grandchildren for vacations. She was a pioneer in moving to The Villages as dozens of extended family members followed including aunts, uncles, cousins, her sister and mother.

Pat will be greatly missed by her mother, Dorothy and her five children, Jamie (Dyane), Brian (Lori), Shannon (Andre), Laurie and Todd, in addition to her beloved grandchildren Ryan, Aubrey, Colin, Sean, Destini, Dylan, Mathieu, Aidan, Thomas, Savannah, Charlotte and Madison. She will also be missed by her sister Barbara (Dennis) and her nieces Kimmy and Becky.

She took great pride in the home that she built for her family and family always came first for her. Pat has left our lives but she will never leave our hearts. Arrangements have been entrusted to Dengler, Roberts, Perna Funeral Home in Buffalo, NY. The family would appreciate notes of sympathy and memories as well as additional pictures of Patricia at: If lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Michael J Fox Parkinson’s Foundation or Hospice Buffalo.


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Carolyn Zeliff

February 24, 2021

Having moved to the Lady Lake section of The Villages in 2014, I met Pat through our mutual friend, Janneke. We were in a book group together.
I especially remember Pat’s generosity in allowing me to bring a visiting friend with me when she hosted the meeting that month.
It makes me smile to remember Pat’s account of her mother cleaning the treads of the sliding glass door in preparation of our arrival.
Pat was beautiful, soft spoken and kind. I wish I had known her for a longer time than I did.

Janneke Bogyo

February 16, 2021

Pat has been a dear friend of mine since about 2006. We were both in a single women's group in The Villages. We had so many good times with that group of women and, to this day, these women make up a very big part of my social group.

Pat and I had a lot in common. We were both teachers in our career days and we often shared some of our many memories and funny stories. Pat could be so funny-- in a quiet sort of way-- and we would often find ourselves laughing a lot whenever we were together.

I have only known her with Parkinson's. She was quite stoic about it and for much of the time I knew her here in Florida, it was hard to remember that she had the disease. We carried on and enjoyed so many great gatherings during the years she lived here.

Even when she got sicker and moved back to Western NY, I would visit her every summer-- until the summer of 2020 when the pandemic kept me from taking my trip up north. I am so sorry that that happened because I really never got to see her again after 2019. We did, however talk on the phone and I cherish my memories and great conversations with her during the last few years of her life.

Pat will always hold a spot in my heart and I will always remember her as the fun loving, caring and wonderful person she was. She will indeed be missed!

Debbie Gately

February 15, 2021

Janneke and I meet in 12/2005. We went to a SSSWC club meeting in January 2006. We were blessed with meeting others and became a pack of 10: Pat, Janneke, Kathy, Mary, Carol, Joan, Louise, Barbara, Diane and myself. We did fun things, community service, volunteered for activities to get others involved and always watched out for each other. Just a few fun things: dancing at the square and Katie Belles, entertaining at our houses, enjoying Pat's pool, dinners, movies, a campfire circle at the square where we ate, drank, and laughed. We did donations at the Domestic Women's Shelter, etc. Patricia's heart, kindness and watching out for us was much larger then you can imagine. She loved us and all our kids and grandkids too! Glad to have known her and will never forget her!!

Ginnie Kelsey

February 13, 2021

One of my first outings in the Villages with Pat, Kathy Church and me going to Arnold Palmer Golf Club for a couple cocktails. Remember many laughs, feeling like I had met two very special new friends and don’t know how I got home. Many great times after that and feel blessed to have known her.

Christine Goodman

February 12, 2021

Our heart felt sympathy to the Grocki family. We shared many special memories when Pat lived in Wilson especially our bridge games. God Bless.

Chris and Wally

Kathy Church

February 9, 2021

Kathy, Janneke, Ginni, Pat and Urs at one of our fun get togethers in The Villages , FL. Our days and nights were full of Mexican train, sunning by the pool, happy hours at the Square...Pat was the one to reserve our seats up front so we could start line dancing once the music began. Boy did she love to dance!!! I am so glad to have had her in my life and have the memories!!! She is now at peace. Love you Patricia!!!

Mary Jayne Kowitz

February 9, 2021

I had the honor to meet Pat in 2012 through some great friends and book club. She was always so sweet and kind. After she moved my girls would keep me informed on how she was doing. She was in my prayers and thoughts always. Pat was an incredible woman and she will be truly missed. To all her family and friends, I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻❤️

Kimberly McAuley

February 8, 2021

Kimberly McAuley

February 8, 2021

Kimberly McAuley

February 8, 2021