Mary Louise Haddad

June 10, 1937December 30, 2020

Mary Louise Trout Haddad passed peacefully at the age of 83 on December 30th at home in Boyertown with Charles, her husband of 62 years, by her side. Born in Upper Darby, PA to H. Allison and Elizabeth Young Trout, Mary-Lou had a connection to Boyertown from her teen years when she spent summers in Forgedale so her father could recuperate from tuberculosis in the cooler country air. In the summer of 1953 Mary-Lou attended a church picnic with a friend from St. John’s Lutheran Church in Boyertown and met Charles, who quickly decided that Mary-Lou was to be his future wife. It was a long-distance romance between two teenagers from Boyertown and Upper Darby and later long distance between two college sweethearts, Mary-Lou at Hood College in Frederick, MD, where she graduated with the Class of 1959, and Charles at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia. With Charles graduating in 1958 and active-duty Army service pending, Mary-Lou pinned the 2nd Lt. bars on his shoulders. They married in 1958.

She loved and was loved by her new Haddad family. As an only child of parents who were only children, Mary-Lou did not know what it was like to have sisters or brothers, aunts or uncles, cousins or nephews and nieces but she quickly learned that three people was not a full table as she became the newest member of the Haddad family in Boyertown.

She loved and was loved by her three children, Jeffrey (Agnes), Martha (Greg) and Philip and her 5 grandchildren: Gabrielle (Philip), Tyler, Lily, Sarah, and Hannah. She led her life with grace and poise which served as an example for her family. Her children and grandchildren were the blessing of her life.

She loved her adopted hometown, Boyertown, and her new hometown loved her. In her unassuming way, she made lifetime friends through her bridge club, Rotary Club, neighbors, and the community as a member and later president of Borough Council. She quietly made inroads as one of the first female members of the Rotary Club, later serving as president. She did the same during her 8 years on Boyertown Borough Council including a term as its first female president.

She loved her friendships, many of whom shared lifelong bonds. During her long illness, the loving support from her caregivers and visits from family, friends, and her four Hood College roommates were treasured.

Her love of gardening went beyond her home as she served on St. John’s Garden Committee and served on many other committees there. This civic-minded tree-planting and landscaping expanded to include the community as she became active in Building A Better Boyertown where she chaired the tree committee helping make Boyertown a Tree City, USA community and worked to construct the community walkways with flowers, benches, and trees. Mary-Lou asked, prodded, and led others to make Boyertown a greener and more friendly community by gracing it with flowers and trees.

She loved flowers and flowers loved her. In 1975, she and Charles purchased the Isaac and Margaret Stauffer homestead, the first family outside the Stauffer family call this 1825 farmhouse a home. With its acre and a half of lawn and gardens, she spent many delightful years tending to the perennial beds and planting seeds in the small greenhouse for Charles’ vegetable garden and her flower gardens. She oversaw the renovation of the home to its original glory, sharing the yard and home along the way by hosting many clubs for tours, picnics, and fundraisers.

Flowers were Mary-Lou’s life. In Isiah 40, it is written, “the grass withers, the flowers fade but the word of the Lord stands forever.” As the flowers she loved and planted faded, so too has the life of Mary-Lou. Yet her memory will continue as her family honors her with 80 planters on the main streets of Boyertown that will be filled with flowers each spring and evergreens each Christmas.

In this spirit and in lieu of flowers, memorials may be given in her honor to Building A Better Boyertown, 3 North Reading Avenue, Boyertown, PA 19512 for the purpose of planting additional flowers and trees for the community Mary-Lou loved and the community that loved Mary-Lou.

Graveside services will be private for the family with a later Celebration of the Life of Mary-Lou for the community at St. John's Evangelical Lutheran Church in Boyertown when public gatherings are permitted.

Arrangements by the Linwood W. Ott Funeral Home, Inc. 111 North Reading Ave. Boyertown, PA. 19512

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Mary Levan (Erb)

January 13, 2021

I what to express my deepest condolences to all of you. Many memories of the family are embedded in my memories as well as in my mothers’ memories of your family. (Verna Erb) The both of us have always cherished the family & now we prayer for each one of you in a lasting happy memory of your beloved mother/wife. God bless you all.

Lucie Smith

January 8, 2021

I m so sorry for you and you family in the loss of your Mother. My thoughts and prayers for all of you. May the wonderful memories sustain you at this very difficult time.


Priscilla Hollenbach Anderson

January 4, 2021

Mr. Haddad and family,
My condolences to you and your family. Sweet memories of your wife and mom's bridge clubs and our church family!
Pris (Hollenbach) Anderson

Matthew Goense

January 4, 2021

Dear Charles

My greatest sympathies to you, I feel blessed to have known Mary Lou, she was one of the most giving people I have ever meet. She will be missed by those who knew her and those that live in the Boyertown area and were served by her deeds.

Rev Mary Etta Mest

January 4, 2021

Dear Charles and Phil,

My prayers and sympathy are with you. Mary Lou and both of you have dedicated yourselves to the well-being of the Boyertown Area. Thank you for the times our lives have touched, mostly in the life of St. John's Evangelical Lutheran Church, Boyertown. May you be feeling God's presence providing comfort and peace and contentment to you and the rest of your family.
Sincerely, Mary Etta

Bill and Linda Flederbach

January 3, 2021

Charles and family,
We are saddened to hear of Mary-Lou’s passing. We will always remember her for her kindness and dedication. She gave of herself so freely and never did anything half-hearted. When Mary-Lou said she would do something, one could be assured it would be complete and done to perfection. I (Linda) will always remember Mary-Lou when I look at poinsettias. I was fascinated by the huge plant she would maintain in her greenhouse.
You are all in our prayers.

Arthur Grim

January 2, 2021

Dear Charles and family
Our deepest sympathy to you on the passing of Mary Lou. May the memories of a life extraordinarily well lived help to sustain you.
Art and Louise Grim

Sharon Kistler

January 2, 2021

I valued her friendship when I ran the BBB office for a few years. Her efforts for the Tree City designation helped us develop an informative Arbor Day celebration in the park and I thank her for that.

Dan & Linda McMullan

January 1, 2021

Charles and family, Please accept our deepest sympathies on your loss. Mary Lou was a wonderful, caring and gracious person. I’m sure she will be missed terribly.

Terry and Charlene Starr

January 1, 2021

Dear Charles and Family:

We are truly saddened by Mary-Lou's passing, and to hear that she endured a lengthy illness. She did so much good for Boyertown and no doubt for each of you as well. We would see her at Saville's from time to time and out and about in town, and would exchange hellos. She always had such a pleasant smile. Her obituary touched upon the memories she will leave behind. Those memories are truly God's wonderful blessing to us, because they actually grow fonder with time. Our prayers for God's mercy and grace are with you in your time of mourning.