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Stuart A. "Stu" Bernstein

Stuart A. "Stu" Bernstein, age 79, passed away on January 4, 2021, after a long battle with heart disease. Devoted husband to Janice Bernstein, loving father to Adam and Jennifer Bernstein; adored stepfather to Stephen and Susan Weiss and Michael and Melissa Weiss; beloved “Papa Stu” to grandchildren Elise, Tess, and Phoebe Bernstein, Maxwell and Hannah Weiss, and Asher and Teegan Weiss.

Stu was born to German immigrants Herbert and Margot (Aaron), and raised in New Jersey with his younger brother Leslie, who predeceased him. He overcame difficult early years to become a warm, loving husband, father, and grandfather, who always looked at the positive side of life. He was fondly known as the Energizer Bunny because of both his remarkable upbeat attitude under all circumstances and because despite all of the health issues he confronted over the years, he kept going and going and going against all odds.

After a youthful stint in the Air Force, Stu lived in North Dakota and Minnesota, where he married and had his son Adam, before moving back east. He traveled the world, living and working in Iran, France, and Switzerland, where his remarkable gift for languages came in handy.

A true self-made success story, Stu spent the first portion of his career as a software programmer, analyst, and technical manager before moving into sales and corporate management in large Fortune 500 companies including NCR, IBM, and Control Data Corporation. He subsequently worked as either an executive or effectiveness consultant and coach for a number of startup companies both domestically and internationally. He was a co-founder of several companies including Cognition Inc, Brain Saving Technologies (now Specialists on Call), and Bernstein Photo. For the last several years he provided technical, marketing and sales consulting services to clients in the construction industry focused on high-performance, net zero, and passive housing.

Stu had a zest for learning. He was always involved in multiple projects and loved increasing his skill set, even enthusiastically attending virtual conferences while in palliative care. He was constantly exploring through his love of travel and passion and skill in photography. He loved coaching others in sales and any of the many areas of his expertise.

Warm, kindhearted, and an incredible raconteur with a story for every situation, Stu was beloved by all who came in contact with him. Renowned for his over-the-top sushi orders and Photoshopping himself into family group photos, he brought joy and vitality to all gatherings. He was devoted to his beloved Janice, his wife of nearly 25 years, with whom he found true love and happiness in his final decades.

Stu and his indomitable spirit will be greatly missed by all. He has promised to communicate with Janice through the screeching Blue Jay in the front of their home, so keep an ear out!

Due to the current health crisis, funeral services will be private.

Please use the following link for the "Zoom Shiva": https://calendly.com/mikeypweiss/stuart-bernstein-shiva-group-1?month=2021-01&date=2021-01-06

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that remembrances may be made to be made to support Brigham and Women's Hospital. Gifts will be split equally between the Martin P. Solomon Medical Education Scholars Program, the Cardiovascular Wellness Fund, and the Hospital at Home Program Fund. Checks can be made payable to Brigham and Women's Hospital with "in memory of Stuart Bernstein” in the memo line and sent to: Brigham and Women's Hospital, Development Office, 116 Huntington Ave., 3rd floor, Boston, MA 02116 or visit www.bwhgiving.org to make your gift online.

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  • Due to the current health crisis, funeral services are private

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Stuart A. "Stu" Bernstein

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Ruth and Steve Rosenthal

January 10, 2021

Janice and family,
Yesterday I saw the facebook info and we were so very upset to hear that had Stu passed away. We know how close you both were---right from the beginning when you first met and remembering your beautiful wedding day.
We send love and prayers for you and the family. We know that he was loved by so many.
With love,
Ruth and Steve

Karen Jones Budd

January 9, 2021

My most sincere condolences to all who knew and loved Stu....and there are a lot of us. I worked for Stu when he ran the Upstate New York District for Control Data, just after he returned from Iran. He was a brilliant manager in his ability to train, communicate, inspire, and motivate. So I knew Stu as a boss, as a friend and as a matchmaker (for my husband and me). Stu has been a guiding light and iconic figure in my life for decades. I don’t know anyone who is as unsinkable as my dear friend, Stu. We talked frequently and both my husband and I looked forward to those conversations. Invariably, after each and every phone call with Stu, we would look at each other and say, “He is just unbelievable”. We always had our spirits lifted talking to Stu. He was an inspiration. He made us better. Stu was a unicorn - nobody like him and as my friend, who knew him from Control Data, said when he passed, “This planet just lost a lot of life.” Rest in peace, my dearest friend, Stu. I am going to miss you. Jones.

Stephen Weiss

January 9, 2021

This was read at the private service for Stu:

Stu, Stu-boy, Stuart, Papa-Stu. Stu was many things to many people. To the people here today he was a father, a friend, a grand-father and a devoted husband to my mom. To some of the people who can’t be with us today he was also a father, a grandfather and a friend. To all of us he was something special.

The list of what Stu was and meant to to all of us is endless – he had a spark, an enthusiasm, a twinkle in his eye for all that he did – from being a salesperson to a sales trainer and mentor, from a golf partner to a poker buddy, from a photographer to web designer, from an entrepreneur to a team-member, from an early adopter to a tech guru and from a viewer to storyteller and so much more he did it all with heart.

It’s cliché, but while it was his heart that ultimately couldn’t physically sustain him, it was his heart that made him who he was. I’m not sure it was his condition, or who he was even before he became ill, but for as long as I have known Stu he had a zest for life and it was infectious, a carpe diem attitude that made everybody around him happy. Today we here are to physically say goodbye to you, but Stu, rest assured that you will live on in the hearts and minds of those who knew and loved you.

Eva & Bud Choban Clews

January 7, 2021

We are deeply saddened by the news of Stu's passing. We knew him for many years, and he will be truly missed. Our deepest sympathy to Janice and family as you remember a wonderful and one of a kind person.

We're so very sorry for your loss,
Eva & Bud

paul Schwartz

January 7, 2021

Zelda and I send hugs and condolences as we remember your super guy and the fun we shared on Palm Desert vacations. Please know we hold you in our hearts. May his memory be a blessing.

Jaymie Saks

January 7, 2021

I am so sad to see this news about Stu. He was a talented photographer, but more importantly a true "mensch" - reliable, caring, and relentlessly upbeat. I will always remember him for his beautiful photographs for Boston Jewish Film (all taken in poorly-lit cinemas!), his bright smile, and his warm, reassuring personality in the midst of our craziness. Thinking of you, Janice, and the rest of the family.

Jon Weiss

January 7, 2021

Aunt Jan,

We are so saddened to learn of Stu’s passing. Such a wonderful, kind man so admired and loved by all, but especially his children and grandchildren. I am especially happy for the many years you had together and your wonderful marriage. Your relationship always gave me comfort, knowing you were together for each other. We are thinking of you and the family at this time and send our love. Our deepest condolences. We love you.

Jon, Stephanie, Chloe and Sydney

Richard Painter

January 6, 2021

I am very sad to hear about Stu.

I worked for him twice (and very nearly a third time!) and learnt so much from him about sales but also about business and life in general.

I feel honoured to have worked with him and then to have stayed in touch with him for over 20 years since and regarded him as a true, reliable friend.

My condolences to Janice, Adam and family and trust you know, and are a little comforted by, the high regard he was held in by so many.

Rest in peace Stu.

Patrick Coulter

January 6, 2021

Energizer Bunny, so apt. Learned a lot from you, Stu, including some great stories and jokes. A mentor to many in the crucible that was MSI. To Adam, Janice, and family, my condolences and wishing you the very best. Patrick

Sean Mahoney

January 6, 2021

I’ll never forget when business brought Stu to Tokyo while I was living there. I can still taste the Sukiyaki we had. And even though I hadn’t seen him in years -- perhaps ten -- the night had the same laidback ease and familiarity you’d have with the friend you saw every day. That was Stu: always engaging, relatable and warm.

FROM THE FAMILY