Joseph G. Duffy


Richard R Schilling III

March 19, 1964August 18, 2020

SCHILLING, Richard Robert III, on August 18, 2020. Loving brother of Mia Grogan and Andrew Schilling, and loving brother-in-law of John and Margaret. Adored uncle to Jack, Isobel, Catherine, Emilie, and Henry. Devoted son of the late Joan Edmonds Schilling and Richard Robert Schilling, Jr. of Brooklyn, New York, and Spring Lake, New Jersey. Cherished and loyal friend to so many. Talented producer, editor, actor, singer, dancer, and tennis player. Six-time Academy Award nominee. Former producer of One Life to Live; Loving; Passions; General Hospital: Night Shift; and most recently Great Performances. Proud graduate of Xavier High School (‘82) and the College of the Holy Cross (‘86).

A Mass of Christian Burial will be offered on Saturday, August 22 at 10 am at Saint Francis Xavier Church in Manhattan. Given the COVID pandemic, his funeral mass will be limited to family, while friends are asked instead to join the family in spirit and by live stream The recording will also be available later for anyone who is not free at that time. He will be laid to rest beside his parents at Holy Cross Cemetery in Brooklyn. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Bowery Mission,

Richard’s life was too short, but it was a wonderful life because he was loved deeply by his family and by so many close friends. “Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around, he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?” -- It’s a Wonderful Life.


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Richard R Schilling III

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Margaret May

September 9, 2020

I am so , so sorry and sad to learn of Richard’s death! It came as quite an unexpected surprise when I had a chance to walk over to Santa Fe Restaurant today and I saw a sign on the door mourning his death ! I hadn’t been to Santa Fe since the shut down and wondered how it was faring , but then I saw the sign that it was closed now and that Richard had died! Could it be the same Richard I knew socially when I would visit Santa Fe and sit at the bar every now and then when I was in the neighborhood ?
I googled his name and then discovered this obituary !

He was a very kind person and we shared similar backgrounds, both growing up in Brooklyn and going to Catholic school . We both injured ourselves recently , too, I remember how he suffered greatly when he fractured his leg. I had suffered a couple of fractures myself , too. God bless him ! May his soul rise to Heaven !

Jennifer Beauregard

September 8, 2020

To Andrew and the Schilling family.......It was a shock to hear about Richard's passing. So many memories instantly came flooding back; Spring Lake friends, the beach, seeing a James Taylor concert at the Garden State Arts Center, the summer theater, to name a few.

To Richard: Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.

Richard added joy, fun and class to everything he did and I will remember him fondly, as I do your family.

With sympathy and warm memories of friendship and kindness,
Jennifer Fay Beauregard

Zandra Badillo

August 23, 2020

Richard, it was an honor to be neighbors during my time on the upper west side. You were always so sweet, charming and interesting. You will be missed, dear friend.

Gieriet Bowen

August 23, 2020

Dear Schilling Family:
I am so sorry for your loss!

Although I was not a good friend of Rich while at Holy Cross I did admire him from afar as I attended almost every musical on campus. Rich was fun, kind, VERY talented, and well liked.

I will think of him each time I attend mass and sing(!) at SXF! (our daughter was literally married there just one month ago.)

You’re in our prayers during this tough time.

Loretta Di Bianca Fois

August 22, 2020

Richard was the kind a friend that always made me laugh. We shared an interest in theater and music, singing in the Holy Cross choir and doing ACT shows.
Some great memories were partnering with him as a couple in “Babes in Arms” and choreographing a tap dance number with him in “Anything Goes” (and rehearsing it over and over again!)
When we graduated we both knew we needed to follow our passion... his was producing... mine was dance. I remember him saying “there’s no school for me to attend to become a producer, “ but I knew he would follow his drive and his dream.

So many Caro Street memories, watching Wizard of Oz over and over, especially the part where it turns to color! Crashing at his place with the theater group, and the Choir trip to England and Ireland!
Thanks for such wonderful memories. I know you are singing and dancing with the angels now.

Maura Doherty

August 22, 2020

From “Pirates of Penzance” to Mendelssohn’s “Elijah”, you were a steadfast, fiery and fun classmate of HC ‘86. My deepest condolences to your family. I’m very grateful for your kindness to me in the Choir. Keep singing, Rich. Godspeed.

Kitty Wach

August 22, 2020

Mia and Andrew, please accept my condolences on Richard's death.

I knew Richard only in college, but he made an indelible impression on me. He personified New York glamour, and seemed so sophisticated. When the movie Its A Wonderful Life was played on campus (as an exam-week break) he was appalled that I had never heard of it and insisted I go -- it has been a favorite ever since, and always reminds me of Richard. He was warm and loving, but also exciting and funny and smart. His loss will be wrenching. Your family's funeral was beautiful.

Kristen Plumley

August 22, 2020

Richard was a true gentleman in every sense of the word. I met him at Holy Cross and we performed in several ACT shows together. I remember him helping the director of "One Touch of Venus" make a plaster cast of me to be the statue of Venus that comes to life. What a tedious and strangely funny task that was - I think there's a photo of him and me somewhere, with my face completely covered in plastered cloth strips, and straws coming out of my nose so I could breathe! I'll remember the shows and parties and Richard being the first to welcome me to New York with a lovely dinner out when I moved there. And then the years of following, liking and commenting on each other's posts on Facebook. You were kind and sensitive, smart, creative and generous...a rare gem among people, Richard. I'll miss you. Love to your family.

Jim Sayegh

August 22, 2020

Courteous and kind, loyal and true, Rich was a real gentlemen, a trusted and talented colleague and most important, a real friend.

Kris Noonan

August 22, 2020

Richard was a kind, gentle and lovely gentleman. I was friends with a childhood friend of his Missy I think. Her family owns a funeral parlor in Brooklyn. She introduced me to Richard and was very fond of him.

May his soul rest in eternal happiness and my sincere condolences to his family and close friends. God bless you all

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