Fr. Alejandro Paternoster

November 22, 1957November 10, 2021

Fr. Alejandro Paternoster died on November 10, 2021 after a brief illness at St. Vincent Hospital in Indianapolis. He was ordained to the priesthood of Jesus Christ on June 6, 1994 at St. Mary Cathedral, Lafayette. He enjoyed a rich, 27-year ministry.

Prior to his ordination, he graduated from Madison Heights High School, Anderson, IN; Indiana State University, Terre Haute, IN and St. Meinrad Seminary, St. Meinrad, IN.

Fr. Paternoster served in many parishes throughout the Diocese of Lafayette in Indiana including: St. Charles, Peru; St. Mary, Muncie; the Cathedral of St. Mary of the Immaculate Conception, Lafayette; All Saints, Logansport; St. Joan of Arc, Kokomo; Sorrowful Mother, Wheatfield; St. Mary, Alexandria & St. Joseph, Elwood; Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, Carmel and most recently the pastorate of St. Joseph, Delphi; St. Joseph, Reynolds and Our Lady of the Lakes, Monticello. His religious journey also included a brief tenure as a Carthusian monk at the Charterhouse of the Transfiguration located on Mt. Equinox, in Sandgate, Vermont.

A highly skilled athlete as a young man, he enjoyed taking on new challenges and making them his own. To that end, he made himself into an accomplished audio- and video-phile; a skilled shooter (of both firearms and the compound bow); a discerning ‘gastronome’ (of both good food and fine wine); and a trivia master on the nuances of ‘The Andy Griffith Show’. (He even found time to earn his pilot’s license!)

His love for his family and his childhood friends is boundless, true even to this day.

In fact, he loved all people, seeing the face of Christ the Savior in everyone he met. He very much valued the time spent serving his parishioners; this was especially true for his ministry to the various Hispanic communities throughout the diocese in the parishes to which he was assigned.

He will be remembered as a kind and generous man, known for his warmth and faithfulness to his priestly promises.

Fr. Paternoster will be sorely missed throughout the entirety of the Lafayette Diocese.

He is survived by his mother, Susana Paternoster, and by his siblings Eduardo, Maria Laura and Andres. He was preceded in death by his father Atilio Jose, a sister Maria Susana and a sister-in-law Caroline and countless friends in the vineyard of the Lord.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at Tuesday, November 16 at 11:00AM at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, 14598 Oak Ridge Rd. Carmel, Indiana. Calling hours will be the evening before on November 15 at Our Lady of Carmel with visitation at 6:00pm followed by an evening prayer service at 7:00pm. The internment will be immediately following Mass at Our Lady of Peace Cemetery, Indianapolis.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions in Fr. Paternoster’s name may be sent to support the ministry of the Churches of Fr. Paternoster’s last pastorate assignment in Delphi, Reynolds, and Monticello, Indiana. These should be addressed to: St. Joseph Church 207 N Washington St., Delphi, IN 46923


  • Susana Paternoster, Mother
  • Atilio Paternoster, Father (deceased)
  • Eduardo Paternoster, Brother
  • Maria Laura Paternoster (Robert), Sister
  • Andres Paternoster, Brother
  • Maria Susana Paternoster, Sister (deceased)
  • Caroline Paternoster, Sister-in-law (deceased)


  • Visitation

    Monday, November 15, 2021

  • Evening Prayer

    Monday, November 15, 2021

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Tuesday, November 16, 2021


Fr. Alejandro Paternoster

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Steve & Cindy Granger

November 18, 2021

We have so many great memories with Fr. Alex over nearly 40 years of friendship. We were so honored to support him as he prepared for seminary and through those years. Alex was gentle, kind and so funny! We love him and all our memories with him.

Jamie Devos

November 14, 2021

What a nice man he was. I had the pleasure of meeting him at Sorrowful Mother, in Wheatfield, IN. When my father was sick and in the hospital, Father came to see him. He had many funny stories, which brighten my dad's spirits and made us all laugh. He had a kind and gentle soul. God bless him and his family and I am sure he was welcomed in heaven with open arms. You're at peace now, you will be missed.

Matthew Lewis

November 14, 2021

Fr Paternoster began our Marriage prep 24 years ago at the Cathedral. He took copious notes as we went through the process. He was ever kind and with his soft spoken demeanor. He left to go to Vermont towards the end of that process and our pastor took over to finish up. As we sat there, he was going through our paperwork and right in front of us threw away all the notes that Fr P had taken. To this day we still laugh about it wanting to know what he had written in those marriage prep notes. We hope he was just doodling 😀


November 13, 2021

I knew Father Alex, when he was at St. Mary's in Muncie, IN in the late 90's. He was a great mentor for me, in my youth and he will be greatly missed.

James Smith

November 12, 2021

First and foremost to the Paternoster family my condolences. I was privileged to play football with Alex in high school, he was a tough competitor and a great teammate and someone you could tell had a blessed soul. I’m sure he faced his priesthood with the same tenacity as he did on the football field all those years ago. Lord bless and and hold Father Paternoster and comfort his family in this time of need , May we all pray in Jesus name Amen

Rhonda Hill-Williams

November 12, 2021

My husband Mark and I and our two sons are deeply saddened over the loss of one of the kindest and dearest men God has ever placed in our lives. I have known Alejandro (Alex) and the Paternoster family literally since the day I was born as we were next door neighbors for our entire childhood and remained close from then on. Alex will be sorely missed by everyone who knew him and God has received a beautiful soul in heaven with his passing. Prayers for the entire Paternoster family.

Paul Williamson

November 12, 2021

I have known known the Paternoster family since I was in Jr High with Eduardo.

They are an amazing family and their love for one another was something I witnessed over the years!
Though I am not of the Catholic Faith, I was not surprised when I learned that the Lord called their son into ministry for the Church. He has been a true blessing for the Church and His Lord!

May the Lord richly bless the Paternoster family and the Church families who are so touched by his untimely passing!

Our Prayers are with you….Paul and Rhonda Williamson

Susanna Harter

November 11, 2021

My husband, Brian Foist, knew Alex from their high school days at MHHS. After high school, they were closing out Frazier's one summer night when they decided on a whim to drive up to Chicago to watch the sunrise over Lake Michigan. I guess they made a day of it while they were there.
I met Alex when we both trained to be tellers at the Anderson Banking Company, then worked together at the branch inside a Payless grocery store.
We've kept in touch over the years. We have pictures of him at our wedding reception. The last time we saw Alex, he got to meet our two daughters.
What a great guy! He had a gentle soul, a great sense of humor, and he'll be missed. We were saddened to learn of his passing. Our sympathies to the entire Paternoster Family.

Heather Weber

November 11, 2021

Father P, was our dear dear friend.. who will be forever missed! God father to our Natalie & always present for our family from sacraments to cooking &
Movie nights & shooting range lessons.
Too many wonderful memories of his sweet soul to list. You will forever be present in our hearts❤️ What am amazing advocate we have in your in heaven with the angels & Saints!