Pamala S. Trestrail

December 22, 1948October 1, 2021

Pamala S. Trestrail, 72, of Carmel, passed away at home on October 1, 2021. She was born December 22, 1948 in Lebanon, Indiana to the late Okey and Louise (Walstow) Cottongim. She was a graduate of Southport High School and Indiana University School of Nursing.

Survivors include her fiancé, Jay Crask; two sons, Benjamin “B.J.” Trestrail and Kenneth “K.C.” Trestrail; uncle, Harold (Dotty) Cottongim; aunt, Judy (Ernie) Snowden; one foster brother, John (Linda) Withner; three foster sisters, Stacy (Frank) Kalder, Andie (Gary) Evje, and Carla (Bob) Garr; and many foster nieces and nephews. Along with her parents, Pamala was preceded in death by her uncle, Orville Cottongim.

She was retired from St. Vincent Hospital (Indianapolis) where she was employed as a Registered Nurse. Pamala was a licensed realtor and insurance agent. She also worked in restaurants and catering for many years.

Pamala had a passion for hosting and entertaining and she was an exceptional cook who loved to feed everyone. She found her joy in making others happy through these avenues. These passions along with her great sense of humor and quick wit made her the life of the party and someone others could easily connect with and find comfort from. “Cheers to you, Mamma!”

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Chris Gaiser

October 18, 2021

I first met Pamala in high school. She was the leader of our synchronized swimming team the" Dophinettes." From there our friendship sprung forth. She opened her home to slumber parties and get togethers even after high school. She loved to cook and entertain and I was lucky to spend quality time with her through the years. We shared some great times and I have many fun memories of laugher and good eating. She will be missed.
Rest in Peace dear Pam.

Jeffrey Ferguson

October 17, 2021

Pam was an amazing mom who loved sharing news about her kids, her work, her passions. As her former doctor I always looked forward to her visits, our discussions, our mutual interests, and her love for people. My deepest sympathies to her two boys who I know will greatly miss her.

Aleksandar Momirov

October 15, 2021

My dear friend Benjamin’s mom, whom I had the privilege to meet when visiting. Loving, entertaining, welcoming, making me feel at home as if I was part of the family. A special, very special, person - loving memories will remain.

Andie Withner Evje

October 14, 2021

So much Love and So Many Laughs for So many Years....
Christmas with the Family, Hugging our Boys, and Forever Memories of Crazy Shenanigans together... You will always be with me, my Sister...

Wanetah (Mobley) Helgason

October 13, 2021

A dear friend and former neighbor for years, Pam shared many special memories with myself and our family. We will all especially
remember her beauty, great personality, the sound of her laughter, and the intensity with which she met life's challenges. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of her family.

James Logsdon

October 9, 2021

Pamala was my best friend Benjamin’s mother and a dear friend to me. She could light up a room with her laugh and smile and always welcomed me with open arms. She was an amazing person with the gift of bringing people together with one of her famous gourmet meals. I feel so lucky to have known her. I am heartbroken and will miss her. However, she’ll forever be in my heart. Today and always, may loving memories bring comfort, peace, and strength to her family and friends.

Susie Crandall (Hankins)

October 8, 2021

Pam was a good friend dating back to JR High. She was fun, upbeat, a good student and just a delightful person. My sympathy to her family, prayers for you all.

Elise Lawrence-Mundy

October 8, 2021

Saddened to read of Pam’s death. So many grade school memories of her famous slumber parties. She was clearly an unforgettable member of our class. Rest in Heaven, friend.