Frederick Tuttle Bender

April 6, 1923November 9, 2013

Frederick Tuttle Bender, 90, of Fuquay-Varina, NC, formerly of Center-Tuftonboro, NH, Darien and Ridgefield, CT, died Saturday, November 9, 2013 at Windsor Point Retirement Community in Fuquay-Varina, NC.

Frederick was born April 6, 1923 in Newark, NJ to the late Lester Frederick Bender and Lois Tuttle Bender. He was a WWII veteran of the US Army Air Corp. Frederick was a graduate of Summit School of Music and General Theological Seminary in New York, NY. He served as organist, choir director and priest for several Episcopal churches along the east coast, particularly Connecticut, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania until finally retiring in North Carolina.

Frederick was preceded in death by his wife, Grace Betts Bender; and sister, Joan Bender.

He is survived by his children, Joanne Bender Growitz; Sarajane Bender Diosi; Dr. Robert Mark Bender; and Cynthia Bender Scam; ten grandchildren; and six great grandchildren.

A memorial service will be held at Saint Luke’s Parish in Darien, CT at a later date.

Memorials may be made to Saint Luke’s Parish, 1864 Post Road, Darien, CT 06820.


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Beverly Brown

November 12, 2013

Rest in peace Mr. Bender. Love you Beverly