Brown-Wynne Funeral Home

200 Southeast Maynard Road, Cary, NC


Matthew Ryan Oberst

January 3, 1974November 27, 2016
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Matthew Ryan Oberst died peacefuly in his home on November 27, 2016 in Cary, NC. He was 42. Matt was born on January 3, 1974 in Omaha, NE. He is survived by his children, John and Annabelle, parents Matthew and Nancy, Omaha, NE and brothers and sisters-in-law, Justin and Mackenzie Oberst, Washington, DC and Conor Oberst and Corina Figueroa of Omaha, NE.

Matt was a long-time teacher at Sterling Montessori School. Countless students passed through his classroom and were better for it. He loved reading and music, but most of all, learning itself.

The family will receive family and friends at Brown-Wynne Funeral Home 200 SE Maynard Rd, Cary from 5 pm-8pm on Thursday, December 1st. A Memorial Mass will take place at St Michael the Archangel Catholic Church 810 High House Rd Cary, NC on Saturday, December 3rd at 8:30 am followed by a reception at Brown-Wynne Funeral Home. Cary.

In lieu of flowers, the family encourages donations to the John and Annabelle Oberst Education Fund in care of Sterling Montessori School.

Arrangements under the direction of Brown-Wynne Funeral Home, Cary, North Carolina.



  • Visitation Thursday, December 1, 2016
  • Memorial Mass Saturday, December 3, 2016


  • Reception Following the Mass


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Ellen Collins (Knocke)

May 17, 2018

Oberst Family, you have my deepest sympathies. I think of you all and Matt often because he had a huge influence on the music I listen to. When we would all come visit you in Omaha, I was listening to the pop music of the time, and he and Connor and Justin told me about different music; punk, alternative, the Smiths, so many things. I have such fond memories of our family vacations. I think about you often and hope you all are doing well and sending you love. I think you need to know that as time passes people do not forget and the memories will always be there.

Joy Sunseri

April 16, 2018

Dear family of Matt Oberst,
I just found out that Matt passed away and I send my deepest sympathy to all of you. Matt taught my son, Nick, at Sterling Montessori. I always thought the world of him and Nick truly enjoyed learning in Matt's classroom. Matt was a wonderful, smart and creative educator. He was truly an original. I thank him for his support and kindness to my son. I hope that all of your family can find comfort knowing that Matt was an inspiration and huge influence to the many students who were fortunate to learn from him.
Joy Sunseri

December 30, 2017

Matt was a quintessential mentor and friend to so many, and I'm a better person for having known him. Rest in peace.

Julia Langenderfer

October 17, 2017

Matt was kind and funny and loved to mess with people . He was a a teacher, a friend and a confidant when you needed one. He was the very school of the middle school where he had taught at since it started. His kindness and boisterous laughter could light up a room and if cared he about you, he teased you mercilessly. Most teachers don't touch people like he did. He made you feel special and like you were capable of anything. His chicken and camping trip graduation ceremonies on the camping trip were legendary. Matt was extraordinary and to anyone who knew him, the world is just a little less bright without him.


July 15, 2017

Dear Matt & Nancy: I just learned today about Matty. So touched to see that that name has stuck with him through life. The last time I saw Matty, I was walking with him on my shoulder. Precious child of God. May Christ be with you and His Mother console you. I cannot imagine the pain in your and Justin's and Conor's hearts, and most certainly John's and Annabelle's. You all will get through this by living out your lives with love for others always, as Matty would want, one day at a time. Such a devastating loss. My heart wells with pain, and while I know the abundant tears for you won't help, I hope that the knowledge that your grief is shared by so many will alleviate some of the weight.

Anthony Langford

February 27, 2017

Very sorry to hear about the passing of Matt. Love to all the family - such a devastating loss. May you all find peace.

Sharon Field

January 1, 2017

Nancy and Matt, My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. May the Lord send you peace and comfort in the days ahead.

December 20, 2016

Matt and Nancy, we are so sorry for the loss of young Matt. I remember you, Nancy, talking about Matty at one of our Mullen family reunions. Our prayers for peace and solace are with you. Love, Stephanie (DeMasters) and Gene Mittuch


December 15, 2016

Dear Matt and Nancy,
Memories of Matty being my Omaha big brother are a highlight of my childhood. After an Omaha visit, I knew what new music I should be listening to. Part of what makes me a good "boy mom" are my experiences with the Oberst boys and both of you. Peace be with your whole family.

Scott Wellman

December 10, 2016

Dear Matt, So sorry to hear of the loss of your son. I'm sure he was an amazing man. My prayers are with you and your family,

Scott Wellman