Brown-Wynne Funeral Home

200 Southeast Maynard Road, Cary, NC


Shelba Jane Spivey

October 16, 1937August 9, 2020

Mrs. Shelba Laughton Spivey, age 82, passed away on Sunday, August 9 at her home in Cary, NC after an extended illness. Born on October 16, 1937, she was the daughter of Mamie and George R. Laughton Sr. She was the loving wife of Gilmore ‘Ted’ Spivey for 63 years.

Mrs. Spivey graduated from Beaufort High School in 1956. She attended Hardbargers Business School. Mrs. Spivey worked as a bookkeeper and office manager before becoming the Trade Show Manager for her husband Ted’s company.

She served as an active member of Westwood Baptist Church, Cary, NC and participated in several mission groups. Due to her health in later years, she was a faithful listener to the Haynes Barton Baptist Church televised services.

Ms. Spivey was a long time and dedicated member of the Cary Garden Club and the Circle of Friends Club where she developed many lasting friendships. For twenty years she attended Lifetime Enrichment Encore classes at North Carolina State University. She and her husband Ted enjoyed traveling extensively throughout the United States and Europe. They also shared a passion for sailing and being on the water.

She was preceded in death by her loving parents and two sisters, Faye Paul Cherry, Anna Lou Haskins and Sister-in Law, Anne Parkin. She is survived by her husband Ted Spivey, three brothers and sisters-in-law, George and Jean Laughton, Milton and Mary Laughton, and Raymond and Sue Laughton, all of Beaufort, NC. She and Ted were blessed with 12 wonderful nieces and nephews, 13 amazing grand-nieces and nephews, 13 adorable great-grand nieces and nephews. A graveside service will be held for family and close friends at Bayview Cemetery, Morehead City on a date to be determined.

Shelba and her family are grateful for the excellent care she received from the Fresenius Dialysis Center of Cary. In lieu of flowers, the family request donations be made to Transitions LifeCare, 250 Hospice Circle, Raleigh, NC (transitionslifecare.org/donate) founded as Hospice of Wake County in thanks for their guidance and support.


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Meredith Graham

August 13, 2020

I love you Mrs. Spivey. We said that few and far between times to each other but it was just as special every time. Thank You for your words of “hang in there Meredith “ whenever I had a bad day at dialysis. While many years separated us in age, we shared so many of the same opinions, thoughts and likes of cultures. We never saw the difference in our color, we were just in it (dialysis) for the long haul. I will miss your stories about your family and growing up in Beaufort. I will miss you. Please continue to pray for me in your new home. I just blew you a kiss. I will never forget you, friend.

Meredith J Graham

Marilyn Hipolito

August 12, 2020

I’ve had the pleasure of knowing and caring for Mrs. Spivey for many years while at Cary. She was a very sweet and loving person, often asking about my kids and how they are doing. I knew Mrs. Spivey very much cherished her family because she always shared her fond memories of them with me. We had great conversations about everything and I will forever adore the laughs we had together. Not only was she an incredible patient, but a kind friend as well; her nickname for me being “My Marilyn.” Reflecting on our friendship, she was so compassionate and spiritual as she frequently told me about her prayers for me and my family. There is no doubt that she will be greatly missed by all her loved ones, including myself, and will be watching us from above.
Thank you for all the love you have given me,