Thomas Joseph Ross

With deep sorrow and eternal gratitude, we announce the passing of Thomas Joseph Ross, a beloved brother, uncle, friend, storyteller, and heroic first responder, who died on July 9, 2025, in Manhattan, NY, from a 9/11-related illness. He was 62 years old.

Born on January 7, 1963, in Astoria, NY, Thom grew up in Centereach, NY. A neighborhood filled with the sounds of kids playing lawn games, running under the power-line fields, and hitting baseballs on long summer days. He was voted Most Popular in his high school yearbook—a reflection of the magnetic charm, loyalty, and humor that defined his life. He was a true trendsetter, remembered for his signature hats that became part of his look as early as high school. Thom later made his home in Manhattan, a city he loved deeply and served with unwavering dedication.

Thom went on to attend the University of Sioux Falls on a football scholarship, later studying cinematography at Brooklyn College, where he refined his already keen eye for visual storytelling. With a passion for the art of film, he worked as a cinematographer on independent films across Long Island. Whether behind a 35mm still camera or a movie lens, Thom had an unmatched ability to see beauty, detail, and humanity in every frame.

For the last several decades, Thom served as a New York State Court Officer in Lower Manhattan, a position he held with honor, professionalism, and a deep sense of justice. On September 11, 2001, Thom became a first responder at Ground Zero, rushing to assist those in need. In the weeks that followed, he continued to report to the site—clocking in for his courthouse shift, and using his lunch breaks and evenings to help with recovery efforts. He often slept at the courthouse to avoid losing precious time commuting. His commitment and bravery during this time will forever remain a testament to his character and courage.

He was a natural protector—if you were a friend of Thom’s and someone messed with you, you could count on him to have your back. He carried himself with calm strength and quiet confidence. Despite his tough exterior, Thom didn’t like the idea of hurting others. He was proud of his Irish heritage, known for his salty expressions, and lived by the simple yet powerful principle: “Don’t be a jerk.”

Thom had a deep appreciation for classic films, jazz music, and all things vintage—especially from the 1920s. He was a movie buff, an avid Jeopardy! fan, and an aficionado of local and world events. A sharp dresser, he believed in buying quality, always looking your best, and dealing with pain through humor. He had a cinematographer’s eye, an awareness of light and composition, and a passion for photographing street scenes, murals, and unusual corners of Lower Manhattan, where he loved to wander.

At one point, Thom even owned a motorcycle with a sidecar, a nod to his adventurous spirit and sense of style. He enjoyed telling stories, often with self-effacing humor and his signature catchphrases—"whatever" and “no big deal.” He once said he had “a good eye for people,” and those who knew him would agree.

More than anything, Thom wanted the people around him to be happy. He was extraordinarily patient, deeply compassionate, and quietly wise. Even in his final chapter, he became a model for how to face the end of life—with grace, honesty, humor, and the warmth of family. Surrounded by loved ones, he laughed, reminisced, and even had the joy of watching the Macy’s fireworks display one final time.

He was, in every sense, a rock, a lighthouse, a beacon—a man of courage, grace, and unwavering kindness in a terrifying, ever-changing world. Time with Thom left you feeling stronger, seen, and safe. His presence was a gift, and his absence will be deeply felt by all who knew him.

Thom was the cherished brother of Michael (Germain), Arti Elizabeth Roots Ross (Bill), John (Patricia), and the late Patrick (Jacqueline). He was a devoted and loving uncle to Joseph Ross, James Ross, Topaz Ross Kelso, Emma Ross, Sarah Ross, Elizabeth Ross, Melissa Ross, Amy Ross, and Raven Ross Kelso. Thom is predeceased by his parents, John and Mary Ross. His family was his deepest joy, his lifelong bond, and his greatest source of pride.

Visitation will be held on Friday, July 18, 2025, from 2–4 PM and 7–9 PM at O.B. Davis Funeral Homes, 2326 Middle Country Road, Centereach, NY 11720. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Saturday, July 19, 2025, at Assumption BVM RC Church, 33 Crown Acres Road, Centereach, NY 11720. Interment to follow at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, 3442 Route 112, Coram, NY 11727.

In honor of Thom’s memory, let us live as he did—with kindness, courage, curiosity, and style. Let us protect one another, share stories, laugh often, and never forget to look closely—there’s beauty in the details, just as Thom always saw.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Tunnel to Towers Foundation, 2361 Hylan Blvd., Staten Island, NY 10306