Mary Lincoln (Fagan) Handy

October 5, 1946May 8, 2019

Mary Lincoln (Fagan) Handy passed away at her home in Charlotte, NC on May 8th, 2019.

She was the middle child of John H. Fagan and Marion (Breslauer) Fagan who predeceased her.

Mickey is survived by her devoted husband of over 50 years, General John W. Handy, USAF (Ret.), her daughter Mary K. (Tay) Handy, her granddaughters Unity and Zoey Handy; also her sisters Barbara (Susie) A. Sager, Sally Mitchel, Nancy Harrell & her brother John Fagan. Known by her lifelong nickname, Mickey, she loved and lived life to the fullest.

Born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, her family soon moved to Oconomowoc, Wisconsin where she was raised. After graduating from High School, Mickey soon found herself at Marquette Medical School where she studied in the program for training Histologic Technicians. She graduated as a Registered Histologist and was very proud to have maintained her registration for nearly 53 years. She later obtained her real estate license and became licensed in North Carolina and Virginia and was still associated with a local broker at the time of her passing.

Mickey and John met while he was a Second Lieutenant in Air Force Pilot Training. Their immediate love for each other resulted in their marriage on August 31, 1968. They were blessed to celebrate 50 years of marriage last August.

While strongly supporting John throughout his 39 year military career, she eagerly served countless members of the USAF by means of her voluntary leadership on various community boards and organizations so that each base she called home felt her loving touch. As an Air Force spouse, Mickey managed 28 moves around the world while continuing her work in histology and real estate. Those many moves along with enjoying the culture and lifestyle of the people in those countries resulted in a passion for travel after her husband retired from the USAF in October 2005. That passion took them on multiple African Safaris, Alaskan exploring and South Pacific and European adventures. She fully embraced her new-found permanent home in Charlotte, NC finding within her community an amazing group of friends and a church that strongly supported her lifelong faith.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Philip Neri Catholic Church, 292 Munn Rd. E., Fort Mill, SC 29715 on Wednesday, May 15, 2019 at 11 am.

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  • Memorial Service Wednesday, May 15, 2019


Mary Lincoln (Fagan) Handy

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Speedy and Wendy Martin

May 15, 2019

Wendy and I were just devastated to learn of Mickey's passing. Please know that our heartfelt prayers and thoughts are with you. It is our strongest hope that you will be sustained by your many friends, admirers and unforgettable memories of more than half a century with Mickey.
God Bless,
Speedy and Wendy

Melanie Flowe

May 15, 2019

Dear General Handy,
My heartfelt prayers are with you. Mickey was a beautiful, brilliant lady with the gift of generosity of spirit. Hearing the church bells at St.Philip Neri always makes me think of her.
When David was hospitalized, her continued cards of encouragement meant so much.
I will have a mass offered in her memory. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Melanie Flowe

Lance Lord

May 15, 2019

Please accept our deepest sympathies at this sad time. Beccy joins me in remembering all the good times with you and Mickey. You two helped shape the lives of many in our Air Force family. Mickey’s special friendship with all she touched will last long into the future. May God bless you and your family and give you strength in the days ahead. All the best...Lance and Beccy Lord


May 15, 2019

General Handy, Kathy and I were so sorry to hear the terrible news about Mickey! Our thoughts and Prayers are with You and Your Family.... Semper Fidelis and May the Good Lord give You extra strength during this time of sorrow! Fred and Kathy McCorkle

Doug Collins

May 14, 2019

I have known John and Mickey for a number of years. Recently when I became deathly ill, Mickey put me on her prayer list and they sent me greeting cards over and over and over. It was wonderful to feel so connected. She was a wonderful and caring person. Her notes and prayers meant so very much to me. She will be missed.

Nancy Edwards

May 11, 2019

I met Mickey in the 70s when she worked at the same hospital that I did. We became instant friends and spent many hours laughing, talking and having a great time together. She had a million dollar smile and a great laugh that brightened everyone’s day. Even though we did not get to see each other often after she and John got transferred from Little Rock, we stayed in touch and our friendship meant the world to me.

Her love for John, Tay and her grand babies was endless. I loved hearing her talk about them.

Nancy Edwards
Kingwood, TX

Laura and Mike Herring

May 11, 2019

Mike and I had so many fun times with Mickey over the years during their stay at Scott Air Force Base. From our welcoming dinner at our home to introduce them to the people of St. Louis to their goodbye party and many of the game dinners at the crossings in between and in their home. Mickey was always kind, warm and a wonderful friend. Mickey, we will miss you. Love Laura