Merry Selden Abernathy

May 26, 1982April 12, 2013
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Charlotte - Merry Abernathy, 30, formerly of Charlotte, currently of Williamstown, NJ, was tragically slain on April 12th 2013. She was born on May 26, 1982 in Charlotte, NC, and is the daughter of Charlotte Selden Halperin and step-daughter to Richard Halperin. She was preceded in death by her father, Alexander Guion Abernathy.

Merry was a bright, kind hearted person. Her smile was known to light up a room and the hearts of the people who loved her. Her natural mothering abilities were first cherished by her sisters Sarah and Lauren, and later by her only daughter Addison. She recently secured a permanent position at Johnson Matthey Pharmaceutical Materials as an administrative assistant. Merry earned her Paralegal degree from Kings College in Charlotte, NC.

Merry is survived by her daughter, Addison Marie; her mother and step-father, Charlotte and Richard Halperin; her sisters, Sarah and Lauren Halperin; and her grandmothers, Dianna Selden and Carol Halperin. She has ten aunts and uncles and sixteen cousins, and was loved by all.

A service to celebrate her life will be held at 2 pm on Saturday, April 20th, 2013 in the Chapel of Harry & Bryant, 500 Providence Rd., Charlotte. The family will receive friends at the funeral home following the service.

In lieu of flowers, the family would like to encourage everyone to donate to a savings account for the benefit of Addison. Stop by any Wells Fargo branch, and please indicate the donation is for the “Fund for the Benefit of Addison Abernathy”.


  • Memorial Service Saturday, April 20, 2013

Merry Selden Abernathy

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Sally Muse

April 15, 2014

Love you my sweet Merry

Karen Neiger

April 13, 2014

Merry will always be just a memory away. SHE was a light in so many lives.

Donna Gossett

December 14, 2013

Merry, I had so much fun with you when I took care of your sisters! I remember our talks. :-) Your daughter is beautiful! I'm so glad your mom and dad have Addison. You are dearly missed!
Praying for your family. Love you!

Ryan Maycock

December 7, 2013

Merry I miss our talks deeply. You are the sweetest person I know and I will always have your kind words on my mind when times are tough. I miss you

Richard Halperin

May 26, 2013

Hello Mer Bear, I miss you so much. Even now I am fighting back the tears. Your little baby Addi is doing great but it sucks your not. Please know your mother and I will take great care of Addi. I promise to up date you at least once a year on your birthday. Happy 31st. Love dad Rick

Aunt Faith Zaccoli

May 26, 2013

You were an incredible child. So sweet and easy going. I remember my visits with you and will cherish them. I remember your wonderful shoulder massages and your skill for always making me feel special and admired but it was your special way of expressing your peacefulness , never bitter nor angry, that i admired of you. Merry, I will always miss you xxx

Stacey Bucci

May 7, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with beautiful Addison and family. Merry was a bright, sweet, hard working person, who could brighten your day when it wasn't going good. She was always happy at work and when speaking about Addison she would light up. I miss hearing her heals going down the hall. It was a pleasure knowing Merry and her daughter and meeting her family. She will never be forgotten but will be missed terribly.

May 2, 2013

Words cannot express the collective sorrow we feel for your loss. Merry was a respected, hardworking, and dedicated board member of our league. Always cheerful and caring, she dedicated her time for the good of the area's youth. With Addison at her side, she never missed a meeting. She will be sorely missed. May she rest in peace.

Grapevine Youth Wrestling League

April 30, 2013

To the family One day we will awaken to true peace with peacful conditions, in God new world to come only the meek will be on eart we have something to look forward to.

April 29, 2013

Our warmest thoughts and prayers go out to you all. It's not easy dealing with the loss of a loved one but may God get you and your family through this. Her memories will be cherished and live one forever in the hearts of all who knew her.

The Dalton Family - Gurnee,IL